Would u ever put your elderly relatives into a care home, with all the scandals & abuse allegations?

Question

When, my dad grows older, he's moving in with me. I don't trust those care homes

Answer 1

I don't particuarly like any of my elderly relatives... so sure.

Answer 2

Some people simply cannot take care of their elderly loved ones, whether it be time issues, location issues, family issues. Sometimes the only choice is to be put into a care home. Other times, care homes are the only place where the elderly can get the care they need. Some need 24/7 care, and thats hard for their children to provide, seeing as how they have lives themselves.

Answer 3

They are not all fulled with scandals. You would have to first check out the home and see how they are ratted. But don't stop there, keep visiting your love one every week and make sure that things are as they say. Part of the problem is some people put their love one in and almost forget about them and I think that is a bigger scandal than the care homes are making.

Answer 4

I put my grandmother in one because she needed 24 hr medical care and if you can stay away and keep him healthy then do it..It was hard on us all in the end but worth it for her the Dr's were great. Some things came up missing and were returned when she was moved. A lot can be said ,,,Just make sure you check out every nook and cranny before you decided. Call the state and interview and find out what the track records are of passed residents too...I do believe to keep him home is the best if you can....

Answer 5

I have no idea what the costs are but I hope that my parents will live with me and a carer would be employed to visit or look after them with me so its not a strain on everyone else in the household. Its too hard for a family memeber to look after an elderly relative if they have a family too like kids etc but I never want to have to put my parents into care-id always opt for them to live with me. Think about it this way-when your dad had you he gave up a lot of his life and freedom etc because he had the responsibility of looking after you whilst you were too young to look after yourself. Then what happens is you have kids and you make the same sacrifices for them as he did for you. But should't he also have the favour returned? to be looked after by you if possible when he is too old to look after himself? Getting old is going to be hard enough-the least an elderly person can expect is to be around people he loves and is loved by-I know when I get old I dont want to be a burden but i want to be close to my family. Ask your dad to consider paying into some kind of pension now so that he'l end up with a bit more money once hes older and explain its so that he can live with you but the money is to hire a carer who will visit regulary and take care of him when you have to work etc.

Answer 6

I am a nurse involved in long-term health care (10 years now). I'm proud of what I do and I love doing it. I treat my residents with love, respect and yes, dignity. Not all nursing homes are bad. Have you volunteered to help in one? You should, just to keep the record straight. You can now get on the I'net & check to see how good a nursing home is--they are state regulated & their info is a matter of public record. The < violations, the better the nursing home. If you can paint someone's fingernails, read a book or push a wheelchair, you're always welcome at our place.

Answer 7

We put my grandfather in one. It wasn't an easy decision, but we could not take care of him. He had someone visit him everyday. It would be great if I could take care of my family, but there are some health issues that you can't take care of. Also he was a 6'4, 220 pound man. Not everyone could lift and move him when he needed it. It is easy to say never, but it is harder to actually be able to have the money to have home care. The govt doesn't pay for much even though they tax you like crazy.

Answer 8

Of course I wouldn't put my elderly relatives into a care home! Elders are a part of the family too! Putting elders into care homes is like telling that elder like they're useless or something.

Answer 9

you have to do your investigating, and frequent visits. my father's mother lived with us for 21 years. when he got remarried, his new wife made her go to an assisted living home. i hated his new wife for it, but it actually became the best thing that ever happened to her. granted, the place was $4000 a month, but it was really nice! she played bingo, exercised, had tons of friends. she loved it, and she ended up dying last year at 92 years, mind completely in tact!

my other gram wasn't so lucky. she had a stroke and was immobilized. my mom took care of her for 3 years while working 2 full-time jobs, but it was extremely difficult. when my gram got bad off, she had to go to a nursing home for therapy. we would only allow her to stay in for about 3 weeks at a time though. she would go through therapy, get a little better, then we'd bring her back home. the place she went was not horrible, but they wouldn't give her water when she was calling for it, or diapers weren't being changed. my mom, aunt, and i "policed" the place. we were there every day, and we got to know everyone on the hall. we made sure that they were ALL being taken care of. no one was slacking on the job while we were there.

so, sometimes it's inevitable, but if you can avoid it i think that you should.

Answer 10

When the time comes and if either should ever have to be put in a home, I'd want them to live with me if they wanted to. It's the only right thing to do.They fed us, clothed us, sheltered us just to name afew things. I'd never want either of my parents in one of those places. I don't care how good they say these places are, I doubt very many old people are happy to spent their last years in a place with total strangers.I'm glad you're taking your father in when the time comes. Too many people are putting their parents in old age homes just because they" don't" have the time. Look at all the time and sacrifices they made for us.

Answer 11

nop i dont eaither a believe that when youre parents get older you need to do a role change they took care of you when you were little so now you take care of them ive heard awful stories of elderly homes , of elderly people who have been treated badly to the point of dieing i love my mom so i will make sure she is taken care of