I need help! I'm a very indecisive person. Do I elope in a fancy island wedding with just my parents and his parents there? Or have a traditional wedding? My fiance has 5 children, I have none. Kids are excited about being in a wedding and singing at the reception, but it's so expensive! All I really care about is having my father walk me down the isle. I've been debating this for 3 years. What should I do?
2006-06-21 08:37:43 · 27 answers · asked by Lani 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Elope. That way you pretty much know what to expect and their are no false illusions that could possibly not meet your expectations.
2006-06-21 08:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by dirftwood22 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Elope. I've done both and the big wedding is a huge hassle and when the sun goes down at the end of the day you still just have each other, family and if you're lucky a few really close friends anyway. The island wedding is a GREAT idea for all the right reasons.
2006-06-21 08:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by Add Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say do what's best for your pocket not your family. After all, you're the one footing the bill for that special day. Stop saying "elope" and try to Google procedures for having a "destination wedding". Destination weddings are half the cost of regular wedding and it's the new cheaper alternative for those trying to tie the knot. I've seen prices as cheap as $1500 depending on the location and most are all inclusive including the wedding arrangements. You have the opportunity to have a few guests attend at their own expense of course!!! Nothing has to be done in secret because you can invite your family/friends and maybe when you and the wifey return you could have a small shindig to celebrate ya'lls union with the family. This is what I plan to do if my significant other agrees when our big day comes along! Check out the link below for more info. I wish you and yours the best! Congrats!
2016-03-27 00:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have the wedding you want. If you don't feel like you enjoy the thought of having a traditional wedding, then don't do it!! There are many options out there where you can have the wedding you want without breaking the bank. Think about what you want. For example, you have a destination wedding, and you dad can still walk you down the aisle. You can get married at city hall and all, and have the kids sing to you as you and your fiance walk toward the judge. You dad can walk you to. The wedding day is about you and your fiance say, and it's definitely what you make of it. You and your fiance need to sit down, plan out a budget, and really think about what you want as opposed to what you think you want. Hope this helps!
2006-06-26 06:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by nandnonjune10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the destination wedding but invite who you want. You would be surprised how many people will actually come since, they are also going on a vacation My husband and I went to a destination wedding in December it was nice to go to an island for 4 days in the winter. It didn't cost us that much since we got a group rate. Plus if you go to an all inclusive place you get a reception without having to pay for it, just a make a reservation for the number of people who are coming. The children can still sing at a destination wedding. Plus you can stay for an extra few days for a honeymoon, maybe his parents can take the kids home with them. good luck
2006-06-21 10:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally I wouldn't choose spending a lot of money on a local wedding over a private fancy island wedding but you have a situation to consider. You say your fiancee' has 5 children. I don't know how close you are with these children, but you run the risk of ruining any relationship you might have with them if they are excluded from your plans. And if your relationship with the children is a problem, it will probably become a problem for you and your mate as well. I think it's best to find someway to include the children, whatever you decide. Better chance of maintaining a "big happy family" that way.
2006-06-21 08:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by Peaches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eloping is running away to get married without any of your family there. Your question is more of a small wedding vs. a big wedding. I think a small wedding with just your parents there would be fine! You can always through a party for the larger group of family and friends at a later date.
2006-06-21 08:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a decisive person as yourself is having a hard time making this imperative decision, maybe you could let the stepkids be involved in the wedding RECEPTION. That is the time for them to let loose and show u their talents. Skip the tradition, and go ELOPE!!! So much less stuff to deal with and explain that when u get back, the rest of the brood can help.
2006-06-21 08:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by Cara C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound just like me. I'm currently in the same boat. Just remember, its not a wedding for the kids. Its your wedding. Do what feels right. In reality, you have to consider the cost. It doesn't matter how you do it, just that you love each other and you both want this. Maybe the kids can come to Fantasy Island too? For the ceremony, then send them home with his parents.
2006-06-21 08:44:08 · answer #9 · answered by sweetiepie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think wedding. Cause this is the most important time in ur life why waste it. If ur parents dont except the wedding it's probably 4 a reason but gettin eloped isn't such a good idea!
2006-06-21 08:42:44 · answer #10 · answered by Argentina P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big weddings are not worth the funny or the hype. A small, intimate wedding with family will work out just fine, and you will be happy you didn't spend all that money!! Most brides and grooms do not even remember the day anyway, too excited.
2006-06-21 08:42:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋