I used to be very confident in my past. but at 15 i started making sexy stories in my mind everytime, but did not share with anybody.I had lost my father at 6 so only mum and she was doing house chores everytime. I loose my virginity myself with screwdriver and did lot of hardcore. as a result i become shy, having dirty face look, people think i am loose girl and i loose my confidence. I don't want relationshp with men at that time also, but my face expression was as if i am very dirty. now i am 28. married, with two kids, stop thinking that rubbish and no hardcore myself but facing same problem---I cant face men, if i do, then they think as if i am flirting. my hubby is quiet only for the sake of kids.
IS THERE ANYBODY ELSE HAVING SAME PROBLEM?
HOW TO GET OUT OF THIS MESS?
PLEASE BE SERIOUS.
2006-06-21 07:17:14 · 10 answers · asked by pretty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am serious - you need some therapy so that you can get over your past and get on with your life. I understand your guilt and regret over your actions in the past, but when you look in the mirror you should see a loving wife and mother - not a dirty girl. Find help in your yellow pages or through your doctor. YOu may also want to look at antidepressants as it sounds like you might be depressed.
There are LOTs of people having the same problem, Pretty - I"m an ex sex trade worker myself, and have come to see my past as a learning experience and not a reflection of who I am today. I look in the mirror and like what I see! I wish the same for you.
2006-06-21 07:22:35 · answer #1 · answered by Samlet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your writing is TERRIBLE. If this is the way you speak, then I can see why you have problems!!!! Everyone has fantasies, but don't you know that others canNOT read your mind, so what are you worried about? The expressions on your face SAY things to others. It is like a person that smiles and looks people in the eyes...we automatically think that they would be a nice person to know. If someone keeps their head down, and doesn't smile, we automatically think they are hiding some deep dark secret, and are not confident people. Obviously you DID face a man---you got MARRIED! I think that you just THINK you have a problem. You don't. Losing your virginity to a screwdriver is a little wierd. Do you have enough money to go see a counsellor? Is there anyone you trust enough to talk to? What about your husband? Talk to him.
2006-06-21 07:25:53 · answer #2 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't honestly know the answer....I can only tell you to be careful what kind of body language and signals you give out. Guys will think you're flirting if you do ANYTHING different (change your body language) when you speak to them. At least most guys do. You may also be a kinky and very sexual person by nature, ever thought of that? Talk with the hubby about it. Maybe you guys could find some new activities that will let your wild animal loose. If you are spreading sex-messages to all guys you come into contact with it may be because you're restraining them too much. So talk to your man about what HE can do to fix it with you!
2006-06-21 07:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by Pete El Pirata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need some counseling, and you need it now. Scredrivers, and losing your dad at a young age has really screwed up your mind. You also sound like you need some serious education. You are lucky to be married, your kids will need counseling too, or they will pick up the problems you have from you. You dont want that to happen to your kids do you? If you cant afford counseling, have your kids get help at school, or look for your local church leaders, they will help you out too. You have some pretty major issues going on in your life.
2006-06-21 07:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are searching for a positive relationship with a father figure. You need to understand that you are searching for acceptance and need to find acceptance in something other than a sexual relationship.
Maybe try to volunteer time in helping others - you will also make some friends that share a common desire to help others. This will run off on you and you might have a better outlook on yourself.
2006-06-21 07:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally you are going to need some counseling dear heart, we won't be able to give you enough advice here. You really need to seek a family therapist.
2006-06-21 07:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should seek counseling, and have your husband join you if you, or the therapist, think that will help.
2006-06-21 07:24:10 · answer #7 · answered by math_prof 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you need some Help..
go talk to someone, Good luck.
2006-06-21 07:22:37 · answer #8 · answered by reneyhun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will say a little prayer for you.
2006-06-21 07:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by Nanjadufrance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you say screwdriver???? geeezs. plz see a therapist
2006-06-21 07:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋