MY wife hurts me with her words,What Should i do ?

Question

We loved & got married(arranged) , but after marriage she completely changed, very adomant, often talks very mean words,hurts me wit her words ,very suspicious,& bad part is treats my mom like anything. vat shd i do? Note - iam in good job, got a kid & blessed with a good position - she is at home.

Answer 1

Sounds like she is bored with staying at home. Cabin Fever. She needs to take up a hobby, go have fun with her friends, or get a job.

Answer 2

Sit her down take her by the hands, look into her eyes and tell her how you fell . Let her know that she is verbally abusing you which is the same as physical abuse. Give her all the good qualities about yourself and the good things that you bring to the family. Also, find out what it truly is what is making her unhappy so the both of you can work on it. She is probably insecure and have some personal issues, and could be in denial. If this continues seek a marriage counselor. There has been cases where the woman is actually jealous of the man but still she dates and even marries him. Much love and good luck.

Answer 3

"Arrainged marriages" hardly ever work,because the parents of the parties envolved have done this,for reasons of their own. I would think is would be hard to live with someone you have'nt had the opportunity,to get to know better. Your wife is probably felling pressure,because she may not have been ready to get married,and for that matter,to someone who (like you),she does'nt know very well. It's a possibility,that It was your mother,who initiated the marriage, (whatever your customs may be), your mother chose her to be your wife. Now that there is a child in this marriage,then it's time for you and her,to talk about what's bothering HER!. I'm sure you've grown to love her,because you show these fellings in your question. (Then again),because she is a "stay-at-home-" mom,she may be wanting to go to work or back to school,to future her education. Whatever is bothering her,then it would be a good idea,to take the child,to visit the grandparents for a day or two,and sit down with your wife,and have a heart to heart discussion as to what's bothering her. She will eventually let you know,and this is when the problem can be solved. (Good luck!)

Answer 4

Here is an old southern saying: You can pull a nail out of a fence, but it still leaves a hole.

In other words, even though you apologize for anything you say that hurts someone, and they forgive you, the hurt is always there.

Get some counseling and let the professional tell her how much it hurts you.

Answer 5

Talk to her. Tell her how you feel. Ask her how she feels and why she has been acting like that. She could just be acting this way because of something that happened to her in the past. All you have to do is sit and talk. If she still is treating you like this, get in her face and tell her. Tell her how you feel and what you plan to do if she keeps treating you like this. Give her bounderies! Let her know how horrible she has been treating you. And if she still is acting like that, take a vacation. Go to your parents house, to a hotel for a few days, or a paridise all to yourself. But don't cheat on your wife. You love her and don't do anything stupid. Another thing you can do is take your kid with you or send your wife on a vacation all to herself. Try it and see what happens.

Answer 6

Hey, I could be your wife. I have a mouth sharp as a razoe, and I don't mean to use it. But when I am stressed, unhappy, pressured, I snap. This does not make it all right and I am wrong for it. I love my husband, but he has ADHD, is very irresponsible, forgetful and hard to deal with. Most he cannot help but some he can. I get frustrated and say things I don't mean. I hate it when I do. Likely your wife hates herself when she syas things that hurt you, too. Have you told her how y ou feel? Asked her what is makingher unhappy? Mind you, she is wrong, like I am, for doing this, but there may be something that needs changing - in both of you, to keep themarriage safe.

Answer 7

I feel that because you two are married you both decided to make a life time committment to one another. But if you can not take it anymore then I feel that you should leave.(try to work it out first by letting her know your plans to leave if things don't look up) and if you child is at the age then explain to him the situation in a way that he will understand but wont hate you for leaving. Let your child know that they are loved by you no matter what. Good Luck!

Answer 8

well....unfortunately the arranged part is probably a big par of the problem. If you don't treat her that way.... just refuse to let her treat you that way ! Be a man..... grow a pair. Arranged or not,I would be making plans to be O U T !

Answer 9

Your name says it all: Lovable Idiot

Grow a backbone and stop letting your self be pushed around. Fight fire with fire, if she comes at you with personal negative attacks, ask her how long is she going to wear those pants now that she has outgrown them, ask her why her boobs are overzealously following the rules of gravity, stuff that you know will get to her.

If that does not work, then leave her, she is probably cheating on you anyway.

Answer 10

wow...generally words hurt more than physical abuse....try not to talk to her in the same way as that only causes more friction...tell her how you feel ...don't yell....and keep it about you ...don't play he said you said BS.......tell her that the way she talks to you is making you feel bad....tell her that you care about her and want happiness in both your lives.....arranged marriages are a recipe for hell.....this causes resentment or abuse...if she married you for legal reasons that is probly what she wanted and does not need you any longer if this is the case i would divorce her....watch your asset's also...if this is yours and her child i would work on the marriage though be careful that word arranged keeps jumping out at me.....good luck.....