3 questions sex partners?

Question

1. What is it you can do or show him/her when you are making love to that special one thats been with 10-15-20+ sex partners? Whats left, you know they have done everything that can be done! 2. Will someone like that be happy with one person? 3. Why do some people feel they need that many sex partners?

Answer 1

1. Doesn't matter how many partners there have been. Every partner is different in likes, dislikes, turn ons, connection, etc. And every time of making love is different - the emotions going on, the time of life, and so on.

There is so much emphasis on variety, that complexity and depth are completely ignored. Being able to recognize and connect at whatever level is going on at that time of physical intimacy is what is important. Be present in that moment and work with it. Relax into making that time the thing that is receiving your full dedication.

For instance, when many people kiss - they have 4 or 5 other things going on in their mind. Probably more that that don't even recognize or know how to handle. The best kisses are when there are only two people, in that moment entirely, able to let go of everything else and let the moment be without internal distractions.

That's when the complexity and depth of that person you are with comes out. And it changes, every day. The quicky. The 'making love without intercourse'. F*cking. Playful and laughing. Letting the different voices within us be able to be serious, play, intimate, lusting - whatever.

Being able to show who WE truly are in that moment, that's something that no amount of other partners can ever show or give.

2. Only they can answer that question. Some focus only on variety and diversity. If one can find the ability to truly experience and embrace the subtle depth and complexities of intimacy with one person instead of the broad contrasts of color and taste with different people - then they can be happy with one person.

3. There could be a variety of reasons. Problems with being truly intimate with someone - so the surface physical intimacy, lusting, and hormones only last so long - then it's time to move on to the next shallow relationship. Having ego thoughts - 'notches', or 'the chase', or 'the game' - where having sex does not mean being intimate with someone. It serves some other role of keeping score or measuring or just satisfying whatever Id driven desire for satiation.

Only they can reason out why the numbers have stacked up that way, and what it means to them. It's only in how one feels about the numbers that one finds what it means to them. If a woman thinks she's "loose" because she's had that many, then it means something shameful to her. If a guy thinks he's a "stud" because he's had that many, then it means something of an ego boost for him. Either way, it is a measure that the person applies to themselves. The numbers themselves mean nothing - it's only the way that we feel about how many partners there have been for us and where they have been in our lives that means something.

Answer 2

When you make love your not showing them anything. Making love is an emotion state of sex. It is how two people feel when they are together.

Someone who has had many partners can be happy with just one person when they are ready to settle down. Once they realize that being with so many people still leaves you by yourself when the day is over, that is when they will change.

Some people like sex, and variety. Some people get tired of being with the same person. Everyone is different. That is the life style that he/she chose. But that doesn't mean that person is happy of the decisions they chose during that course of time. It could of been just in the moment type of deal. Who knows. Some people don't know how to control their sex life.

Communication is the best solution.

Answer 3

1 & 2: I've had over 40 partiners... but I've been happily married to the same man for 7 years now. "Every thing that can be learned" does not exist with the right partiner. We are always discovering new things (how ever small or insignificant they might be) all the time. We still have great sex.

Dressing up, kissing in a different place, spitting, spanking, laughing, gentle hair pulling, even a little biting. Different places, being really aggressive, or submissive. Filming, pictures, watching porn together. It's all about becoming more and more comfortable with your partiner and not being afraid to be honest.

3: It's not that a person "feels" like they need many partiners, it's just if you can get it, why not? But just like I did, if you find the right person they will become all you need. It didn't happen right away, but once we got married, I promised to never cheat. And I haven't.

Answer 4

answer to question 1; Look into his/her eyes like they are the only person in the world to you as your having sex. It doesn't matter how many people you have been with as long as you show this person that their the only right now.
answer to question 2:Yes it can be done! One person can make you happy the question is are you sure if it's the right one. That right one can make you feel like there is no one else in the world.
answer to question 3: A lot of females do it to have experience as a great and wanted lover, or their just lonely as hell. There are a few women who do it for ego. Men, on the other hand, it's all about the ego.
I should know not only am i the president, I am also the president.

Answer 5

There are always moves that others before have not performes on this person I'm sure. And even if he/she has done it all, there are new twists to every move. I myself have had multiple partners and that in no way takes away from any new experiences I might have. The best thing you can do to make them happy is to seem confident of yourself sexually, don't be shy or hold back. One of the reasons he/she has had so many partners is because the right one hasn't come along...if not he/she would not be looking around still.

Answer 6

not really much, unless you want to do other positions he/she hasn't from the book Kama Sutra. or get freaky and get into a little s&m. As for being happy, sounds as if that person will never be happy with just one. He/she is a player and just wants to party and play. some people have the need to be with many partners, Only because they are afraid of commitment. maybe it is because their parents were divorced and they don't want to end up divorced too. There is much to think about on that subject. But if you are with a person that has 10 - 15 - 20+ partners, I'd run far away from him/her unless they can prove that their clean of disease and willing to take an HIV test and show you the results.

Answer 7

1. Do whats in your heart. If you truely love this person then when you two make love, you wont have to think about anything it will be like a mothers instinct, you'll just know. ( and then he will know) 2. Every one makes mistakes and maybe he didn't find the right person to be in a serious relationship with at that moment but now he has. 3. If you and your partner are in a serious relationship then I suggest that you ask them this question. You might be more understanding after that talk. Good Luck!

Answer 8

that's not as many as it might seem to you. Depends on his age. I'm 32 and been with about 30 women; if you figure that over the course of about 14 years it's about 2 a year and i've never been married (I've been with a special someone for over a year right now).
If he's 20 that's alot but let me tell you that if you really care alot about pleasing him in bed and put alot of thought into how to do it then you are already ahead of 90% of those women without even trying.

Answer 9

If your letting your partners past bother you let it go its in the past. Be happy that they trusted you enough tobe honest with you.

Experimenting is part of life you figure out what you like don't like, what works and what doesn't. Ultimately after all of that you can be happy and excited being able to please that special someone once you find them.

Your a new person that they think is special revel in that and talk the person your seeing about how you feel

Answer 10

It's kind of like dancing. Most people do it and enjoy it. You may dance with lots of people, or not. Some people may have danced every kind of dance with many different partners. But, it's not just the mechanics. Who you are dancing with makes all the difference. Learning how your partner likes to dance is part of the fun. OK, if I don't stop now this metaphor will never end.