So, I feel like my family hates me. seriously. like a lot. well i guess hate isn't the word. they ignore me?

Question

I have a mom, but she's not very affectionate, and also she doesn't like being involved with my school life. I have a sister, whom i love very much, but she's not talking to me because I didn't take care of her dogs. (not that they aren't dead, or sick or anything, i just didn't walk them). then there's my dad. he's just my dad. well, he's . . he goes to work then comes home, and eats, we don't talk that much, and there's not much we can talk about. then my best friend kinda got mad at me because i used his name to get out of a difficult situation (i didn't blame him or anything, but i mentioned his name) but he didn't appreciate it so much. SO. now i have no family :-D i feel like jumping off an overpass.

oh and this is how it has ALWAYS been. so they can't be stressed out or anything.

Answer 1

are you seriously trying to jump off something or was that a joke? Don't do it! look you family loves you this i am sure they just need to know how you have been feeling lately.
When i was younger i felt the same way, my mom hardely showed me any affection(we barely have any pictures where we are together) and it got worse when she had my brother.As i turned into a teen i would come home from school and share stories with her, upon seeing this she would begin telling me more about her day(and some of her stories were actually funny, well for a parent!). We became so close that we would hang out together all the time, she would give me advice and stuff while i gave out the topics. I think it was the fact that i started maturing that we had more things to say to each other because when you are a kid, you have your world, parents have theirs, but as you get older both worlds connect! We talk all the time now and she is like one of my best friends.Give them all time, it is not easy being an adult(much less a parent) there is always something on their minds, and your friends will forgive you too, friends always forgive! Good luck:)

look i hope my story helped, but if you think it has always been like this i think you should start the change by having a family meeting. I know it sounds dumb but try it, tell everyone to meet you in the living room(dont tell them why!) and once they are all there tell them to sit down because what you are about to say it VERY important for you then poor your heart out, embarrasing yes, but it will be worth it to tell them how you feel, hey and if you get someone else to cry with you then that is how you know that you are not alone and that they do love you.

Answer 2

Dear, There is nothing people like more than talking about themselves.If you think your family is ignoring you, create situations where you invite them to talk to you about themselves and things they have done throughout the day.Compliment them every now and then.If your sister is wearing a new shirt, take note and tell her how the colour shows her beauty.As for your mom and dad, talk to them ask them questions about your life.Get them involved in your life.Make them feel they play a role in your life whether they like it or not because thats the truth. They are part of their life.Get your friend a gift and tell him what he means to you.Always surprise people close to you with nice things.Help your mom at home.And do not think that you and your dady have nothing in common.There is always plenty of things in common between family members.You just need to look for them. Why do not you tell him for example about the problem you have with your friend. if you are buying a gift for a male friend, ask your dad what would be the best gift. find out what your father likes to do and show interest in that. Be persistent, Be creative,nag them with pleasant things and remember nothing works out from the first time. Eventually they will come around.But if you want affection, show some.And do not get frustrated.Sometimes we find great difficulty showing people we love how much they mean to us.Expressing love is not always an easy task.Warm things up and be the starter and you shall end up a winner.And remember there is nothing more important than family, so it is worth your patience.regain your family and instead of jumping off an overpass, bridge the gap.But deep inside know one thing, you are a wonderful person no matter what and always look forward for tomorrow.

Answer 3

The only thing you should be jumping off of is a diving board at the city swimming pool. It's summer! Go have some fun! Let your worries just float away like a beautiful poofy cloud passing by on a sunny day.



Now, here is something nice for you to do. Write each of your family members a love letter and put it under their pillow. Don't talk about problems or how you feel about everything in the letter, compliment them and tell them how much you care and love them. Make them feel good. This way you are taking the first step towards happiness for your whole family. You're gonna melt their hearts, girl.

Watch the movie, "Pay It Foreward" with your family during dinner...lots of subtle good ideas for ya'll in there. Enjoy!

Answer 4

I remember being a teen..Being a teen and feeling the same way you do. Sometimes, we are just too involved in our own world that we forget what's really important. Your sister may be just selfish and you know. That's what sister's are. I'm sure your sister is older than you and being the kid sister..The old sister feels they can walk over you or tell you what to do. In time that will change. I too went through the same thing.

Try talking to your mom, let her know how you feel and let her know you would appreciate some daughter and mom time. Do the same with your dad. Your dad, probably thinks there's nothing you can talk about or at least he thinks he doesn't' know. Try striking up a conversation with your dad. I'm sure when he gets home from work he's tired. Try doing something nice for him, for when he gets home.
And for your friend, it's best you apologize and do what you can to make up for what you did. Perhaps make him a nice silly card or something.

This will all pass..Trust me!

Answer 5

finally somebody that feels my pain.... i know how much this sucks! My family is like that a lot too. What you could do is ask your family if they'd like to go to a movie.. or a road trip.. or maybe just a walk around the neighborhood! Give them a hint that you want to start "communicating" with them. As for your friend, you could write an apoligy note or you could call him and say how sorry you are. I'm sure that if you just put your foot down and say something about this, everything will be okay! Your family should definatley understand, you your friend should accept your apoligy and realize that it was a simple mistake. I hope things get better soon... Good luck!

Answer 6

Life sucks sometimes, and sometimes, it feels like everyone is crapping on your head, and sometimes they are. And so it goes, be sad, be hurt, but don't let it get the best of you! Help your sister with the dogs more, tell your friend you're sorry and mean it, try and involve your mom and dad more and if it doesn't work, try to accept that they is who they are, and it's not personal against you. Stay away from overpasses!

Answer 7

well, with your parents, that might have been how they were raised and just flat out don't know anytthing else. with your sister, she'll probably get over her poochies not getting to go for a walk. Your best friend probably just doesn't want to get in trouble. DO NOT go jump off an overpass. even though it may not feel like they love you, they would ALL be heartbroken if you died.

Answer 8

I'm guessing your young so. Don't take it personally. I love it when people use my name to get out of situations. Not too many people confront me to make sure. I think its because I will bite their head off. However I do like the heads up so I'm not blindsided by some white lie. As far as family goes I know a lot of people who have the opposite problem where their family is always up in their business and they really hate it because as they grow they feel confinded. They need space. I think as you get older you will appreciate that you parents arent trying to be up in all you stuff.

Answer 9

your parents should definently give you more attention hun. One thing to remember is that some people have it way worse than u. Some people dont even have parents. yeah its corny to say that maybe but its true. Also, remember YOUR not the problem. And this is comming from a mother so trust me. Every parent should be into their child, their where abouts, school life, relationships, friendships, etc :) and as far as ur b/f goes, explain to him why u used his name. If he still dont understand then u dont need him.

Answer 10

Life does suck sometimes, but this too shall pass. Hold on, do not jump. Life opens up a lot when you get your diploma and are able to move on to college or out of the house. Go along now, it does get better I promise, but it only gets better when you are able to take care of yourself. You and God against the world, you can do it, have faith in yourself.