I've decided tonight I am going to go out but I have such a hard time with Social Anxiety. Does anyone know techniques that can help me better prepare myself before I go out, and when I am out?
2006-06-21 08:16:54 · 12 answers · asked by Nicole 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
realize that most people in this world are so self absorbed that they wont pay attention to you unless you approach them
2006-06-21 08:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by unknown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I struggle with social anxiety myself. So far the best thing I've found for it (aside from benzodiazapines such as xanax, or valium, which work great, but will in the end most likely make the problem worse), is to have a drink or two before I go out, or if possible when I go out. Not a huge amount, just enough to take the edge off.
I know it's not really the best answer. I'm sure there are healthier ways than using alcohol as a crutch -- but it can sure be helpful for those times when you really need it.
2006-06-21 08:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by bdb4269 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Dress with confidence. Wear something you FEEL good in. The better you feel, the better you will look.
2. Come up with a few conversation starters. Don't feel like you must talk to everyone, but pick 2 or 3 people who look like they could be someone you could talk to. Go up to them with a warm smile, and start your conversation. Remember, people LOVE to talk about themselves, so if you get them started, you won't have to say much at all.
3. If you are going with someone, work out a signal that will show them you need some help. It should be something that looks natural, but not something you would necessarily do without thinking about it. It could be a simple scratch by the nose (unless you normally have an itchy nose), or brushing your hair behind your ears (which wouldn't work for me, because I do that all of the time).
If you find that this is something that affects your daily life (i.e. you're nervous about going out of the house just to go to work or buy groceries), you might want to consider seeing a therapist. The one that I see for my grief issues also specializes in anxiety disorders. It doesn't necessarily mean drugs (I'm not on any), but oftentimes they can give you some tips to help you function.
2006-06-21 08:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by KansasSpice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know, the hardest part is right before you go into that scary situation. Once you're there, and you realize that the people there aren't as bad as you hyped them up to be, you'll feel better. If you're not feeling confident, go with a close friend so you can fall back on them when you're feeling awkward. BREATHE. Of course, it always helps if you look great...you have a better chance of feeling great. I know it's not the best advice, but an alcoholic drink or two helps me relax. The more you isolate yourself from people, the worse you'll feel, so it's great you're going out. I hope I helped you a little.
2006-06-23 21:10:21 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, I just laugh about my past 3 years of panic now. I was not able to go anywhere without carrying xanax. Fear of having another attack was the most important subject of my days.When i first found joe barry's web site i started to cry because of my happiness.
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2016-05-16 12:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEFINITELY!! Before I started working in law enforcement I would avoid any kind of social setting or interaction like the plague. Now, it doesn't bother me. I realized that people treat you like a freak after you act like one. If you make a mistake and obsess, they will to. People really don't care that much. The only one that knows you're scared is you.
2016-03-27 00:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt go.. people out there are bad, and if you have fears of that then lock your doors and find a better activity where you are not as stressed out. unless the reasons for going out are something you believe in, in that case you need to keep reminding yourself of those reasons.... try to find balance between fear, stress, friendship, love, anger, and of course anxiety. try measuring all at the same time and give each a number from 1-10 and try to reduce or increase ones that arent a 5.
2006-06-21 08:23:42 · answer #7 · answered by my_huckelberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a deep breath, be around people u feel comfortable with, and enjoy yourself. try not to worry about things while u are trying to relax. you dont have to start up a conversation w anyone, but listen in and feel free to express yourself. you cant keep everything in all the time, or you'll explode. have a great time!!
2006-06-21 08:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by scrooge girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to be like that too, especially in bars and when i didnt know many people. i think you just have to say to yourself that anybody would be lucky to talk to you and if they dont want to just move on cause they arent worth your time anyway. its kind of like building your confidence with an i dont give a crap anyway attitude. plus a few drinks before you go out never hurt :)
2006-06-21 08:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dress in something that makes you feel good. Take a nice shower, smell good.... be confident with yourself. You don't have to worry about what others think of you, just be yourself and be proud of that. If people see your confidence, (not too much confidence...being conceited is not good either) with you yourself...you should nothave problems meeting people.
2006-06-21 08:20:26 · answer #10 · answered by pizzagirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hype yourself up until you feel like the queen of the universe :)
2006-06-21 08:20:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋