What would u do if u are caught up in btween two people that you like and u have more feelings then u sholud for both of them.
2006-06-21 06:38:48 · 44 answers · asked by kashondra j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to BOW OUT!!! Leave them alone the world is full of potential friendships and aren't so complicated. If your friends husband is giving you VIBES, just stay away! Would you want your friend secretly VIBBING with your husband? You know you would be crushed, pissed & want to hurt somebody!!! Nothing good would ever come of any of it..... Only pain and anger in the end for everyone involved. If you win him, he most likely will do the same to you in the future or you might grow bored and do it to him! Your friend that you just claimed to care about will no longer be your friend and probably be devastated and deeply scarred, never to trust anyone again. You might even go to H E L L !!! Be tormented & hate yourself for what you have done, forever. It's not worth it.. Find someone of your own, you'll forget about this situation, you can just be proud knowing you were a better person than that!
2006-06-21 06:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, this is perfectly hypothetical because my husband and best friend A. would never do this to me and B. don't like each other anyway (ha ha)
But if they betrayed me in this way, I would pack my bags and leave. Both my friendship and my marriage would be over. It would hurt like hell and I would be devastated to loose two very important relationships in my life but if they are capable of this, then they aren't the people I think I love. I know I deserve to be treated better.
I would also make an appointment to see my doctor for a good dose of antidepressants and a referral for a therapist. Without my husband and best friend to talk to - I know I'd need a shoulder to cry on and I think there is nothing wrong with turning to a professional for that if my friends abandoned me.
2006-06-21 06:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by Tamborine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would find myself a new best friend and say the hell w/ my husband and file for a divorce. i know it may be hard and i know it would be something that you would have never expected out of either. but everything happens for a reason right. there is someone else out there better for you that will treat you 10 times better. i know it will take some time, but it is something you have to do. you are always going to be wondering where he is really going. and you would never be completely comfortable again. if he was really truly in love w/ you then he would not have done it. and if she was really a friend, then neither would have she.
2006-06-21 06:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by Amy M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God, I would hate to be in your situation. But a real friend would not do that to a friend. So dump the friend, there's millions of other people in the world more worthy of your friendship. Secondly, your husband. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Kick him to the curb and find a man who will be faithful to you! Then take the a$$hole for all he has to make him learn his lesson.
2006-06-21 06:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this while you were married or before? Cause if it is while you are married and you dont do anything about it like leave them both alone then they will continue to have a sexual relationship. If it was before the marriage and you were dating I would still leave. But if it was at a time when you didnt know either of them then do nothing.
2006-06-21 06:42:17 · answer #5 · answered by N M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... I'm surprised you didn't say your husband had sex with your best friend. It seems your going to push most of the blame on your best friend. I don't know your life and your dependent and/or dependencies, but I would confront your husband and deal with that situation over you best friend. Your best friend just lost her status so get rid of her, Focus on your husband and if his character is consistently negative towards you than I would recommend getting rid of him as consistency creates character and he is who he has shown himself to be, a cheater. If this is something totally unexpected, something he regrets or if you have children, then I recommend you see a marriage counselor as they will be able to here all your situation to give you the best advice. Good luck.
2006-06-21 06:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by pululu81 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my best friend had sex with my husband I would pour gasoline on both of them, put them in my trunk, and take them to a field in the middle of nowhere and set them on fire. I wouldn't leave though because they might stop drop and roll, that's where my sawed-off shotgun would come into play.
2006-06-21 06:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by theb!tchuhated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoop *** and take names later..oh hell no...forget about feelings they didnt think about you when they were f****** did they?...not unless it was between the "ooh" or "oh yea thats it".....NOPE i DONT THINK THEY WERE THINKING OF YOU.....
wait are you the victim or the culprit?...because the latter part of your question seem suspect......
if you are the culprit i say you need to confess to your friend what a lousy *** friend you are and just prepare for that beat down that you deserve
if you are the victim..i say you should call 911 tell them to be at your house in 10 minutes after you make that phone call and proceed to whoop BOTH of their a*****. No need to hear explanations, apologies, crying, "IM SO SORRY"..nope no need..because they both crossed the line and you need to cut them both off..ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER.....and your best friend ..well she was never a friend at all.......
if this sounds harsh, so sorry but this is a harsh world we live in
2006-06-21 06:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by outspokenone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four choices: try to end their fling and keep things the same, break up with them, let it continue, join in the action. I'm sure you want them just to end it and go back to your life, but that's probably not realistic. If you're self-confident and OK with it, let them have a fling and join in. I would probably dump them both, especially if it happened behind your back. It's a trust issue.
2006-06-21 06:43:37 · answer #9 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why fight? Join.
Your "best" friend has betrayed you.
Your husband swore to be faithful and be together "till death do us apart" emotionally killed you.
Divorcing is pardoning him. Ditching your friend is not an option because she got away.
What's left? Make the best of it by inviting them for a threesome.
2006-06-21 06:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋