So, my girlfriend and i have been together for 7 years in a mostly long distance relationship, we went to seperate colleges have seperate careers (she is in Med School - I am in sales), both of us have felt like we needed a break at one point or another but we have never broken it off completely She actually did about 3 weeks ago.Tthere has been true love here the kind you may never find in a million years of searching. She decided that she loves me, but is no longer in love (for now). We still talk everyday and see eachother once in awhile, She is my bestfriend, but i can not just be friends with her. Right now there is no initimacy and she is having a real hard bieng intimate although she has been being warmer with hugs and actual passionate kisses. (these were not there 3 weeks ago) But she still needs to time. What else can i do to get her back...not convince her or trick her to love me, but get her to feel the same way.
2006-06-21 05:10:40 · 10 answers · asked by dave g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes know dont let her go it is ment to be
2006-06-22 04:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have been in a relationship with the same guy for about 3 years. he's older than me, we both go to different schools, etc. when i first went to college, we decided to put everything on hold. we also talked about dating other people and such. i assumed after the semi breakup that we would get back together (DONT ASSUME) and then the unthinkable happend. a big fight occured and my ex would never talk to me or see me again. i was devistated. i actually moved on, until recently. he apologized to me and we began dating again. we're really close friends and are even intimately close. however, we are not back in a relationship yet. with our situation, we're scared as soon as we get back to school and not seeing eachother as often we'll just end up on hold again. so for us, until we can actually develop a good, healthy relationship, we are keeping everything on hold. we are best friends and will continue to be close to eachother. i honestly can't imagine being with anyone else. but long distances happen, and the best thing to do is to just wait things out.
in your case, your ex may be scared to commit if she isnt 100% sure. how many people did she date before you? let her date other people, and you should too. sometimes you don't know what your type is since you've been with the same person for so long. if you take a break and then end up back together, it was meant to be. all you can do it is wait it out and not think about it too much, otherwise you'll become stressed and overprotective.
like i was saying, me and my boyfriend both dated other people and still feel completely strong about eachother and neither of us has ever had a serious relationship since we broke up... barely any relationships, just dating. so it is possible to break it off with someone just to experience the single life and life without eachother, and still fall in love with the person you loved in the first place.
2006-06-21 05:23:24 · answer #2 · answered by crazy_beautiful714 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her time i think and be there for her like you are now.
Same thing has happened to me.
Me and my gf went out for a year and a half (the last 7 months she was away for school but we still saw each other on holidays and every 2-3 weekends.
Well all of a sudden she told me that she needed some time (like yours it seems). Well i found out a few weeks later that she had hooked up with some guy twice after we broke up and when i confronted her on it she admitted to it and wasn;t really sure why. She said she had some feelings for him but that she still had feelings for me too and wasn't sure what she wanted.
Well to make a long story short, i was devistated, heart-broken and sometimes sick to my stomach thinking about what had happened but we still talked and i actually helped her when school was over and i gave her a ride home. Since then we have hung out and the month we have been getting really close again. Hugs, kisses, I luv u's, etc. We fooled around once or twice but haven't been intimate yet since what happened and everytime it happens to come up its awkward. She says that she realizes that I am a great guy and she wants to be with me and pictures marriage and family in our future.
All in all what I am trying to say is good luck, and like i said, just be there for her. If you two are kissing and hugging and stuff it shows that she is comfortable with you and still has feelings. Don't rush her into making a final decision though.
The saying is true "If you love something let it go, if it returns back to you then it was meant to be."
2006-06-21 05:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my ex were together for 2 years and then I decided that we needed a break. We remained friends, and about 1 1/2 years later we got married. We were married for 5 years and then we decided that it just wasn't working and divorced.
2006-06-21 05:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by bluskygreengrass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 11:16:17 · answer #5 · answered by ehrlich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked about commitment? Is that something that she wants but isnt available right now? Maybe she is just in a place right now and she needs to decide where she is going.
2006-06-21 05:13:37 · answer #6 · answered by callalobo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE HAS TO SEE FOR HERSELF BUT BASICALLY RIGHT NOW SHE IS JUST BEING SELFISH SHE NEEDS TO REMEBRER THAT SHE CHOOSES NOT TO LOVE YOU THE SAME LOVE IS A CHOICE NOT A FEELING SO YOU CANT FALL OUT OF LOVE WITH SOMEONE SHE HAS JUST CHOSED NOT TO LOVE YOU LIKE SHE DID BEFORE SHE IS BEING SELFISH IF YOU LEFT HER ALONE MAYBE SHE WOULD REALIZE HOW MUCH SHE LOVES YOU MAYBE SHE KNOWS SHE HAS YOU SO SHES BORED AND MAYBE YOU MAKE YOURSELF TO AVALIBALE TO HER AND SHE IS BORED TO DEATH AND NOW SHE IS TRYING TO SLOWLY CREEP OUT THE RELATIONSHIP BUT NOT COMPLETELY BECAUSE SHE KNOWS SHE HAS YOU TO FALL BACK ON NO MATTER WHAT SHE DOES. wanna talk more email me jus_032000@yahoo.com
2006-06-21 05:17:27 · answer #7 · answered by Justin D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the saying goes, "If you love something let it go, if it returns back to you then it was meant to be."
2006-06-21 05:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Propose. If she says yes, then you know what to do. if she says no. You should move on.
2006-06-21 05:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by Johnydepp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WIN HER OVER WITH A PROPOSAL
2006-06-21 05:14:10 · answer #10 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋