2006-06-21 07:58:46 · 28 answers · asked by Fedup 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
depends on if you have kids.
Depends on the couple.
Try therapy first. Divorce is expensive...it's an easy out but it'll make you a quitter.....ya know?
2006-06-21 08:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has there limits. I would suggest talking with each other and finding out what your expectations for your relationship are. Sometimes, it may be better to spend time alone, single. In that case, you would not put up with any crap. Or maybe, you are at a point in your life and relationship where you feel like you would do anything to make it work out. In this case, you would do all that you could, nothing shy of putting up with some crap before calling it quits. I hope this is making sense to you. Anyway, it's up to you. It is so much more worthwile to enjoy your relationship. If you feel like it's not how you want to be living your life, then maybe it would be better for both of you to find someone new? Be aware that people often dictate how others will treat them. You don't have to put up with crap any longer if you don't want to.
2006-06-21 08:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by urbanbutterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. I assume the crap is between the two?
If they have children they should be able to work things out. They have a duty to the children to manage and to show that conflicts can be solved. They have to look closely to what they call crap and what of the crap is important to crap about. Is it details or major difference in values?
If they do not have children - they should leave each other as quickly as possible. Why should they use time and energy to deepen their relationship if they dont have a commitment to each other???
2006-06-21 08:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by Tones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it would depend on many factors - first of all, what do you define as "crap"? Is that getting on each others nerves over who does the dishes, or is it one or the other out partying every weekend, doing who knows what with who knows who? Every situation is different. If it is mainly the little things that are getting you guys under each other's nerves - then perhaps seek out some counseling. A counselor can help you to define what is bothering each of you and to effectively address those issues without coming to verbal or physical fights. They can help you to understand situations from the other person's point of view and to help change certain behaviors or help you to accept some of your partner's behaviors more easily. If it is more of the running around, no respect, etc... sort of crap - and the other person is just not willing to try to listen or change or anything, then I would say it depends on how much you care for that person - and for yourself. If you really love him/her and want the partnership to last, then give it another shot and try to talk to them. If you just do not care any longer, and they -or you- are not willing to change, then call it quits now, before you really come to hate each other.
2006-06-21 08:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by shirlock27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the couple. Some can put up with an infinite amount of crap
2006-06-21 08:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long does it take to get fed up enough to call it quitsI have found that it takes me from 1-9yrs depending on how bad the crap is and how intense is the love or was it just great sex.Every one has different level of tolerance.
2006-06-21 08:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by katmariebaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as its takes, and if the basis is that you truly love each other well crap is what you have to tolerate. Relationships are going to have it's crappy times and then they pass and it's beautiful again. It's called ups and downs we all go through it, but if it is unbearable, unhealthy, and just flat out not right move on.
2006-06-21 08:05:22 · answer #7 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say if you are just dating, and unhappy for 2-3 months you might want to call it quits.
If you are married though, you should definitely take any steps possible to save the relationship. Go to counseling, read self help books, or talk to family and friends about the problems.
2006-06-21 08:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by AK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the crap you are talking about. I can't believe tha way couples stay to together and have the worse relationship I have ever seen. They just don't know what they are missing.
2006-06-21 08:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Sunflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the only way to make it to your fifty- anniversary is to put up w/ crap for a long time.
2006-06-21 08:02:51 · answer #10 · answered by seaturtle36 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋