would you put your child in daycare even if you could afford not to work outside the home?

Question

i know people who makes plenty of money, but still send their kids to daycare. i'm sorry, but i just don't trust strangers raising my kids. am i alone here?

Answer 1

Yeah, I actually know moms who don't work or work part time and have their kids in daycare full time. It's sad. I used to work at a daycare and some kids would be there from open to close! 530-530. The kids were closer to us then them! Some people just don't have the desire to be hands on parents, and we wonder why society is going down the tubes! There are also parents who are at home with their kids all day and completely ignore them, I have neighbors like that. They've actually been reported to CPS twice for not realizing their 2 year old was wandering around the neighborhood! She was actually 1/4 of a mile away at a park-BY HERSELF! Some working parents do a great job though. I am fortunate enough to be able to stay at home with my kids! My 2 1/2 year old speaks so well people are shocked to learn how old she is, she knows how to count to 20, knows all colors and shapes, can recognize all letters of the alphabet and now I'm teaching her to read! It is so much more fulfilling to know that I have taught her these things, but not everyone is a natural teacher. I think that's what I am, and I love to teach! My daughter just recently started a mother's day out program and she goes to interact with other children her age 2 days a week from 9:30-12:30 and I think that's plenty! Children should be raised by their parents, not in a huge group with strangers.

Answer 2

A good daycare is a great place for children to learn to socialize. Socialization skills are very important. Having a child in daycare doesn't mean someone else is raising them, but if you feel that strongly, you need to get a job where you can take them with you as their mother has every right to work if she chooses. You want them only around you, then you take care of them 24/7 and not the mother. This is the year 2006!

No parent can be a good parent without an occasional break. If you think that you can be around children 24/7 and never get a break, you are already insane. Taking care of children and a home is more work than any outside job a man has. You never get to clock out from the worry. SO, you take a leave of absence, and you stay with your children 24/7, no breaks, for the next few months while the mom works outside the home, comes home and eats, plays a little with the kids, etc then goes to bed. No complaining about its her turn, just suck it up and be the houseparent. Ask again after that. I would bet your question and answer would be different.

Answer 3

I disagree I am not rich by any means actually would be considered poor but children at a certain age need to go to daycare they need to learn how to be with other children and begin the schooling process. I don't work my son is 2 1/2 and he definitely goes to daycare everyday. No not because I'm lazy but because I don't want him to be lazy. He has been is school since he was 1 1/2 and his people skills are outstanding he can count knows his colors shapes and is learning to write along with many other things. Its the best thing for him. He was very shy and he is an only child so the interactment with the other children helped his speech and everything. Also it helps him to learn to sit still during class times and things like that. There is also positive reinforcement with potty training for anyone who doesn't know there is something called positive peer pressure to children do not want to be the only one not doing something. My son was so excited to put on underwear. Now since I don't work I do spend a lot of time there helping out I go on there field trips with them we just came back from one today. I play a very active role in his education. That is the same thing you are gonna have to do when they get to 1st 2ND 3rd grade and so forth get some practice in. Also when I do start working (I was laid off) he will already be in a routine and there will be no transition. Also for the person talking about how many hours kids stay my son stays no longer than 8 hours I would let him stay shorter but the director doesn't like him to miss any of the curriculum or the meals. I pay for breakfast, lunch and snack. He gets there at 7:30 am I usually stay and help the teachers until after breakfast and help clean up before school starts at 8:30 then I leave they have class from 8:30 - 11:15 then lunch and nap by 12:30 up at 2:30 then snack and reenforcement of what was learned that day. Since its summer they sometimes go outside to play instead of reenforcement. Also the different age groups go on a field trip once a week which I noted about I also attend as a parent helper so lets get it straight there are some lazy sorry parents out there but I"m not one of them. most kids I know who stay at home all day know whats on every talk show and how to recite a commercial not how to count! let me ask this what if your relative owned the daycare would that be better?

Answer 4

You are definitely NOT alone!! I could never do that! I am a stay at home mom ,and would LOVE a break once in awhile, but there is no way I would send them to daycare every day! If people think having kids is so inconvenient, they shouldn't have them! I used to work in a center, and I couldn't believe the number of people who brought their kids on their days off, or would do all their errands before they came to pick up their child. We even had one parent who lived about 3 minutes away from the center, who worked AT HOME, and was always picking her son up 20-30 minutes late(after we closed!). It's just not right to do that! People should cherish time with their kids, not shove them off to strangers to raise them!

Answer 5

I don't work right now but I will be going back to work in a few weeks. My fiance and I would NEVER allow our kids to go to a daycare. There have been many cases on the news recently of meth labs, child abuse and child molestation going on in daycares. I know I wouldn't even take that risk. My kids are too important too me. We can afford for me not to work but barely and that's why I'm going back to work. My mother in law agreed to watching the kids for about 4 hours a day and we plan on paying her for it. Some people will sit there and say that children who don't go to daycare will have no social skills when the enter preschool or kindergarten. Well, my kids get taken to the park everyday, they go to Sunday school, and we have play dates so they know how to interact socially with other children. You never know what person that could be watching your kid in a daycare. Yea there are background checks and everything but even those could come back false. Illegals use different people's identities all the time. Why would it be so hard for a felon to use someone Else's id to get a job in a daycare. I know it's kind of far fetched but I personally would NEVER take that chance. I would much rather be safe than sorry

Answer 6

There are a lot of daycare's that have cameras so you can check and watch you kids while they're there. I think it is good to have your children in a daycare for a least some time. They need that interaction with other kids to help them in the future. You will see a big difference in your child after they are around more kids.

Answer 7

Although i do have to put my child in school so that i can finish my college degree...(I'm so close!) i think that even if i didn't have to i would still put a TODDLER (not a younger child who cant talk or run) in day care for a few hours a week. children need social interaction with people their own age just as much as adults do. If play dates make a parent feel better, then arrange one, but it is important to have that social interaction! just don't abuse daycare by dropping them off and not picking them up until its dinner then bed time, because then you are not raising your child you are letting someone else do it for you and that is lazy and selfish. Always check out the daycare first to make sure that it is a safe place. check up on registration, ask the teachers if they enjoy their job, ask other parents, and maybe even sit in on the first day. also make sure that they are providing curriculum that helps stimulate their minds and that they arent just running amok all day!

Answer 8

Coming from a pre-k teacher to be, let me just say that kindergarten is a lot more serious than it used to be. It is now (at least in the state of Texas) learning at a level that would be equal to First or even second grade, as opposed to twenty years ago, when kindergarten was considered the base.

Now pre-k and even pre-pre-k is pretty essential. The learning that took place in Kindergarten 20 years ago, is now happening in that daycare. And yes, you could teach your child all of these things at home, and yes, they could excel at an even higher rate than if they had been taught at a program, but the socialization is not there.

Could you imagine the pressure of having to learn how to socialize, and learn to read 150 words, by sight? That would be like sending you to school, at 7 with little to no interaction outside of your family or friends.

I can see your stand point, but in todays kindergarten class, they are pretty much expected to be socialized to some degree, already.

Answer 9

Yes I would still put my child in daycare. Not because I'm lazy.
I would only put them in daycare 1-2 days a week.

I feel MY child needs to have that time to interact with kids away from me.

I'm not sure what's best for everyone Else's kids but that is what would be best for my child.

Also I don't feel I send my child to a stranger. I have a personal relationship with my son's preschool and very involved in his care.

Answer 10

Let me raise one point. Daycare/preschool is not there to raise your kids. They reinforce what the parents are teaching and doing for the kids. Even if we could afford for me not to work, I would still work part time. My son needs to be around other children his age and the teachers teach him in a way I dont know how, they are trained after all. And I need to be around my peers and feel like Im contributing to my family and society.