In his first month of high school, by a roomfull of students, and if he has never been in trouble in his life, but people have been out to get him his whole life.
2006-06-21 05:41:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I know he didn't pull it, because I am the person in question. And yes, I did have people out to get me my whole life. That's the way the cookie crumbled for me. What did my dad said about this situation? "It happens to everybody!"
2006-06-21 07:04:18 · update #1
I think you should consider moving him to a new school as if the bullying continues (since you say people have been out to get him) it could effect him pretty badly especially his education.
Children can be bullied by a class they are in as it happened to me.
Also if you feel and know he's telling the truth in that he didn't do it, sit him down and tell him so, as he probably feels pretty low about the situation anyway and he maybe pretty depressed in the fact that you don't believe him when he's always done the right thing
2006-06-21 05:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by Craftyness 2 · 8⤊ 4⤋
I understand. My middle son is in 8th grade and every time something happens he is blamed because he is a little more "rambunctious" then others. I just explained to him that if he did not do something he was blamed for then not to worry. He is an honest kid, I can tell when he is lying. People want someone to blame, or take the blame for everything. Dont stoop to their level and dont go head over heels to deny it. Tell the truth and if no one wants to beilive them, it is not his fault. If it is a matter of being in trouble with the principle, then you need to talk to that principle and tell him/her, that unless they have a credible witness, (teacher, other school official), that saw your son pull the fire alarm, then he cant get into trouble. Fight it if you have to, your son will thank you.Good Luck
2006-06-21 05:49:32 · answer #2 · answered by EB&Js 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it difficult to believe that an entire group of people singled him out and have been "out to get him" his entire life. That sounds a little dramatic and it sound like some one likes being the victim.
IF (by some slim chance ) it is true...then it sounds like the "child" needs to work on his self esteem...it's the "weakest in the herd" that get singled out....If he shows some confidence and doesn't ACT like the victim...he won't BE the victim.
By the way, buying into the whole "out to get him his whole life" BS is only making his "victim" syndrome worse...suck it up, life isn't easy and life isn't fair...but it sure as hell doesn't mean anyone is "out to get him"...stop encouraging that kind of thought...you're not helping.
2006-06-21 06:02:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's important to be able to trust your child, but on the other hand maybe he's not as innocent as you'd like to think. Especially at that age don't just assume that because he hasn't been in trouble before that he can't get into trouble now... there's a first time for everything. Why do you think people are out to get him... that's rarely the case unless he's given them a reason.
2006-06-21 05:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by In the light 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of hard to believe that an entire roomful of people would lie about your friend pulling the fire alarm if they saw him. If you weren't in the room you should probably not believe him that he didn't do it. Most people who say everyone is out to get them are just using it as an excuse to do stupid crap they shouldn't be doing.
2006-06-21 05:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by KL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Out to get him?" Well, that just goes to show you that indeed he did pull the fire alarm and deserves the punishment. Anyone with this thinking has some major issues.
2006-06-21 05:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by Dreamlander 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the punishment he received for it...if he has to go to detention or is suspended, then I would react but first I would make sure that he did not do it!
If he just got a warning then I would let it go; he shouldn't have been near there to be suspected in the first place.
2006-06-21 05:46:20 · answer #7 · answered by Daisy DJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he didnt pull it on a dare from kids he wanted to like him?
And I cant help but be bothered by you saying people have been out to get him his whole life..........its seems a slight bit paranoid.
2006-06-21 06:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by Stewiesgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't there so unfortunately you only know what he has told you. Think about the fact that he might have done it. NOT saying he did, but only people who were there would know the truth. And if he did or didn't let it go.....it is not worth stressing over.
2006-06-21 05:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by dom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he didn't do it then he should have a defending lawyer and have people to find the real person who pulled the fire alarm
2006-06-21 14:51:39 · answer #10 · answered by donaldcool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋