My sex life sucks. I have a seriuos relationship, but I think he is bored with me sexually.?

Question

He says we don't have to have sex all the time, but we only have sex a few times a month.

Answer 1

If he isn't satisfying you sexually then find someone who can. Trust me it will only get less and less. Try being around him nude more. Or maybe try something a bit more fun, http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0962962813?v=glance

If you can't drum up his enthusiasim with seductions like the ones in 101 nights then maybe talk sex more often. Try keeping sex talk just talk, no pressure to preform. Talk about fantasies, ask him to tell you his fantasies that he thinks you might be offended by. Communication is the number one key to sexually satisfying relationship. If you can't discuss topics like preformance anxiety, jealousy, fantasy, or sexual expectations. then you will never have as healty a sex life as you can. Maybe suggest going to a strip club together

Answer 2

You dont have to have sex all the time but when you do have sex make him enjoy it so much that he will want it more often, dress-up, give him a strip tease show and then go to bed he will really want you then. Sex has to be fun and interesting for both parties if not then its useless, and if you want it and he dosent buy you a vibrator and use it in front of him, that will surely get him excited.

Answer 3

NO dont fall for that, he says a few times a month... which prolly means two times a week.. or whenever he is sprung!!!! and sex isnt everything! no matter what ppl say the world doesnt revolve around sex so just chill with the sex thing

Answer 4

maybe mix it up a bit in the bedroom. try new things and such. also keep in mind that some people's sexual needs differ from others. and to be quite frank it will take a lot of work to keep the relationship going if say you value sex a lot and he doesn't. it is important to be somewhat compatible sexually. hope that helps. good luck

Answer 5

A man is saying this??? No - never! Not on this planet!

Dump him!!!! Or, if you must not really dump him, change the way you have sex - turn him on in a different way - get dirty and nasty. Perhaps, he has lost interest in you and your relationship is now just a convenient arrangement. Like if he doesn't have a car and he gets to use yours, or if you are living together and he can't afford his own place.

Answer 6

Communicate to him that you feel your needs arent getting met. If he says to you that he still doesnt want to do it or he feels its too much, then honey you need to leave him alone because he is either liking somebody else or already sleeping with somebody else. if he is willing to give it a chance at spicing things up a bit, then go for it. The only way you'll find out if he wants to be intimaate with you or not is if you TALK about it! Communication is the key!!!!!!

Answer 7

This sounds like he's found someone outside. Look for the signs, and you'll find them if you know your man. Don't confront him right off, just try to spice up your love life first. If it don't work then ask him if he wants whoever he has on the side or you. Oh Yea, be prepared for him to deny it, and make your decision from his actions.

Answer 8

Are you bored? or do you think he is? Grab an issue of Cosmopolitan and try the sex tricks they recommend to try and spice up your sex life. Or get some toys!

Answer 9

Wow, a man saying he doesn't want sex all the time? Spice things up a little, or find a new man.

Answer 10

the flames only goes out if the fire burns down, and you don't let it. Do something new try litting candles , putting on something sexy. Use things like strawberries, peaches, etc thins he enjoys eating. Change positions instead of the same laying down, and from the back.