Am I wrong in thinking that one of them should be responsible and drive themselves? I am one whom doesn't drink and drive and they know that . But should I also take their responsiblilty too? What do I do?
2006-06-21 05:35:40 · 25 answers · asked by Trina V 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, I guess at least they are being somewhat responsible by trying to find a designated driver. But, I still don't think that you should be relied upon fo be the designated driver.
Here are some good excuses to get out of it.
1. Say that they are out of your way to pick up
2. Tell them you are leaving early and it sounds like they want to stay late and drink.
3. If those fail, say your car is really messy and there is not room for them to fit!
I would also be cautious, because if you do it once and they get used to it... you may be called upon every time they are stranded at the local bar with no way home. I would say call a cab and play it safe.
2006-06-21 05:47:07 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you are going to the wedding also, why not drive them. The problem with in laws is usually the outlaws and his/her significant other. Ask yourself if this request was made from your own parents how would you respond. More then likely you will oblige, because you would not want to learn later they died due to the over influence of alcohol. Your response to your husband's parents request may cause a problem in your relationship later on, if the above does happen.
By catching a ride with you to and from the wedding will not hurt, it can only save someone; not to mention you will be taking them to their home not yours.
Please make your decision on what you would want done for your own parents.
2006-06-21 12:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by queenshasha2hot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are picking a Designated Driver, which makes them very responsible. Thankfully, they are choosing not to drink and drive, and perhaps saving everyone from having to attend their funerals.
You know that they will still drink and drive if you say no, so why not think more positively and be thankful that they have the presence of mind to ask you first instead of just assuming you'll do it.
2006-06-21 12:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by kalsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think they are being responsible by asking someone to drive them if they are going to be drinking. i quit drinking over six years ago and now have been named the family designated driver. It is an inconvenience yes. But I would rather be unconvinced then lose a loved one in an accident. Try having that on your conscience the rest of your life.
2006-06-21 12:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by JACK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you dont drink you should do this for them just to be nice. is it really going out of your way to drive them? A family wedding doesnt come all the time so think of it as hanging out with your friends like in the days you went out to bars and clubs. if you want to drink to then get a cab for everyone. enjoy the wedding dont make a big deal out of it
2006-06-21 12:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by Baconbits 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least they are being responsible in finding a dd.If you choose to drink also maybe you should get together with them and find a dd that you would trust not to drink,or maybe get a hotel for the night so no one has to drive and everyone is safe.
2006-06-21 12:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so you have a problem with them making arrangements to get home safe????
FRIENDS DON"T LET FRIENDS DRINK AND DRIVE.
Are you upset because they want to drink? I mean are they alcoholics? If they aren't then I don't see the problem.
If you just don't want to drive them then tell them and maybe they will find another way.
The point is they are being responsible by assigning a sober driver.
2006-06-21 12:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by redbone_lds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drive them, besides they are your inlaws, if we don't have to create tensions between them that may affect your relationship with them and your husband, we have to do things that can please them. it's a favor and a favor is always a favor that may not happen again. as the wife of their son/sibling, you have to obey them and if you think it's not a responsibility, think that as their inlaw, you have an obligation to please them so you won't regret not obeying them in the future. maybe next time, you and your husband will also ask a favor to them. besides it's only a one day drive, after that you'll be glad of doing something for them.
2006-06-21 12:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by babypards 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to take responsibility for them selves and drive themselves
2006-06-21 12:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by gchastonay@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You drive them, I mean they are being responsible by asking one of you, after all it doesn't have to be your partner that is sober just anyone who will be willing to drive sober.. if you don't want to don't but don't say they aren't being responsible BC that's why they asked you ..they are being responsible..
2006-06-21 12:40:26 · answer #10 · answered by DAZED & CONFUSED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋