...is afraid of everything (i.e. bugs, thunderstorms, leaving the driveway, the ocean, etc.) everything else is fine, she is a great student good with friends and her sister, but she is extremely terrified of many things and it keeps her from enjoying a lot of things.
2006-06-21 10:51:47 · 34 answers · asked by Christian R 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Don't try to tackle all the fears at once. Try for something easy (The driveway for example) and find out what her fear is and then try to find a way to help her see that she is stronger than the fear.
Don't minimize the fear though. To her it is very real.
2006-06-21 10:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
we all were afraid as kids some more than others, my son used to be scared of bugs so i went online with him and showed him different types of bugs and how where we live the bugs are more scared of you than you are of them. After a few times explaining diff bugs to him he now stomps all the bugs he sees and is no longer scared. Thunderstorms are a tuff one my husband still shivers if the storm is bad enough, i got my son okay by explaining its the angels bowling and the thunder is the ball going down the lane and lightening is good bc it means someone got a strike. The ocean is scary but again explain to her as best you can there truly is nothing to be afraid of. If you can build her confedance to try things (go into the ocean, leaving the driveway, have her hold an ant and as bad as it sounds have her squish it to see she can hurt it more than it can hurt her. Best of luck
2006-06-21 11:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think it is more than a stage then it would be good to take her to a child therapist. Especially if it is so bad that it keeps her from enjoying the regular joys of childhood. My son got into a wasps nest when he was about 4, and that whole summer he was fearful of going outside, but eventually he got over it. If you're daughter continues having such strong fears she may need help.
2006-06-21 10:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This reminds me of myself a few years ago. Paranoid, for no apparent reason. I recently overcame my PTSD which occured when I was involved in a car crash on our way to a burrial. It was horrid, and although it happened over 10 years ago, I have managed to get my driver's license without having to worry as much about crashing.
I also rememeber having my parents come in my room and inzpect it for insects, I wouldnt go to sleep otherwise, we lived in the middle of the dessert.
Anything and everything scared me.
The things that made this worse were incomprehension from others.
Bullying at school and at home on my mom's behalf.
Perhaps you can avoid those two. Be comprehenseive and be patient. It usually takes time to oversome one's fears.
2006-06-21 10:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by geniusflightnurse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it a phobia or something rational? I've got a GREAT phobia -- spiders. I can't explain why I'm so afraid of them... I think it boils down to how they walk. *shudder*
I'll never get over my phobia without the help of a professional, but my fear of public speaking (I'm afraid of people laughing at me) could be overcome with persistant exposure and learning more about it.
Talk to her about WHY she's scared. If it's not a phobia you can talk her and walk her through it. If it is, it's a little beyond just talking.
2006-06-21 11:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by Wowzer-Bowzer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is an excessive worrier. I had to take her to the doctor to get her on some anti anxiety medication. This was not the first thing I did. We had her see her school psychologist, outside counselors. After seeing them they suggested that she be put on something. This isn't just your child be scared it is anxiety. My daughter is 11 and doing much better.
Good Luck Friend
2006-06-21 12:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by misses e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister who is now 11 was diagnosed with a mild form of autism when she was about 9. She was and still is terrified of thunder storms, rain, mainly the weather, but very smart and good with other kids, but a little shy. We got her tested to find she has autism. I dont know. Maybe get your daughter tested?
2006-06-21 11:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to tell her to get over it. My seven year old is the same way and has been for a couple of years now. I reassure her that bugs, storms, ect... are not going to hurt her and that I am here to protect her from anything. It has helped a lot. Good luck.
2006-06-21 10:54:27 · answer #8 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something happened to her in her past life.The way they treat those problems, is to meet them head on, slowly. Get this my little grand daughter, has a play house in the back yard where real spiders live for years. she can tell you everything about them, and when we went to Vegas,what did she get, of all the choices? a big spider. Good luck
2006-06-21 11:12:39 · answer #9 · answered by Pat L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep exposing her to these things little by little so that she gets used to them over time. Make sure it's always done in a positive, fun way, and not just as a test for her to pass.
2006-06-21 10:54:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋