The reason for the break up was because he is seeing his ex about twice a month after work and staying for a few hours. I ask him to stop because he did break it off with him to be with me, and I don't think that it's a great idea for them to see each other right now. They do have properties and out standing loans together, and they were together for eight years. Should I have been so concerned about him visiting? Or should I have just been understanding and hope that the visits would die down.
Now that it's over I want him more than ever...we do live together and we still show affection to each other...today I did cut off the affection saying, "I don't kiss my friends." when he tried to kiss me... I keep asking if he wants me back and he says that, "you don't want me, you broke up with me." and I tell him it was just because I didn't know what else to do. He does love me...What should I do to get him back?? Please Help
2006-06-21 06:26:51 · 11 answers · asked by James W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I can't blame you for being so upset because it would bother me too. Did you talk to him about it?
Ask him for the reasons he has for being there so long after work. If he has good reason, trust him. Trust comes with love (most of the time).
If he loves you and you love him....try going on a date again...see if the sparks fly again!
2006-06-21 06:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by jessigirl00781 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite him over and have a romantic dinner. If you don't cook, go to Olive Garden or a resturant that he likes and set it up nice at home. Put candles every where and have a long talk with him at dinner. Make sure you have a nice baby doll lingere outfit in the room for dessert! That should do the trick! Good luck!
2006-06-21 13:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by lifeislove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simple answer- MOVE OUT.
When you broke up with this guy and you didn't move out you permanently changed the dynamic of the relationship. Now he has you right where he wants you by having what he wants without having to give you anything. If you want to get him back you will have to move out for a while and give him the opportunity to persue you back into the relationship.
2006-06-21 13:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwwww, that's so sweet. You had the right to feel jealous about his relationship with his ex. That's only natural, but you have to trust him until he gives you reason not to. Like sneaking over there and stuff like that. Tell him the truth, tell him you want his sexy assss back, but, you don't feel comfortable with him chilling with his ex for those long periods of time. Just swallow your pride, and tell him how you feel. Good Luck
2006-06-21 13:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by tbird00719 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart don't you dare ask him to come back , in the 1st place what the hell is he doing over the ex"s apartment those were the signs baby listen to that little voice in the back of your head there are other men out here if he really wanted you he would have known that going over the ex's would hurt you , if he truly loved you he wouldn't hurt you .good luck
2006-06-21 13:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by neesh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. Tell him you adore him and really want to make the relationship work, but this is what you need from him. Then ask him if he is interested and what does he need from you.
2006-06-21 13:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by Katherine M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take some time to be by yourself and realize that men should be with women and women should be with men. Any deviation is a sin. Good luck and God bless!
2006-06-21 13:33:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first stop acting like a hard *** or ur gonna lose him....u need to tell him how u feel and how much u love him....dont let him go...u act like this and ur asking him to go back to her...
2006-06-21 13:31:18 · answer #8 · answered by chaand5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing you can do,
the best thing you can do now is to pray to god that he will reconsider you.
2006-06-21 13:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u should BEG MERCELSLY
2006-06-21 13:30:47 · answer #10 · answered by penguinchic_823 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋