I don't know if I should break up with her because of this, I am uncomfortable with the fact she has had a "wild period" in her life although she doesn't have any STD's I'm still weirded out by this. Is that a good reason to break up with somebody?
2006-06-21 06:18:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats why its better NOT TO ASK!!! about past sexual stuff. most guys would be freaked out if they found out their gf did the foot ball team and the cheerleading squad..... well maybe not the cheerleading squad.
just try to put it behind you as it is behind her. if you cant do that it will cost you the relationship. i also wouldnt recommend bringing this up too much to her as it will make her feel like a slut even if shes not and make you look like an insecure puss in her eyes.
2006-06-21 06:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 2⤋
Get over it boy. That was then. If you truely love her you wouldn't ever think of this. This shouldn't be the reason why you should break up with her. Thank God you didn't mention anything like she's still having an affair with someone else or still sleeping with some other people.
Just love her and give her the necessary attention boy. Even if she's doing that old stuff behind you, the much love, care and attention that you give her will make her retaliate the affection you have for her.
Don't give up on her bro if you truely and really love her. You can make her change.
All the best.
2006-06-21 13:47:47 · answer #2 · answered by Dan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well just make sure you use protection every time you have sex with her. (JUST IN CASE) Even though she hasn't had a std you never know for sure (She might be lying) Its pretty normal for any one to feel uncomfortable I went through the same situation twice I was with this guy he was with a girl that I know for a fact had gotten something from another guy. I never asked him straight up but we would take about him having unprotected sex with anybody he said yes and that he had seen the doctors and he was clean but some std's could not be detected in guys so after that I always made sure we had condoms. Then this other time I been with this guy I wasn't concerned because of him I was just worried because of the girls he was having sex with before me I knew this girls had a "Wild Period" too. but we always used protection so I wouldn't think of it as much. If you really want to be with her you would look past her "wild period" just leave that as a part of her past. Just make sure You always use condoms no matter what girl it is you are with. You should be glad that she was open with you and she told you with out a problem must girls would sit there and lie to your face. What ever you plan to do just think about it real good.
2006-06-21 13:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Mercy♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she's only seeing you now then that should give you some comfort. However, if her past bothers you so much that you are uncomfortable then breaking up would be best. Obviously, you are okay with breaking up because you are asking if her past is a good enough to break up. If you were really into her, you'd be trying to find solutions on how to deal with it. The bottom line is...everyone has a past. If it's indeed the past then no one should be punished by another for what they may have done.
2006-06-21 13:23:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're uncomfortable with it, then it's probably because of your own insecurity. You need to take a look inside. Are you worried that you won't live up to the men in her past? Are you worried about what your friends and family would think? You need to realize that her past is just that...her past. You are her present. If you also want to be her future, you'll get over it. Not to be insensitive...cuz I've been there. But, you have to grow up. Would it be better if YOU were the one with the wild past, and she was looking at you like, "I can't believe I'm stuck with this sl*t"?
Everybody has a past. Leave it in the past.
2006-06-21 13:30:03 · answer #5 · answered by Troy Powers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if she's cleaned and healthy from being with these men, and if she's just with you alone right now. it shouldn't really matter what she did in her past.
you shouldn't want to break up with someone cause of what they did in their past? its kind of selfish on your part to do that. her past isn't what she's doing now in the future. her past is in the past and thats where it should stay. don't let it freak you out cause she's had more experience then you.
Infact you should be happy that she is. i mean she knows more about sex and how to act in bed. you don't have to teach her or get bored with the same old stuff. maybe she can teach you a few new positions.
i mean what if she broke up with you cause you haven't had many partners? wouldn't you be upset by that.
if shes with you, your happy together, you have a great sexual relationship. then don't complain about what she did in the past. be lucky she's with you at all. if she sees this.
don't break up with her. its just mean. especially with this kind of an excuse.
2006-06-21 13:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by midwestsweetheart2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not break up with her! Explain to her how you feel, and you guys can learn together. Believe me, your gunna be glad you stayed. You should love her enough to able feel comfortable around her, and have a bond, if you don't, you shouldn't be doing these things anyway.
Before you can enjoy her experience, you have to be able to feel completely at ease with her, and more importantly comfortable with yourself. If you can't be, what she knows and wants to bring to the relationship, won't benefit you, so work on that first.
2006-06-21 13:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not unnatural to feel odd if yo girl has got more a** then you but love her it really shouldnt matter. But if you were me and she loved you too ask her to get checked for both of yalls sake. And no that is not a good reason to break up wit her would you want her break up wit u if you've had mo a** then her?
2006-06-21 13:25:20 · answer #8 · answered by Shorty 08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its quite natural to be uncomfortable.but it completely depends on what kind of relationship do you'll share right now.but take it from me that girls are never honest.they always have this big ego problem which becomes tough for a man to handle.moreover girls do not change easily but men do.
2006-06-21 13:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by mannubhai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip & learn from her experience...You'll be alot better off if you open yourself up to learn all she knows...It's great fun when women reveal things you can then use to drive her wild...
2006-06-21 13:33:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋