any pointers? I am going out with a guy on friday and i want some tips. i am BI so its my first date with a guy in a LOOONNNG time. he is really cute and there is def. some sexual attraction there, which makes me feel like i am 14 again..
2006-06-21 08:30:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm kind of in the same boat you are - meeting a guy for drinks Thursday night & nervous about what to say - I'll tell you what I
keep telling myself - just be yourself & it should be just fine! Don't talk tooo much because most guys hate that & talk mostly about them - they do like to tell you what they're up to. Good luck &
relax!!!
2006-06-21 08:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your respective backgrounds are good conversation fare. Stuff like siblings (if any), where you each grew up, etc.
Stay away from religion and politics on the first date, but you do want to talk about these things before too long.
Bonus: the similarity of your backgrounds and value systems is the single best predictor of the success of a long-term relationship (if you're looking for that). Being in synch in these areas makes it easier to be in synch in other aspects of the relationship.
2006-06-21 08:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always been one to think that scripting out or pre thinking the conversation is a disaster. Just try to relax as best as you can. Be yourself. Tell him you are nervous if that's the case. I lost some girls along the way because I just didn't talk due to nerves. When I admitted how I felt, I had better dates and longer relationships. Just talk about what comes to mind and have fun!
Tell me/everyone about the date!
2006-06-21 08:40:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem obviously into him. So, ask about what he does outside of work. Show that you are interested in him and what he likes. This will give you good ideas for better dates later on....if you get that far. Don't over talk about yourself and girly stuff too much. Ask about his family. How many sibilings. Compare family funny times. Keep it cool and light ya know at the same time show you dig him - (Shoot in a compliment here and there). Good luck as well.
2006-06-21 08:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by Chef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's easy. You're into women. He's into women. Talk about what you have in common. Make a game of it. Rate random women from 1-10. Maybe start out with famous people (Angelina v. Aniston). Move on to whatever women are in the immediate vicinity. Great icebreaker, and who knows where it might lead.
2006-06-21 08:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by Troy Powers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys like to talk about things that they collect. Yes, we collect things. In our own sort of geek way, we do like to talk about that alot.
We also like to talk about our favorite sports. Cars. Our favorite resturant to eat at. What is hip and what is not. Why we have so many friends but few genuine friendships. Etc. Etc. Etc.
Don't be shy. Don't hold back. Remember, open communication between the both of you builds trust.
2006-06-21 08:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple talk about what you like, that way you are in control of the conversation and you know what you are talking about. but most importantly if you feel comfortable with the guy, you can said anything, if not, you will running out the door in no time
2006-06-21 08:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about friggin baseball. You're gunna be at a baseball game you duck.
2016-03-27 00:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't think.
don't use any pointers, it's just making you more confused and nervous than you already are.
just go with the flow.... hopefully the guy is not nervous too. :)
good luck.
2006-06-21 09:24:06 · answer #9 · answered by wongzx3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I'm not a guy, but my best advice is dont' think about what to talk about, if you have something to say, you'll say it, same goes for him.
2006-06-21 08:33:52 · answer #10 · answered by Carrie P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋