What sort of things would you have liked to have discussed prior to getting married?
2006-06-21 09:58:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
That we didn't discuss what "name" would be used during the ceremony. My husband goes by his middle name and hates his first name. So imagine my surprise (it's videotaped and highly comedic) when my Pastor called him by his FIRST name.
Other than that, we knew everything beforehand. We knew that a marriage was forever, how we'd handle if one of us was unhappy, that we wanted kids and that we wanted me to stay at home with any children.
Maybe there's a good checklist of things to talk about before marriage.... That would be cool.
2006-06-21 10:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in that situation with my previous marriage. But for marriage number two, we talked about absolutely everything before we got married. I made it a point to bring up every possible situation I could think of (like money, bank accounts, step-children, having children of our own, general child rearing, discipline of children, specific household chores, work ethic, family, friends, etc.) so that we could try to avoid our previous mistakes from our first marriages. As a result, we are both very happy and we haven't had anything to argue about yet (it's been two years).
2006-06-21 17:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by lala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. I'm mean things come up in life. That you don't expect so you don't discuss them till you are married.
2006-06-21 11:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by nay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
setting some ground rules for our children which i have over looked at times but doing somewhat better but that's not enough i wanted my family to become true Christians which we have discussed a few wks. back but will be hard cause i have a 10 yr. old & hes already set in his ways & i find its really hard to reach my son in this matter.
2006-06-21 10:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by mannygoody_2shoes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL MY FIANCE AND I HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR ALMOST 2 YEARS. WE ARE GETTING MARRIED IN SEPTEMBER. WHEN WE DESIDED TO GET MARRIED, WE TALKED ABOUT ALL THE FINANCES, IF WE WANTED CHILDREN. ALL KINDS OF STUFF LIKE THAT. WE EVEN DISCUSSED WHY WE LOVE EACH OTHER.
2006-06-21 18:31:21 · answer #5 · answered by Trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. That's why God invented premarital counseling. You get a very deep discount on your wedding license in this state if you have a church or a family counselor sign off on it.
2006-06-21 11:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but I wish I would have believed him when he said his mom is nuts. She has tried more than once in the last 12 years to break us up. Fortunately we are a team and it hasn't worked. I thought he was exaggerating how crazy she is, he wasn't.
2006-06-21 10:38:30 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u both want or not want kids? that's a big one. how will u raise them. a bigger issue than u think. spankings vs no violence discipline, what religion, if any, will they be if ur a diff religion than him. i wish i had discussed where we'd live. I'm from louisiana. he's from cali, where i met him.
2006-06-21 12:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by jenniferb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we had to answer alot of questions for our pastor before marriage,i thought i ask all the right ones.but it never dawned on me to ask him if he would forsake us and our marriage over a computer be careful!THEY TEND TO TURN LUV AND MARRIAGE INTO LIES AND DECEIT!MARRIED ALMOST 14!$ YRS NOT SURE I WILL MAKE IT TO THE 14 !$ YR MARK!!!good luck
2006-06-21 10:09:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I would have known what a slob my hubby is. I knew that he was messy, but I didn't know he could live knee-deep in his own filth. Ugh.
2006-06-21 12:04:41 · answer #10 · answered by Angela R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋