What can I do when my husband gets mad at my 7 year old son and starts calling him bad names like fat fker?t?

Answer 1

i would tell him that from now on you will deal with him when he is going some thing wrong you don't want your son to grow up hating he's dad. my son will be seven in DEC. and my husband would never think of saying any thing to him like that.. name calling even out of anger is abuse, it is not right to say mean things to kids they don't any better.. please try and stop it before it turns in to something really bad..

Answer 2

8 years old = Gr 3 correct ? I remember When I was in Gr. 3 I was running around saying stupid stuff , beating other kids up. I also had a little brother pass away when I was 5. But never ever I said stupid stuff to my mom, the reason that is because I am East Indian and if I did even say anything close to a swear word or some thing similar to a swear word I would have got slap, A slap beat down lol hahaha. But I also had this other friend who was Caucasian in gr.3, me and him use to do stupid stuff in class, yell out bad things. He reminds me of your kid. He was really spoiled and he use to say mean things to is mom and just get away with it, If I said stuff like too my mom I would have gotten some serious beats. I think thats the difference , thats why Indian kids stay in line and do not disrespect their parents as much. Heres a list of things I think you should do 1. Give him a spanking here and there, if he gets too out of control( I got spankings I turned out right , I didn't turn into some serial killer because I got a few spankings , like they show on TV lol. ) 2. Talk to him, tell him, try to explain to him your pain , your emotions , what are you feeling. Is not young to understand,I was that age once and I understood from wrong and right. 3. Show him your struggles , 4. Try molding him, just don't give him a punishment and thats it. Tell him why he is getting punished , show him that what he did hurt you , and show him how he can better himself. Remember a spanking or two does not hurt anyone.

Answer 3

Seriously, I would wait until afterwards to ask your Husband why he uses the names in the first place, he may not even realize he is using the words.

Very similar to yelling at people that cannot hear you in traffic after they cut you off, words just come out sometimes.

If you get a REAL answer, try to let him know when he is doing it, unless you get in trouble too. Hopefully he can try to change the way he yells. I'll be honest most of us got yelled at while being children as I am sure you will agree, so since most people will yell at their children, I would try to communicate to your husband about the importance of conveying the message with out the descriptive adjectives.

The sad result is that your son will start to act the same way if he continues to hear the names, right now it will just make him feel bad, but later he will talk to other people like that. And then your husband will yell at him for that as well later.

Hope this may help.

Answer 4

Never criticize your husband in front of your son. It'll look like the marriage is falling apart. Try to talk to him about it when the kid is not around. If that doesn't work and the name-calling starts to destroy the kid's ego, you might say something on the spot. Not sure about that, though!

At the same time, maybe your son should lose some weight. Being overweight is of serious concern, although not meriting name-calling.

Anyway the key is to give your husband a chance to alter his act. If you never hint that it bothers you when he says that then he probably has no idea how much he is traversing the boiling point.

Answer 5

Stand up for your child. Tell your husband how damaging his words can be to his son. Seek family counseling through church or doctors. The worse thing you can do is nothing. What your husband is doing is verbally abusing your son. A harsh word can leave lasting marks just like a punch in the face.

Answer 6

Tell him "Look man you not going to F-U-C-K up my kids life and give him low self esteem!"
He is probably going to school taking it out on other kids if he has not already started doing this.

http://marriage.about.com/cs/domesticviolence/gr/verballyabusive.htm

Your husband is an A-$$.
When you climb in bed to night with him you will be laying next yo an a$$ hole that is ruining your child's life. Look over at him and you'll be looking at an A$$ hole.
His job is to make you son feel safe and loved, not call him names. Your home should be a safe haven from the world not a cage of verbal abuse.

STOP HIM NOW!!!

Answer 7

You need to slap him silly, don't let him treat your child like that or he is going to grow up to have some serious self esteem issues. You need to sit down with your husband and have a serious talk and tell him that is not acceptable or go to marriage counseling. And then make sure you have a talk with your son as well.

Answer 8

Get out. I am sorry but if an adult wants to be in a bad relationship by themselves it is fine. They are only hurting themselves..........if an adult is in an abusive relationship with a child ...........there is no excuse. Find the courage to leave. Your child is your top priority. There are crisis centers that will take you. If you don't want to leave him, I would suggest having him go and visit a relative for awhile. This kind of treatment could do serious damage to him.

Answer 9

Tell him to stop right then and there. That can seriously damage a child and ruin their self esteem later in life. That's actual child abuse, it's defined as Mental Abussiveness. Go over different ways for you husband to vent his anger and frustration to NOT take it out on your son. If he keeps it up, you're going to have to decide who you love more.

Answer 10

You need to get a divorce!!! that's not a good enviroment for a child and he's going to think that his dad doesn't love him because he's calling your son these names it's bringing your sons self esteem way down!!