We have been together for 2 years and 6 months but we do not live together. Should we wait til we have moved in together or even after we are married?
2006-06-21 09:00:41 · 17 answers · asked by latechgal2004 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
We have been together for 2 years and 6 months but we do not live together. Should we wait til we have moved in together or even after we are married?
EDIT
His apartment alloys dogs and yes we both live at home still. We are in college and he is in a duplex with a nice bad yard and I am in a townhouse type apartment with little space.
2006-06-21 09:07:17 · update #1
If YOU want to get a dog, do it. (If HE wants to get a dog, he should do it.) If, later, you get married, your dog will be used to him and it shouldn't be a problem when he moves in after marriage.
Whatever you do, do NOT get a dog "together" until you are married. It is a commitment one of you can make alone, but would cause too many problems if it was to be "our" dog instead of "your" dog.
However, by all means include him in the choosing process, if you plan to have a future with him, and if you value his opinion.
Again, get a dog if YOU want one, and get it when you are able to care for one.
After seeing your additional details, I must say please wait. Wait until you are in a descent enough home for the type of dog you want, and make sure you can afford the regular vet bills plus unexpected vet bills, food, and shelter. It might be a good idea to just concentrate on college for now.
Good luck.
2006-06-21 09:12:13 · answer #1 · answered by Jolie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is so much a matter of whether you are living together, married or not married, but more about time that will be available for the both of you to spend with the dog. College life can sometimes be hectic, not to mention if you work as well as go to college, then add time you two will want to spend out on dates. To me I think it would best be answered with the answer to the question do we have time to give to a pet at this time.
2006-06-22 02:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by concerned aunt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you propose to both own and take care of the dog if you don't live together? Do either of you still live wth your parents? If so, how do thye feel about this? Do your apartments (both) allow dogs? If you have to ask when to get a dog, you're probably not ready. But you should definitely be living together if you want to invest in a dog together.
2006-06-21 16:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I agree with one answerer here.. if YOU want a dog, you get it and therefore, it will be yours IF IF IF you were to break-up.
I have heard of too many relationships ending that have been 'married' or 'common-law' and like children the dog is stuck in the middle - or even worse than children for they are sent to the shelters...
If you want a dog, get one, but it will be yours.. if you want. If not, then wait till married- and wait till after you have children (depending on when you think you want to start). Again, I have many friends who got dogs just before they got pregnant, and 90% of the time, the dog suffers for the mom and dad and baby are too busy for them. Puppies are puppies for a long time and they require work, time and patience.. yes, cute as they are, but think realistically.
that is my opinion using the information you shared with us here...
2006-06-21 22:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by Sam_I_Am 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If YOU want a dog then YOU get a dog. My friends lived together and now she's stuck with a dog after the breakup. If you get married... then the TWO of you can get a dog together.
2006-06-21 16:15:09 · answer #5 · answered by ease_e_goin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adopting a dog is like adopting a child. Make sure you are both ready for the commitment. Lots of LOVE and walks. I think you should wait until you have a commitment to each other and then you can make a commitment to an animal.
2006-06-21 16:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a dog after you are married and around the time you think you're ready to have children. You'll figure a lot of things out fast.
2006-06-21 16:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by Neerdowellian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are both ready to commit to properly taking care of the dog. The dog won't care if you are married or live together, he/she will care that it get's fed, walked, played with and not left behind.
2006-06-21 16:04:10 · answer #8 · answered by dolphinchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably best to wait until you get a place together.
But why do you need to wait on him? If you want a dog, get one.
2006-06-21 16:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont buy a pet together untill you are married. If you want a pet get one yourself. Then if it turns out that you dont stay together, you wont loose your boyfriend and your dog too.
2006-06-21 16:05:25 · answer #10 · answered by tw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋