How can I move to apartment with my two children away from violent husband without creating any legal problem.

Question

My husband is being very viloent. I have two children. I want to move to apartment, and I like to take my children with me. What I am afarid that he might accuse me for kidnapping children etc. I am not ready to file the divorce, but I like to take them Legelly, how can I do it?.

Answer 1

Contact 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). This is a national hotline for battered women. You can also always call 911. Police departments have domestic violence divisions that can help too. Or do both. I will say a prayer for you tonight. Good luck! And remember stay strong, you and your kids are worth it. You can do this.

Answer 2

As there is no divorce that means that there is no custody order, either of you are free to take your kids and leave. I am not sure where you live but there are battered women's shelters that will help you even if he has not hit you yet, no one needs to live in fear and your kids are most important. You can get an emergency no contact order, which is different than a restraining order, in the fact that he can not have any contact with you the children or anyone else you have listed on it. the police have started taking domestic violence very seriously. I have to ask if he is getting violent why would you want to stay, if it is economics there are many programs that help domestic violence victims even as far as legal fees. There are churches and agencies set up for that. I also ask are you afraid for your children? if he is so violent that you are fearing him then would it matter if he accused you of abduction, which he can't anyway. You have to do what is best for your kids, if that means taking then in the middle of the day while he is at work or the middle of the night while he is sleeping then that is what you need to do, go to a hospital or church they have social workers there that can aid you in everything from the legalities to finding you a place. The hardest hit or act of violence is the first it will only escalate and get easier from there. I will have you in my prayers and please if not for yourself for your babies get out!!!

Answer 3

It depends upon the state you live in. Your best bet is to call your local sheriff and ask. Where I live, what you plan to do would only be a crime if there was an actual divorce decree and custody had been granted to your husband. The best thing you can do is get away from him and also get a retstraining order. Do NOT tolerate an abusive man.

Answer 4

you are a brave woman. and my heart goes out to you in a very big way. i wish i could help you but i dont know the laws in your country. but i do know you do not have to put up with a partner like this. i live in uk. i was brought up with a father who beat my mum. all through my growing up age. i used to protect my sister every time my dad decided to beat her or hit her with metal bars. it has a big impact on children and the way they grow up and see the world. i was a big example of this life. my sis was too young to remember. she married a man the same as my dad for 9 years she put up with mental physical and sexual abuse. until 1 day he tried to kill her and her children the police came and took her to a battered wifes hostal. it takes a lot of courage to walk away from this. i realy realy hope you can find the way. for your sake and the childrens. and my mum never left my dad they are still together now. a very hard life. please be lucky. and i wish you and your children all the best.

Answer 5

First you have to file a restraining order and a complaint with the police department. You need to get the fact that he is violent on record. You need to get help - try the local YWCA - they have people that can help you sort through this mess.

Answer 6

Legally you would be committing a crime.