i know people have tiffs with thier fam but mine are getting out of control i try to gain hours at work just so i dont have to be home and i also asked to work on the 4th of july just so i didnt have to go camping with my family. we went out to eat for fathers day and i almost cried i was having such a bad time...i get really easily annoyed with them. what is my problem and what should i do?
2006-06-21 07:10:04 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They make stupid rules like my curfew still being midnight, they freak out if i have ppl over without asking, they won't let my boyfriend step foot in my room, and they have this thing where if i go out 3 nights in a row it is just a sin even if im at home or work the whole day! ahhhh!
2006-06-21 07:19:38 · update #1
I know exactly what you are going through. You are 17? Just perservere...one more year and you can move out on your own... go away to college and live on campus and just get out of there! my family made my life miserable my entire childhood. You can't change them, but you can change your life. I KNOW it is hard, but get out when you can and don't look back.
being away might improve your relationship - but just because you share DNA doens't mean you will get along and it doesn't mean you HAVE to spend time with these people.
2006-06-21 07:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing and so did my daughters. I think it's God's way of getting parents ready for their kids to be on their own. LOL It is a natural thing, just a stage, I guess you could say. Just hang in there, in a few years you will be able to tolerate them again. Sorry I can't give you any better advice than that, but I swear it will get better. For now, I guess by working, you are accomplishing two things; you're staying away from them (they may not like you too much right now either) and you're making more money. Good luck!
2006-06-21 07:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by cmdynamitefreckles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally relate. When I was your age, I got involved with a lot of school activities. When I wasn't at school, I was at work. The only time I went home was to sleep. I used to get irritated just hearing my parents talk to each other. Well, more like argue with each other. It'll pass. If you can't make it on your own financially, the only you can do is to continue living at home. Work is a great excuse, but try to grin and bear the important family gatherings.
2006-06-21 07:25:11 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey well I hear ya ! I Am Know 22 But at that age you wanna be all big and get out move on your own But that is a big mistake there is nothing better than being home. Just relax work and don/t worry aabout it is just a phase. I know i Wish I was still home and not worry about bills and money >
2006-06-21 07:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by yaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are at an age where you are trying to gain more independence, however not ever enjoying family time isn't healthy...is it possible that you have unresolved issues with them? Do you feel a lot of pressure from your family to do things a certain way or to be the best at everything you do? It is possible if you feel pressure that you don't enjoy being around them because of that pressure that you feel. Maybe you should sit down and talk with your family about how you feel.
2006-06-21 07:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you - you are a typical 17 year old. Just remember that when it all boils down they will back you up no matter what you do. Just remember if something happens to you or them what do you want your last memory or words to be about and to them? You can not help the way you feel right now.
2006-06-21 07:19:23 · answer #6 · answered by jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 17 and hormones are racing through your system. Sit down and make a list of the things that annoy you, then make a list of the things that you like about your family. Start doing this on a daily basis. You may notice that somedays you like something that your family does, and on other days this same something annoys you.
2006-06-21 07:14:57 · answer #7 · answered by KL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone. I love my family but sometimes I too have spend time away from them or I too have to find ways to where I don't have to come home to them... It's weird but you cannot choose your family... Well just think when you turn 18 you can go off to college or move out after graduating high school. But for now don't let them get to you and find as much time for yourself as possible.
2006-06-21 07:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by hlfpntoct 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, your family cares about you and wants you to know that your safety is important to you because they love you so much. You really have it easy. Many children live in abusive homes, with parents who don't care enough to give them food and electricity, they verbally abuse their children so that the kids think they are terrible people.
Family is all that you have got...........jobs come and go, friends come and go, but the love of the family is there forever. You are seventeen............this is normal. Try to bite your tongue whenever you get annoyed. Remember, they love you and eventually this phase will pass and you will want to be with them too.
2006-06-21 07:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your family and tell them how you feel and tell them what is wrong and try to help each other find a solution. Never hate your family because god can take the dearest thin from you. I hated my mother because she picks on me for something silly and we argue about it and I told her one day I hated her and she past away that night. So love your family or you will regret what you have done everyday that you live.
2006-06-21 07:17:03 · answer #10 · answered by april e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋