What have all the courteous men gone?

Question

Everytime I ride a crowed bus , I see young able bodied men sitting while ladies are standing., some older woman and occasionally a pregnant woman. I find this rude and disrespectful. It seems to cross all race lines too. I often find myself almost falling down when the bus comes to a sudden stop while so guy has his *** sitting down. I had the pleasure one time though of slugging a guy in the face with my heavy bag when I was thrown backwards. I don't care anything about women's lib and that stuff, there are just some things that shouldn't change.

please note that i am no women's libber. I never asked for equality. I believe a woman's place is in the home. I don't like being stereotype with the femiinist b****

Answer 1

the feminists burnt them!!!

Answer 2

Women's lib changed everything, including riding on crowded buses. Did women really want to be treated equally in every aspect, or did they just want to make as much money as men do? I think the younger generations of men who are brought up to treat women equally will treat them equally in any situation, including not giving up their seat to a girl on a bus. After all, they're equal, right? Why should the guy have to stand while the girl, who is equal to him, gets to sit and relax? (That is not to say that a younger guy OR girl should not give up his or her seat for a pregnant woman or an elderly person. Respect is respect.)
My point is that I believe that equality of the sexes is a double-edged sword. Granted, there are still some chivalrous men and traditional women, and there are men who would like to open a door or give up his seat for a woman on a bus but won't because he'll get his head bitten off for 'treating her as a lesser person.'
It must be confusing for men, as I'm sure there are plenty of them who are chivalrous at heart but they don't really know how to act because they don't want to offend some woman they've never even met by being nice to her. I feel sorry for the guys and I think that women have gotten what they asked for.

(again, this excludes those who are pregnant, elderly, or otherwise deserving of a seat)

just my thoughts

Answer 3

There are some still left, just very few. Its a very rare quality in a man when he can still be courteous. I think because of the whole feminist movement thing courtesy from men went out gradually. You can't blame them since a lot of us are trying to be equal to men. Besides they're probably just as tired as you even more so. Come on, there are nice courteous guys out there and I'm just sorry that you're not meeting any of them along the way. Maybe one day when you least expect it.

Answer 4

So, as a woman, you want equal treatment but you don't want to be treated equally. Actually, I think it has more to do with urbanization than with women's lib. It's so much easier to look out after your own interests at the expense of others when you don't know and may never see those others again. Sad, but true.

Answer 5

Thank the women's lib movement. Haven't you heard? We're all equal now. So why is a woman any more deserving than a man to be sitting down? Call Betty Friedan, tell her you want your pedestal back. Good Luck!!

Answer 6

I feel a large part of the problem is where you live. I live in a large Midwestern city and very rarely do I see this type of activity. But ultimately I think it has everything to do with how you were raised. Today's society is so impersonal that any interaction in a social setting has become all about the individual and less about the group.

Answer 7

Girl, I have no idea. I think that most men are intimidated by the other men who see it as a flaw or some sort of weekness. I wish chivalry still existed but it is getting extinct. All boys care about now-a-days is themselves. I think it has a lot to do with girls just throwing themselves at them without them having to make any effort.

Answer 8

I save my chivalry for my family and friends. Someone who appreciates the deeds done by a gentleman. I have too many times been given a dirty look or scowled at for being a gentleman. Yep feminazis have destroyed the acts of random kindness. Good luck.

Answer 9

After years of women telling us they don't need help, or by just being treated rudely by most everybody you are polite to, we finally got the idea to keep it to ourselves.

I am most always polite to people and even though I probably go 49 out of 50 instances without acknowledgment, much less thanks, I decided long ago that I'm going to be polite and helpful for my own gratification, and NEVER expect reciprocation of any sort.

Answer 10

The same place the non demanding, non manipulative, non handing an ultimatum every 30 minutes women have gone.

Answer 11

I agree with you. I don't think chivalry needs to die, but I think the children of baby boomers weren't necessarily brought up knowing what's courteous. I don't think it's necessarily their fault.

I think that most women appreciate chivalry. I offer chivalrous acts as a sign of respect, not as a sign that I think they're weaker than I am. I think it's just a matter of upbringing.