we have son age 7 want to adopt a girls shall i go for relative or orphanage will my son accept it .?

Answer 1

First of all congrats for even considering adopting....I myself and an adoptive mother, my husband and I have 2 birth children and adopted a little girl when she was 7 (now 14) So I have three girls, 8, 10, and 14. My number one priority was the well being of my two birth children and how they would accept a sibling coming into our lives. My situation is kind of like yours, my grandmother was a foster parent for 22 years, she had the little girl we adopted for 7 years and she kinda got caught up in the system and was forgot about, when they realized, she was given the choice to adopt her or let her go into foster care, but they told her that she could not keep her in her care any longer, so my husband and I decided to adopt her, she was already a part of our family. The decision is a hard and difficult one, because you have to realize these children in orphanages, are there for a reason, something tramatic has happened to them you have to be ready to deal with those problems and the possiblity that the problems will effect the whole family. Just do some research and some soul searching to make sure that you can handle a child with special needs. But I assure you that the outcome and and the GREAT things to come will outweigh the bad, these children just want to be loved. Good luck!

Answer 2

If there is a relative who is pregnant and unable to take care of the future baby, by all means, offer to adopt the baby. But, be sure to get the birth parent's rights (if any) in writing!

An orphanage is also a great idea, but you may have trouble adopting a healthy newborn since they are the most sought after.

If you keep your son involved in the process, he will be more likely to transition smoothly to the new family dynamic, but you can still expect some jealousy.

My older son was almost six when we had our second son, and as much as he was looking forward to the birth, he still had a couple of rough weeks after his brother was born. Its to be expected.

Now my boys are very close (at 16 and 11) and wouldn't know what to do without each other.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

there's a lot of factors to consider here...

if you have a relative that wants to adopt their child it would be beautiful to keep it in the family... but if not taking a child who feels unwanted and alone from an orphanage and giving them love and family is a beautiful wonderful thing to do... though not necessarily easy... the older the child the more problems they tend to have...

with your son ask him if he wants a little sister to play with... he wont have a mature reasonable answer because hes only 7 but include him, ask him, bring him to the orphanage, let him meet her there, involve him in the process like you would if you were pregnant.. letting him touch you belly and talk to the baby, so he knows in is own innocent way that there will be someone else, and he starts accepting that fact before it just happens...

Good Luck

Answer 4

If you have a child and you want to adopt a child, I think you should sit your child down and tell him what you'd like to do and ask him/her what they think about it. Make sure that your child is in agreement with your decision about the adoption so everyone is happy about it. You also want to know if you should go for a relative adoption or an orphanage adoption, it's what you think would be best for you and your family. Good luck on your decision!!!

Answer 5

The best way to help a child accept another child adopted, is to sit your son down & explain you want to adopt another child with which to share the goodness of your household. This keeps the anxiousness out of his thinking you want to replace him. It is often best to go to an orphanage because if it's a relative he knows, he may be overly jealous. Whatever you do, 1st & foremost make certain your child knows you love him very much. Make certain you include your son in as much of the proceedings as possible helping him understand he is adopting this child along w/you. He is old enough to understand he will be the big brother & will need to help take care of the child; he will need to know the new child will need alot of love from him as well as you.
By doing all this, you let the child know he is secure in his environment & it's okay to let someone else in because he will share everything involved with this other child, with you. Since he will be a part of the adoption process & expected to help take care of the child, his world will be okay.

Answer 6

I would encourage you to adopt from an orphanage so many children who need a family. Talk with you son and do not be afraid to take him to the orphanage. Tell him he will the older brother, make him feel important,

Answer 7

is there a reason why you can't have another child of your own? just asking, because adoption comes with its own set of problems and no matter how you adopt, it is not the same as having your own child. you will still be raising another mother's child. a child that will have bonded in the womb with another mother.

i know adoptees who are returning to their natural (not 'birth' but natural as the bond sure the heck didn't end with birth!) families, changing back their names, and even getting "adopted-back".

even international adoptees are seeking out their original families. i've included some links below to writings by adoptees who are unhappy with having been adopted.

did you know that most mothers who surrender a baby to adoption want to keep their babies? they feel pressured though to surrender, especially if resources and support have been withheld from them and this itself is a human rights violation.

the cost of an international adoption would sponsor a whole family in one of those "poor nations" for many years, enabling that family to remain together.

i'd say to go for a child of your own if at all possible. or, if that fails, an embryo adoption but fully disclosed so that the child can meet their genetic parents one day but you will be the one who would be pregnant and be giving birth to that child.

but adopting a girl? she'll always feel like she's not like the rest of your family and that her bond is elsewhere. check out this article called "My Real Mother," written by a friend of mine, Emily: http://www.originscanada.org/adoptees/elephantgirl.html . It tells how adoptees often feel and they don't tell their adoptive parents this type of stuff.

Answer 8

Check the law in India - you can only adopt an orphan, not a relative's child (if the relative is still alive). The laws for adoption in India are getting pretty strict (for residents as well as NRI's). Be very cautious.

Answer 9

ask your son. what do you mean by go for a relative? do you mean he is adopted and he has a real sister that is up for adoption? if so yes adopt her always try to keep siblings together

Answer 10

Talk to your son, how the whole family will change!!! And go for what ever your heart tell you.