I was reading a baby book, and it said that this woman dealt with a lot of women who didn't LOVE their baby right off the bat! It took them some time to get to know their baby and stuff?!
I'm confused, when i ask my family and friends they are like, that moment that baby is placed on your belly, your whole life changes and you love that baby more than anything!
Is this true for most women, I'm nervous that I won't love this baby as much as I love my husband or family! First time Mother I Guess!!
HELP!
2006-06-21 05:48:04 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It just got me totally nervous for when our baby arrives!
2006-06-21 05:52:40 · update #1
This is called post partum depression. It does happen. You just need to get help right away if you start feeling upset. You should be fine if your that worried talk to your doctor.
2006-06-21 05:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by lrybio2006 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I honestly didn't think I loved mine at first. It wasn't anything to do with him, he was cute and had all his fingers and toes, but I didn't know what to do with him. Newborns are kind of....well, boring. They just cry and sleep (and poop). It's a long cycle that continues for weeks on end. Once they hit the two month mark or so they get more fun and start interacting. You don't really see any personality until then.
I also suffered from PPD that I didn't get treated right away, so that made my case worse. My husband found me one day in the garage plotting to run away with my two cats! This time, I am prepared and have been on antidepressants to combat any of those weird impulses.
I now love my son more than ANYTHING, and want to make sure he has the best of life. I guess it's just like any other relationship, you do have to get to know them and as newborns, well, there isn't much happening, you go though the motions and care for them with everything you have, but are so tired and silly with the overwhelming responsibility that calling it immediate love may be a bit of a leap.
2006-06-21 05:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by barefeet561 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What those mothers are suffering from is PPD or post partum depression. It really depends if you get that or not. These mothers express that they didn't love their child when in reality they did love their child, it just wasn't what they thought it would be. They thought that it would be the happiest moment of their lives and live happily ever after when in reality it is very difficult to have a newborn baby and all these new emotions and hormones surging. Have no doubt that you will love your baby, and don't read too much into everyone else's problems, just look forward to the day your baby gets here and discuss with your doctor your concerns about PPD. Congrats on your baby!
2006-06-21 05:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by all8418 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women suffer from post partum depression which causes them to become depressed after child birth.It can happen to anyone.It has nothing to do with the person and is no reflection on them.The thing about post partum depression is that if left untreated it can lead to sychosis and could potentially cause a new mother to inflict pain or bring harm to their babies.Post partum is temporary and even the women who suffered from it will love their babies more than anything.Its just that the body goes through so much during childbirth and our hormones get all out of whack.But ofter the depression passes,and they look at that new baby.Their hearts will melt.That instinct to nurture will become so stong that they will be surprised at how much they are capable of loving.You will love that baby more than you ever thought you could love anyone.And that feeling will never change.Just you wait and see.I am so excited for you!!!! I had my daughter 23 months ago and I am amazed daily at this little miracle,to be a mother is an undescribable feeling that I never want to lose...EVER!!! You'll be fine.Its just the jitters.There is so much than can happen and you are just alittle more aware of that fact because you have that precious baby growing inside of you and your motherly insinct to protect it is already in action.GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-06-21 08:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by girlqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to do great! I myself am pregnant for the first time. I know after I go through the journey with my baby to bring it into this world I will be so happy of what we accomplished. Its all how you see things. If you blame your baby for all the pain that you went through, yeah you may not like it, but that is selfish. And you know there will be times after the baby is born that you will be tired and wished for a break but you will not ever stop loving your baby. You sound like a smart woman, stay that way for the babe, Have Fun!
2006-06-21 05:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very common i was kind of like that i got the baby blues really bad the first few days after i had my son i just wanted to have my husband back it was like we could not even talk with out being interupted by the baby so i ended up sending him to the nursery for some time during the first days so that i could just be with my husband but i talked about it with him and he told me that i would be okay and that we would still have time for each other, i think it was more the great fluctuation in my horomones than anything else, and once i hit about the 3rd day after i had him i was just fine and i loved him more than anything in the world and now i would not give him up for anything
2006-06-21 07:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my first son, I loved him from the minute I first felt him move in my belly. When he was born and they set him on my stomach...words can't describe how I felt about him. Yes, it was love. :)
With my second son, I loved him, but in a different way. I can't really explain it...he was an emergency c-section, so I think it's a couple of factors that made me feel about him like I did. A) he wasn't planned... My older son was only 6 months old when I became pregnant with my second son, so that was a shocker. All I could think was, "How are we going to handle TWO babies??"; B) he was, as I've said, an emergency c-section, and I felt sort of "cheated" after his birth. I really was looking forward to my labor and delivery. I didn't get that with him; and C) once he was in my arms, I loved him immediately, but it wasn't the same as with my first son. All I kept thinking was, "I'm in over my head...now I have TWO kids. What am I gonna do??" Today (he's soon going to be a year) he (and his brother) are the lights of my life. Words can't describe how dearly and how deeply I love them.
2006-06-21 05:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't freak out .. when your baby is born and you hear that cry the love will be there . it does happen to some new mom's , but not every mother .. I am sure the % is very low on mom's that have to learn to love their baby's .. if you love that baby now , your love will triple when the baby is here .. you don not need the extra stress.. when I was pregnant with my first son .. I had weird thoughts to .. but the min. he cryed I started crying cause I loved him so much ,, the love for your child is so strong it is almost mind blowing ..good luck I am sure you will be a wonderful mother ..
2006-06-21 06:14:57 · answer #8 · answered by blueflowerscs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have four kids loved them from the moment i know. It's not you grow in to loving them like you would to a guy. You just will and love them more and more each day. Women may have a hard time getting use to the ides of always taking care of them, But You LOVE them at the moment of know you conceive
2006-06-21 06:02:07 · answer #9 · answered by Life is Good with 4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most mothers do feel a STRONG bond, and love the second their child is born. But SOME mothers suffer from post partum depression "baby blues". It does not happen to everyone, and if it does, there is medicine that can and will help. I did not have this but my friend did. Talk to your doctor immediatly if you start feeling some of this.
2006-06-21 05:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by EB&Js 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't feel like I loved my baby right away but after the first night in the nursery, I found that I couldn't be without her and while my hubby was asleep I went to the nursery and sat with her and I loved her so much from that moment on.
2006-06-22 04:28:28 · answer #11 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋