30 yr old female, never married, no kids?

Question

Do men view me in a negative view because I'm 30 and still single. It seems like they always say, "WHY are you still single?" as to say, there must be something wrong with me...

Answer 1

Honestly, I don't think many are viewing you negatively. And if a few are, you shouldn't remotely care. I'm 30 and single, never have had children, and am thankful as all hell. Why? Well, I'm the victim of having almost married someone who would have ruined my life. And to have raised kids by this man that would have inevitably been morons via genetics, would have made me feel as though I'd let them down in some way. Yes, sure, there are those out there that say, by yada yada age you should have...then proceed to list a bunch of standard, vanilla crap items that may or may not be what you even want. Things happen as they happen, and the way I see it, you should be so very thankful that you're alive, healthy and wise enough to have not settled for less than what you deserve because of what a few people say - believe me, that few is serious a minority, and made up of blithering idiots. Out of the many friends that I have that did marry before 30, only a couple are truly happy. The rest are pondering what they gave up to be married w/children at the age people told them they needed to be. The much more important question to ask is...are you happy? I mean, yes, I know, being with someone worthwhile is great, but with or without a man, you will always be you, and you've heard it before, but unless you are really, truly happy with who you are, you're only going to attract men who are seriously without and are only capable of causing you harm, thus pushing the age you DO finally find Prince Charming back even further. Do yourself, your future hubby, and those future rugrats, a big favor and just relax about that age issue. You'll be just fine, regardless of your age. Most people are typical, and they can therefore pair off easily. It takes a while for the truly superior to get theirs - this be life! Enjoy yours!

Answer 2

I'm not sure what men think. I'm in my 30's, never married, no kids, not unattractive. Sometimes I think that maybe people think I'm a lesbian but I am NOT. I've had several long-term relationships. I've been engaged twice but it just didn't work out. Had I gotten married, I would be twice divorced, by now!! Is that more accepted than me being smart and staying single?? I personally think so. Don't worry about it too much, I think it just means that we have standards and want to find the right man before we jump into a marriage. Enjoy the single life...I am!! Good luck!

Answer 3

I am a 30 year old guy and I am still single. So no I don't view you negatively. Your probably a lot like me. I just haven't met the right one yet. There is no time limit on this you know. Don't ever settle to just be with someone. You're worth more than that. All the best to you.

Answer 4

I'm 45, male, never been married, no kids, i don't smoke anything either.

No, your not viewed as different . You just have not found someone in your life that values your sense of Trust and your sense of People.

Nobody has given you Trust, Honesty, Respect, Caring, Sharing, a sense of Humor, Appreciation, and Unconditional love either.

In this life we seem to have so many friendships but few genuine friendships.

It takes time to find the right person. I'm still looking. There is always hope and it's not about the money either.

Most people out there are motivated solely on money. That is disturbing and creepy at the same time. That is one heck of a good reason to stay single, i say.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with being 30 and single. Perhaps you chose to live life differently, for example, your working on your profession, education, yourself, etc or you don't want to settle for just anyone. A lot of people jump, specially young people (25 and under), to get married, but don't really consider what they have to offer to a spouse or their kids (if they choose to have any) in the future.

OR

Let's give them men the benefit of the doubt. Maybe you are such a catch that it's hard for them to believe that a man hasn't captured your heart.

Answer 6

I don't think so. There is nothing wrong with being 30 years old and still single. Honestly, I doubt very much that there is anything wrong with you. Everybody does things in their own time and at their own pace. As long as you are happy and content with yourself and being single, then let men think whatever they want to think, because you have every right to be single, if that's what you want, and you have every right to get married when you want to, if that's what you want. Take care of yourself and have a nice day.

Answer 7

I was 38, still single no kids. It was my choice.

I've heard from my male friends that they get the same plus the connotation that they're gay.

You can always ask them why they've been divorced or through so many girl friends as if to say there is something wrong with him.

It's none of their business why you're still single and you can tell them so.

And if it's grandma or great aunt so-and-so who keeps asking when you're going to have a wedding, ask them when you can go to their funeral. That will usually shut them up.

Answer 8

I would say it is not viewed in a negative way, but many men in their 30's and 40's prefer women that are younger. It is unfair, but not all men view 30's are over the hill. No kids is a POSITIVE. Go out, have fun, and go to different places. Dating is hell, but it is a fun hell.

Answer 9

Nothing is wrong with you, most guys would be surprised to meet a woman that is 30 single and carries no baggage, they would love it!!!!! You just havent found the one, it takes longer for some then others. I dont think that is bad at all, would you rather get divorced or hold out for the real one? I would rather hold out. I say good for you and keep doing what your doing. NEVER SETTLE!!! Your worth more than that!

Answer 10

don't listen 2 what they say, your single because u haven't found the wright guy yet not because there's something wrong with u, some people find the wright person when they r 20, some when they r 30, everyone is different, u choose not 2 b single when u find the wright guy and when your ready, when u want 2, not when everyone else thinks u should.