i am 16, i have a brother that is 13, he is the worlds bigest brat. he crys like a 3 year old when he does not get his way, he never does what he is told, the only chore he has in the house (that is his and only his, some times we ask him to do other things and he wont) is to keep the laundry going (a family of 6 has a lot of laundry), he is mean to his little sister all the time. my parents dont care any more, they used to try to make him obeyand stop but they gave up over a year ago. i have tryed to talk to them and they just wont do any thing about him. i am 16, i have a job, get much better grades, am a teen leader (in church, 4-H, 4-H garden club, AWANA, ect), i cook a lot for the family, i have awards for my cooking on the state level, i clean the house, i do alost every thing, (my older bro helps out when he is not at work but other than that i do every thing around the house), all while he sits on his butt waching tv. and i cant do any thing about it. help????
2006-06-21 10:25:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
for one thing i dont get to hang out with my freinds, i am to busy working here because he wont do any thing at all and when i am not working here i am at wendys (my job). i only see my freinds before and after church for a few minits and then its time to go do more work. i wish i could move out, but i cant on my own and my older bro does not want to. i have had about as much as i can take. i just dont know what to do. this has been going on for 5 years, it will not get better with time, if it was going to get better with time it would have happened by now.
2006-06-21 16:17:32 · update #1
Well thank you for being the more Christlike person in trying to do it all yourself and not giving up because your brother doesn't want to do the work. But it does need to change because your brother should be helping too. Tell him that charity is a virtue and that charity brings happiness. I believe he would be more happy if he helped those around him . . . and himself. Maybe reward him for helping out with something sometimes. Give him incentives to do better.
2006-06-21 10:32:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your brother probably has his own reason for doing these things, and although you may think his reasons are wrong, the best thing you can do in most situations like this is sit down and talk. If you don't think that will work the next best thing to do is to try to become closer to him, hang out more often, even though you are probably saying "hell no!", I have learned through experience that punishment never solves anything, in fact, most the time punishment makes things worse. So take my advice, and if it doesn't work, he'll suffer the consequences instead of you.
2006-06-21 10:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by Bedam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see if I've got this right,
Parents have given up control
You can't legally beat the brat out of him
He's an immature 13 year old
You're a mature 16 year old
Move out. You and your older brother who's working can get a nice place together and leave the problem behind.
2006-06-21 10:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by Pisces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately he sounds like he's going through a rebellious phase and it will pass with time and maturity.
Offer to do something fun with him - like go out for ice cream or movie once a week to get him out of the house. If he feels that he's getting closer to you, his attitude might change for the better towards the whole family. 13 is a tough age - not quite a teen yet, not quite a child anymore. He's probably just feeling alienated and awkward with the whole puberty thing.
2006-06-21 10:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by Too Silly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea its tough being in a big family. a lot of the work always winds up being put on one or two people and its tough cause nowadays a lot of parents work. personally i have four siblings and a lot of the responsibility will fall on me as well. im 16 and my younger brother and sister tend to do nothing. so i kinda do a lot of stuff around the house my siblings do like nothing. i tell them to help and stuff but normally they dont my parents will sometimes tell them to do crap and they still wont listen but you know sometimes you just gotta deal as long as he doesnt get abusive or anything i dont know that there is anything else you can do but keep talking to your parents and try to talk to him
2006-06-21 10:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by crazi B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask if he needs to talk about somthing that is bug him he 13 and to him ur the big brother that looks and does every thing just right. ur smart and u have things to prove it so him u get ur parents time. so he act out to get some kind recaton from some one any one even picking on his sister. try talking him just give him a moment were it all about him when he stuff off his mind. i hope it helps
2006-06-21 10:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by D.A. O' Dell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being the parent... all those things your parents should be doing. All you can do for your brother is love him and be there for him. Quit trying to be the parent and worry about your life and what you need to do. Good luck.
2006-06-21 10:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try treating him as a 16 year old, let him hang around with ur friends and all coz mayb he looks at u as an idol.
its just a suggestion, no harm in trying
2006-06-21 10:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by cihicool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a lil bro that is well exactly like yours but yea I just lock him in his room and leave him there till he wants out and then I make him help! if you need any more help IM me
2006-06-21 10:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by leopardgurlfreak18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him and the rest of the family together to discuss this behavior. and that not every one can sit and be waited on hand and foot by your own family for petes sake. let him know he is not the only person living in that house. and he has to understand that you cannot pull his weight.
2006-06-21 10:32:25 · answer #10 · answered by Mika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋