I just cant help it...I feel sick if I dont say anything...but after I do I feel like a fool. Or am I being a fool....
2006-06-21 08:18:47 · 27 answers · asked by twofasnc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may need to take a serious look at yourself and examine your self-esteem. That's probably what's making you jealous. Realize that if a girl is with you, that's because she wants to be with YOU. Not the Joe down the street.
From someone who has dealt with it, it's not an attractive quality. Not at all, it makes us feel like you don't trust us - even when we haven't given you a reason to distrust us.
Quick, get help before you lose this woman.
2006-06-21 08:22:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some counselling, jealousy is about YOU not her!! realize that trusting another person has nothing to do with them really, it is only about trusting yourself to be able to handle anything that comes up. you can not control someone else, they will do what they will do and if you feel the need to control them what you feel is NOT love, because truly loving someone includes an intense desire for their happiness, even if that means not being with you. you can't ever watch someone enough to ensure they won't cheat (i assume thats what you are worried about) and if you try you are right you will lose her. but you must realize that this comes from inside you and is not about her.....try trusting her, try letting go of all the ugliness and believing that she is a good person who will take care of the feelings you have for her, its a good feeling. and know that if she doesn't you can deal with that and be ok. yes you are being a fool because you are creating a self fulfilling prophecy, you are afraid of losing her and you are going to do just that by behaving the way you are! that doesn't make much sense does it? what if you worry this relationship to death and it turns out to be something that never would have happened? all that worrying gets you nowhere and doesn't change anything, people don't come with pink slips, you never own them...if you are lucky you are give the opportunity to share their life with them.
2006-06-21 08:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she doing something to make you feel jealous, like flirting and then you react? Then you need to talk to her and let her know how that makes you feel and explain to her that that is the reason why you've been acting like a fool. If she really cares about you, she will respect that and take it under control. If she is not giving you any reason to feel jealous, then I think you're insecure. You need to be confident in yourself and in your relationship, after all: she chose you too, you didn't only chose her, right? If she's with you, there are qualities she sees in YOU, not the guy down the street. Trust in that. When you do and you're also treating her right, like your queen (which will be an expression of how you feel about her) you won't need to feel so threatened about losing her to someone else. Women want to be reaffirmed, cared for and to feel secure with their partners. Your insecurity and low-self esteem are your worst enemies.
2006-06-21 08:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by Nathalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's smart, she'll run for the hills from you. If not, you're in luck and you've got a chance to change your tune quick before she catches on that you're a jealous freak. The reason you're jealous is because you have low self-esteem. Why you have it, I do not know. But you need to get to the root of this or it will ruin this relationship and every single one you'll ever have in your life. If she gives you no reason to be jealous, knock it off. Keep your ridiculous insecurities to yourself because no woman wants a guy that is constantly whining "Oh woe is me!" It's as unattractive as desperation.
2006-06-21 08:24:34 · answer #4 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have very serious trust issues. If you don't do something- you may not have a chance at ever being happy. Do you realize what it is like to live with someone who is jealous? Or be in a relationship with someone who is jealous? No matter what the accused person does or says- the jealous person always seems to find one reason or another to accuse that person of things they simply don't do. Please get some help somehow.
2006-06-21 08:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by Golosa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with the sick feeling, you'll get used to it and it will go away. Acting like a fool will push her away. Deal with the sick feeling and she will be amazed and even more attracted that you don't act the fool because people aren't dumb, they know it is natural to be jealous; which is why it is amazing when someone doesn't act it.
2006-06-21 08:22:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy has NOTHING to do with love. It's all about insecurity. You can go to therapy and work through what makes you feel insecure, but another person will never be able to take those feelings away...your the only person that can change or control your emotions
2006-06-21 08:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a fool. If you really loved her then you would have nothing to be jealous about and you'd be able to trust her. If you keep this up you're going to lose her forever.
2006-06-21 08:54:06 · answer #8 · answered by ....... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You being jealous is tell her that you dont trust her and that you have a very low self esteem. Trust the woman before you dont have her any more.
2006-06-21 08:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is usually due to insecurity. If she loves you and you agree on infidelity being the ultimate no-no then get over it. If she has never given you a reason not to trust her you have no reason to be jealous.
2006-06-21 08:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by fuzzyfatrabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋