But in the past I had oral sex with few girlfriends. Do I need to tell this to my girl. Or should I hide it from her forever?
2006-06-21 08:40:55 · 45 answers · asked by Aniroll 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honesty is important in a relationship. Some things are better not mention especially if you know finding out will hurt someone else.If she asks about past loves tell her that you has some sexual experence.But unless she asks I wouldnt volunteer that nformation.THe past belongings in the past
2006-06-22 19:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by prettycoolchick38 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
how can you sit there & say you love this gal & soon will be married? sounds like to me you dont even know what the word love means its nothing but lust & your not quite sure who you want to spend your life with at this point how can you love any body when your to busy shifting back & forth from one gal to the next? marriage is not the answer here you need some time alone & think things through before you jump the gun or you will find your self all alone which will happen anyways if you continue on being unfaithful to her & the truth will always come out no matter how long you keep lieing to her you are a disgrace to her as well as the others you are using & yes you are a user only out to get whatever you want & when you want you need help sorry if i affended you but you are lacking morals big time.
2006-06-21 08:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by mannygoody_2shoes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently got married too, and even though my husband doesn't believe me, he was my first, I had other sexual experiences and I told him all the details of all my moments and he told me some of them before marriage and the rest during the time we've been together. Even though he has always been on the jealous side he believes and trust me more now. He says that he knows anything that has happened or anything that will happen, I will be the one to tell him and that's been one of the better choices I've made, keep everything on the table, and don't be shocked if she tells you a few surprises herself. You will be sleeping with her, eating with her, she'll know all your bad habits and when you are lying, brushing your teeth along side her, getting stomach flu's, backaches and maybe a few operations along the way. If you don't tell her now, you will eventually. Congrats on the wedding!
2006-06-21 08:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by T-girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not something to hide, but nor it is something to announce randomly. If the topic of past relationships comes up, the discuss it. Unless you're marrying a saint, she's probably had past relationships where "things have been done". If you're curious, and if this past sex-life of yours is bursting to come out, initiate such a conversation yourself. But don't interrogate.
You already know that you love her. So, her past relationships shouldn't matter to you, right? If she feels the same about you, then it's won't matter to her. What, is she going to think that all those past women will come back to hunt her? You're marrying her, not them.
2006-06-21 08:47:27 · answer #4 · answered by kotenok 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the type of relationship u both have if it's one where u share everything that u both have done in the past then why not, unless u told her that she was the first girl u did it to, then that would mean that u r lying, and honestty is the best in all situations. if it is that u both keep things that r in the past in the past then there is no need to stir up the past, it's ur past, we've all done somethings that we probably regret doing but that does'nt mean that every relationship that comes along we have to talk about the past,, it is always best to move on and forget!
good luck"
2006-06-21 08:46:26 · answer #5 · answered by zkimmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh? Did you have oral sex with them while you were engaged or dating? If so, your marriage is starting off really well, isn't it? Or are you unsure if you have an STD or something? Or does your fiance not perform oral sex, because if so, you may wanna rethink that whole thing right there, uh huh.
2006-06-21 08:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does she need to know those things unless its disease related. Everyone has a past we know this as adults. If you tell her she will most likely become annoyed. Why rock the boat? Get married and live long, and happy!
2006-06-21 08:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a marriage theirs something called trust and commitment, if you did all these things in the past and you no longer do them, and you now plan to start your life with this woman then you should tell her and if she really loves you she will forgive(it might take some time) but it would be better for u to tell her more than keeping it a secret. once you start telling her stuff, then eventually she would tell you things also and you two begin to develop trust. so i think u should tell her
2006-06-21 08:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by jeremiah_theprophet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys have or are going to discuss your past sexual experiences you need to tell her everything. If you know her past she should know yours, and if she is under the impression that you haven't done anything sexual with anyone else...not telling her is almost like a lie and she needs to know. She would be mad if she found out. However, if you have NEVER discussed such matters, and you don't know about her past, you don't need to discuss it unless it comes up, or you want to share.
2006-06-21 08:43:20 · answer #9 · answered by e_r_c_15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her. Otherwise, you'll never have a fully honest relationship and you'll feel bad about keeping secrets. Also, it's pretty doubtful that she never did anything with her partners in past relationships, so she can't be too judgemental.
2006-06-21 08:44:36 · answer #10 · answered by niby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋