This guy & and just broke up from a 5 year realationship! He broke up with me! Why do I feel so crapy for? I didn't break up with him! Can some plz help me!
2006-06-21 08:23:52 · 42 answers · asked by Courtney 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are obviously a compassionate human being. Please take some time for yourself, and do something on your "wish" list. There is nothing more satisfying, than to accomplish a goal, or take an adventure, clear ones mind of baggage!!
Huggs and Kisses,
Lonnie
2006-06-21 08:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most likely, you only feel bad because you are wondering what you could have possibly done to make this guy break up with you after 5 years. You shouldn not, however, feel this way. It was just not meant to be. All this relationship was was a stepping stone to a greater one in the future. Only time can heal the wounds that you now currently possess. I have enough experience to know what i say, and you only need to believe it to feel better at once. Look at the positive of it: at least, since he broke it off with you, he will be losing out, not you. You should move on and find someone better for you; someone who will love and truly appreciate the gift that you have given him, which is your love and yourself. Don't be sorry that it is over; instead, be happy that you don't have to live any longer with the wrong one. Beyond this, i am not sure that there is much relief. Time will heal these wounds, and you are sure to feel better again. Good luck to you, God bless, and i hope that you begin to think optimistically in the short future. Remember: it is not your fault. It is his loss!!!! You got the better end of the deal. God bless.
2006-06-21 08:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by pilotmanitalia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot depends on why did he break up with you. Was it something that you did? or did he find someone else?
I can answer the reason you feel crappy is because you have known this person for so long and now they are gone. You have gotten used to them being around to share your daily stories with as well as grown attached to them in both a physical and mental way.
The best thing for you to do is take a step back, figure out what went wrong with the relationship, how did it end? Good or bad? then use that information in your next relationship.
it may take some time to get over the person, but you will
good luck
2006-06-21 08:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by Eric D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT is why you feel crappy. He ended it. You didn't have a say in it. I know this really sucks right now. 5 years is a long time to be with someone. You can get closure on this though. There's a great book called "He's Just Not That Into You" and it helped me to not only get over a bad breakup, it also gave me closure from all my past relationships too. The mere passage of time will also make this easier. Don't wallow in your sadness too long though. Get out there and do the things YOU want to do. Enjoy your life and keep busy with activities you like and your friends. Eventually, you'll find someone who will stick around. As time passes too, hindsight is always 20/20 and I'm sure you'll see where things were starting to fray. Since you don't give more information, I can't provide any insight into the WHY of what he did. Take care and learn how to love yourself and be happy on your own. Happy attracts happy, people!
2006-06-21 08:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From reading the rest of your posts could your "boyfriend" have left you because he could tell you had a thing for the neighbor during your whole relationship? Or maybe the fact that you are 16 and wanting a baby scared him off.
I think you are a young girl that needs to just enjoy life. That doesn't mean by sleeping with guys you are crushing on because the fact is you are going to have many more crushes throughout life and if you sleep with every one of them you will feel lousy in the end. You lose respect in yourself not mentioning the respect your friends and family have for you. Chill with the relationships and just enjoy being 16! Life is too short for you to be on here asking questions about love and trying to start romances with guys off myspace.com (Which by the way why in the WORLD did you give him your phone number???? That is a HUGE no no!!!! Maybe that was why the bf left if you kept having phone calls from other guys!!!!)
Go outside and enjoy the sun and your female friends. You are to young to be interested in sex right now much less how to "get that guy" which lets face it...all 16 year old boys want now is to see how far they can get with one girl so they can move on to the next!!!
The crappy feeling may be guilt if there is a reason for you to feel guilty!!! Maybe you know why he broke up and it was something you did. Either way...don't dwell on it! Move on and learn from your mistakes! Don't get involoved with a guy (once you are older that is) unless you are willing to make him your WHOLE life. No more crushes...secret phone calls or chats with random men! You will know when you've met the right guy because he will be the only one that you see in front of you when you are surrounded by guys!
2006-06-22 08:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by brooklynn_31502 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel crappy because whatever reason for the breakup, you feel like it was at least partially your "fault"
That may be correct, maybe not. We all have faults, and we all have traits that some may consider faults. Me, I like giving advice on the internet. Does that make me a jerk? Some people think so.
But is it something you want to change about yourself? Or should you just say, well there's one less thing I need to figure out about myself, time to move onto something new?
You should think about it for a while, maybe talk it over with friends. And start dating again, right now. The thrill of the chase will get you going again.
2006-06-21 08:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you feel this way because five years is a long time. Are you sure you haven't been doing anything for this guy to not want to be with you? I know from personal experience. I am currently in a relationship with someone I love with all my heart but I treat him like sh**. I don't mean to but it just happens without me knowing it until it too late. Maybe we both have the same problem.
2006-06-21 08:29:26 · answer #7 · answered by anw110784 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you feel so crapy because he broke up with you. thats a long time to be with someone and have them just leave you. i'm sorry. if you didn't feel crapy then it's a good thing its over.
2006-06-21 08:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by cjone782000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you feel crapy because you feel like 5 years of your life have been waisted. I highly suggest you have an all about me day go get your hair done, nails, pedicure the whole package and you might feel better
2006-06-21 08:27:09 · answer #9 · answered by ~Ms Eli~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think anyone would feel the same way, Courtney. You probably weren't at all ready to break up and he, I'm guessing, had been thinking of it for awhile, so he was not 'shocked' obviously. You, on the other hand, weren't ready to hear this and thought you were both meant to be. It's a big shock and any kind of shock would hurt and be painful for awhile afterward. Yeah, its corny but.... "Time heals all wounds" as they say.
2006-06-21 08:30:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang! Sounds like a question I posted last week! lol! You feel crappy because you spent 5 years of your life with him and you miss you. He probably feels crappy too. But, give it a little time, turn to your friends and family and you'll be okay. I was really down last week. After discussing my feelings with my friends, I'm doing better. I'll always love my ex. But, things aren't supposed to be that way, I guess...
2006-06-21 08:27:25 · answer #11 · answered by spain_105 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋