I have dated my boyfriend for a while now and I know in my heart that it is time and he knows it is time, but my family seems to think that it is the wrong time to move in with him. I don't understand why they think that? I just don't know what to do because I love him and he loves me but we are torn in what to do. If we move in together then we will be happy, but my family will not be happy....I know they want me to be happy but I'm just torn in what to do....Any suggestions??
2006-06-21 09:56:16 · 6 answers · asked by Jolliegurl04 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When is the right time to shack up with your bf? The night of the day that you two are married. What do you think moving in will prove? If you are as sure as you say (and he is too) then just get married. My son's gf wanted to do this too, we sat down and had a chat, in the end she did not move in, however 18 months they were married. They have been married for 9 months and couldn't be happier. Please ask yourself why you want to move in together (are you looking for cheaper housing, get a same sex roommate) Are you looking for convenient sex? (poor reason) You looking to just play house? This is how I look at it. If you were going to go bungee-jumping and walked up the tower and hung over the edge and didn't jump... you didn't go bungee-jumping. That is what shacking up is like, your not really married. You wonder why your parents are unhappy about the thought of you two playing grown up? I'll tell you why... they are disappointed in you. Is this how they raised you? Do you think if you shack up together and decide it isn't working that breaking up is going to be any easy to break up? Believe me legally it will be a nightmare. Listen to your parents, they have your best interest at heart.
2006-06-21 10:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family want you to be happy, but not move in with a guy who is not your HUSBAND. This is what makes a big difference with a relationship when it comes to being responsible adults. If you two are that in love, then this shouldn't be a problem before you move under the same roof.
2006-06-21 10:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if you are over 18 it is your call, but keep in mind, if you move in with him and it doesn't work, can you go back with your parents? Most relationships don't make it past that step because it is a big step. If you think you guys are ready for that move, then why not, unless your family is religious and doesn't want you being intimate with him before marriage.
2006-06-21 10:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Sarah Bear ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking them why they think that and don't take offense... listen to what they have to say. However, if you are of legal age to do that then you have to get on with your life. Only you can make you happy, not your family. Good luck.
2006-06-21 09:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the quickest way to end a relationship.
2006-06-21 10:03:11 · answer #5 · answered by slim146000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u have a job and he has a job then do it but please be on birth controlled.
2006-06-21 10:01:25 · answer #6 · answered by Simone D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋