Mine is very mean to my children and wont listen to me, the whole house is in shambles the whole time he is here because he wont listen, what do I do, does anyone else have the same problem?
2006-06-21 05:20:20 · 7 answers · asked by sliknydinkydoodahday 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i don't have stepchildren because i have never been married but i do have a stepdad. ever since my mom married him, my life has been a living Hell: i do stuff for him and he never does stuff for me; he yells at me when i do the least little thing wrong (i.e. having a sock inside out, having my sheet hanging below my comforter or bedspread, etc.); he always says i am useless; he calls my dad an a**hole when he has done nothing wrong; but the worst thing is that in public in front of people we know, he is the 'nicest' person but at home he is horrible and sometimes even in public...whenever i am alone in public away from him, people are like he is so nice, he's a great dad but they don't have to live with him......
but trying to help you, get you and your spouse together and talk to the boy but do it nicely---us kids are still kids even though we are becoming adults but we are still human and have emotions just like you... i understand you will never "love" or appreciate him as much as you do your own flesh and blood but still have some respect and admiration for him because when you married your spouse, you married him/her for that person entirely not just that person's love---don't forget, the children are the future and it is your job to care for them...just talk it out with him and your spouse and find a middle ground or grey area between black and white... be the better man and let him know you care and he might possibly care in return... do the right thing: talk and love him
2006-06-21 05:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by good_wasp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm specific Dr. Freud might have some sort of superb opinion in this yet, regrettably, i'm no longer Dr. Freud so which you're caught with mine. Being the manufactured from the two a Stepfather and mom i think of a splash animosity in the beginning up is regularly occurring. You the two are getting to understand the thank you to push one yet another's buttons and, greater importantly, the thank you to share a kinfolk member. Your stepchild isn't your toddler and that's significant to be attentive to and settle for in the present day in spite of the indisputable fact that, that would not recommend you enable the youngster walk throughout you. think ofyou've have been given to make it common which you're nonetheless the grownup yet no longer the determine yet don't be obnoxious approximately it. undergo in innovations, you are the "intruder" in the youngster's eyes. it is not trouble-free coming from a split living house, cut back the youngster some slack and attempt to locate some trouble-free floor the place the two one in all you are able to strengthen some relationship, no count how superficial. Oh, and one final notice, you disliking the stepchild i'm specific is rather clean to the organic and organic mom and father.
2016-12-08 23:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At times I do dislike my stepchild, shes very selfish, disrespectful, and sometimes, sad to say, 2 faced. I usually tell her father how I feel and what problems I have and he usually takes care of it.... Ive been a step mom for 8 years and times it gets better, I just think as long as you stand your ground with him, tell him that house has rules and he WILL follow them or else and include his dad in everything thats going on, it will get better as the child grows up....
2006-06-21 05:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by heavensent41770 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate the behavior, love the child.
Be kind, firm and consistant, set down the rules and punish bad behavior with suitable consequences. Your spouse ought to be laying down the law. This kid is going to be a part of your family for a lifetime even if he is on visitor status - better he should learn to fit in or you are in for rough ride for a long time. You are the adult - show him the way.
2006-06-21 05:28:49 · answer #4 · answered by workingclasshero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thankfully, I love my stepson. He is an angel when he's with us (12 years old). Where's your stepchild's dad? Have him lay down the law to him and set rules. If he breaks rules or treats people poorly, he's disciplined. Sounds like your husband needs to do some major parenting.
2006-06-21 05:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on .... he's not really that mean .. is he ?? It's all in your mind.
I know its hard to love him cause you have your own kids to think about.. and thats obviously not your fault to feel that way.
But give the poor kid a break... he already lost his mom ... dont make him feel worst.
I know being a step mom its more work then being a mom for your own child.
pat pat << giving you a pat on your bag
you've done a great job so far .. keep it up!!
2006-06-21 05:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what being a stepmom have to endure. Have a cane in your hands to scare him.
2006-06-21 05:25:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋