Me and my girlfriend recently decided to take some time apart. but we couldnt stop calling each other. She made out with a guy and told me about it, I made out with a girl and told her about it. She then met this guy named Josh she kind of likes (they met 2 days ago) last night she came up and actually stayed the night with me after i talked her into it. It was awkward at first but we eventually fooled around and told each other we loved each other and kissed numerous times. But when she left today and headed home Josh talked to her and she told him only that she stayed the night with me and he told her hes dissapointed. when I told her I missed her on the phone after that she said "dont say those things" I know she's confused but I want nothing more than to have her back. When were together were great when not she gets confused. I wrote her a long message a few mins ago tellin her how I feel about her. should i give her space or take more action before this guy gets my girl?
2006-06-21 06:04:33 · 8 answers · asked by joeknockz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
keep telling her you love her, but dont let the other guy get close to her. you guys sound so cute together, lol
2006-06-21 06:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by sesso*E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need to stop talking and seeing each other. It is the only way you can really each decide if this is the right relationship for the both of you.
Yeah, she may date others, you may date others. That can actually be a good thing because IF you are the right guy for her, she will see that the other guys don't compare. This would hold true for you seeing other women.
Yeah, one of you may find someone you like better. Is that really a bad thing?
Either you two are right together or not. It doesn't make either of you a bad person.
You also sound young. Staying together out of fear of loneliness or losing them doesn't bring happiness and may bring a lot of hell.
Go ahead and take the break. If you two are meant to be together, it will happen down the road. Give it several months or more.
And STOP talking, emailing, texting, etc. Otherwise you are just hurting each other. I see the hurt in your question. And..guilting someone to stay with you because you hurt doesn't result in a good relationship. Don't stalk or do drivebys.
Breakups do hurt and to get rid of that pain, often our first instinct is to try to get them back. DON'T! You agreed to a break for a reason. Give that reason time to sort itself out.
To ease your pain:
Stay busy. Get out with friends, indulge your hobbies, join a gym, play a game of basketball with a friend..whatever...just keep yourself distracted.
Yes..if you want to date, do it. One warning here...if you have a really crummy date while you are still hurting, it may make you miss her more.
If you feel the need to contact her, write a letter, then crumple it up and toss it. Or..hold it for a minimum of 3 days..then reread it and decide if you really want to send it. If you send a message, don't go on about how you feel, she already knows it. Don't say things that will make her feel guilty. If you reread your letter and it does either, throw it away.
Once the sense of panic subsides you will be able to talk again. This will probably take at least 2 months.
If you are as young as you sound, you should not be afraid to be out in the market. There are lots of fine young women out there. Don't be in a rush to get serious so soon.
And darn it! BE smart if you are having sex. NO GLOVE, NO LOVE. A baby NEVER solves relationship problems, it only makes them worse!
2006-06-21 13:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well who decided on spending time apart from each other? was it her or you? or was both of you?
caues if it was her, maybe she's confussed about the being with you and wants to see what else is out their before she decides if your the only one for her.
cause when you talk her it doesn't sound like your doing much of what she is by dating other guys and now liking this josh.
maybe you should give her a day or two to think about what she wants, maybe tell her not to date this guy for a day or two and have her really think of what she wants with you and your relationship? just tell her it would mean alot of to you if she did. cause its not fair for her to like this josh guy and yet come and spend the night with you, telling her she loves you. then going back to him afterwards. its just confussing to you.
but i don't see why you don't go out with other girls too while your seperated. maybe to see what else it out their. you shouldn't have to sit at home and wonder what she's doing and driving yourself crazy over it.
its a hard one this. but give her some space if she needs it, but once in awhile remind her why you love her too.
2006-06-21 13:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by midwestsweetheart2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better not push yourself on her. You said that she spent the night with you only after you convinced her. Sweetie, if she needs convincing, then that is a problem. Best bet it is going to be to tell her that you care about her, love her and that you will be there for her, but let her take the break that you guys decided on. Enjoy yourself while you are apart. It sounds so cliche` but if it is meant to be, then it will be. Hope that helps!
2006-06-21 13:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by amcconnell79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! Take her in if you really care and love her! Don't give her so much space that she'll completely leave you!
2006-06-21 13:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get as far away from her as you can in a hurry. There is a destructive, hurtful pattern developing here.
2006-06-22 09:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by daca_moracca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take action but NOT aggressive action.
2006-06-21 13:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by faintwhispers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her and go out with me
2006-06-21 13:10:50 · answer #8 · answered by jjameslovr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋