I went on a field trip w/my son's class.Not one of the other moms spoke to me why?

Question

For my daughter it was the best day of the yr. but every time i would try to talk to the other mothers they seemed uninerested.this was the first time I participated in the whole school yr. this coming school yr. I would like to do it again but i'm having second thoughts any advise? Idid'nt show it but it really hurt my feelings.

it was my daughters class. but i have experianced the same thing with my son's.

Answer 1

I had similar issues with my eldest daughter. I had her when I was just 20 and all of the other mothers kind of ignored me. I would be super friendly and involved but it didnt really do any good. They were all at least 10 years older than me and I guess they just didnt approve of me.

I had my twins at 26 and Im more the same age as the other mothers. I do the same thing and I get a lot better of a response.

Women in some enviroments do get jealous and let the green eyed monster rule the day. Dont let them hinder you from taking part in your childs class. The kids are only young once and when they get older you wont have as many chances to be involved. Be nice, be involved, and if they dont like you then its their loss.

You made your daughters day and that's all that mattered..although I know how much it hurt.

Good Luck to you.

Answer 2

This is pretty late in the school year for you to begin participating. Maybe the other's didn't realize you were a mother. If you are young, they may have thought you were some other relation or a babysitter maybe.

Don't take these things so personally. Very often we get what we expect in this world. Next time expect everyone to be warm and friendly and you do the same. You sound like such a sweetie with these questions. Sometimes it just takes patience.

Peace!

Answer 3

Why would it hurt your feelings? You were there to participate with your son/daughter (?)- not become part of the mommy gang. Those other mothers obviously felt threatened by you for some reason. So What. Be the best mom you can be for your child and being part of the school life is something your child will remember forever.

Answer 4

I know it feels like you know all the kids in the class from hearing about them from your kids, but you have to remember, even though you feel like you know them and by extension, their parents, you don't. Because your kid is friends with someone, doesn't make you friends with the other kids' parent. Its like being at a cocktail party where you don't know anyone. You make polite 'how are you' chitchat, but that is it. If you made small talk and they totally ignored you, then they are maybe rude bitches, which is a possibility also.
The important thing is that the kids had a good time, and that would be your reason for doing it again next year. Plus, some of the other parents might thaw, you never know.

Answer 5

Maybe it is because you havn't participated all year in your childs school life. This would still be no reason to snob you but remember you are there for your child not to worry about other mums. Focus maybe on your child (is it your son or daughter you've lited it as both) happiness. Try to become a bit more involved in the school. Get to know these mums a bit better. Invite the kids home for a play and invite the mums in for coffee.

Answer 6

Its just a guess, but if thats what you in your avatar thingy, Id have to say that these women are probably not as attractive, and maybe just happen to be grade A b--ches. Women, I'm sure as you may know are very catty, comparing one to another, (ugh, she's such a b--ch, blah blah blah...) Or even if these women are as attractive, and since you said this is your first time going, these women see you as an outsider, and dont want to let you in their little click. Sounds like BS middle school immaturity on their behalf, you know? Its strange how if it was all men, everyone would have been cool, you know? If I was you, I wouldnt worry about it, it was your kid's greatest day, thats whats most important. Next field trip you can go on, go, an F-- them. If any of them make a comment to you, just tell them to go shove their head up a horses a$$, and say it with a smile.

Answer 7

If they are stay at home moms and you're not, they will put the squeeze on you because they are jealous. If you are a full time mom but just don't go on trips often same deal. Some people just never get more mature than than they were at 16. If I knew a little more about you (nothing personal) I could nail it.

Answer 8

It was the same way for me. I went on a class trip to another city and none of the other moms spoke to me all day. I think it is because I didn't know them. They were very anti social. So I don't think that there is any thing wrong with us. Continue to be involved with your kids education. Don't worry about other people.

Answer 9

Perhaps they just don't know you yet. Don't let them run you off your kids are more important than the other mothers. In my experience the more you show up and participate the better things become, you know it's the old story of " I care more than you do" that these parents with nothing else to do have.

Answer 10

Did they speak English ? Maybe it was too noisy to hear yourself think ( with a class or busload of kids ) . Not being present -the only possibilities that come to mind are : maybe you did not appear friendly ( did you smile ?) ; and how were you dressed ( did you dress like a chaperon or like you were out for the evening )? Sometimes the way we present ourselves to others , says more than words can .Also, be the first to initiate a conversation .