2006-06-21 04:36:02 · 11 answers · asked by ladetina2cute4u 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Touchy subject ... some people crying in church just want to be left alone. I once saw a woman crying in church right after her daughter was killed in a wreck. She was there alone and wasn't a regular member. Apparently, no one else in her family wanted to be there, but she felt that it was the place for her to be. I just got up and walked over to her, sat down beside her, and held her hand. She did the rest. She didn't pull away, in fact, she pulled me closer and just started sobbing. I was her daughter's age so I guess she felt a connection, even though she didn't really know me. I just put my arm around her and let her cry.
But usually if I see people crying "silently", I'll just let them be.
2006-06-21 04:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by wormfarmer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. Some people want to be helped in different ways. For example, when I am crying, I always feel better when someone gives me a hug. I think that the Holy Spirit can help you to know what to do. In one case, I went over and sat with someone who was crying in church, and we ended up to be good friends for a while after that.
2006-06-21 13:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is too broad. Many times in churches people will cry out of join, as well as pain. In both cases, it can be advantageous to leave them along in solitude.
2006-06-21 12:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide whether you'd be more helpful comforting them or leaving them be. If I was crying I'd want someone to talk to and comfort me but that may not be the same with everyone.
2006-06-21 12:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by alika613 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the religion, you could ask one of the priests to go over and speak with the person. This way you are not intruding on their privacy, and if they are there to seek help from God, a priest should be the next best thing.
2006-06-21 12:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by ~•over the moon•~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people cry at church just because they are moved, not sad. They don't necessarily need comforting.
2006-06-21 11:40:07 · answer #6 · answered by darbylee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should turn and look the other way. i remember one time i was crying in church and people were staring at me. it made me feel very uncomfortable. when people stare it makes the person who is crying feel very vulnerable and uneasy.
2006-06-21 11:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a few moments and then ask if you can assist in some way in case they need help. If they appear to want to be left alone, then do so.
2006-06-21 12:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by hopflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave them alone. Give them their space. They came to church to talk to God, not to get sympathy from strangers.
2006-06-21 11:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by songbird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lick their tears and **** them
2006-06-21 11:38:32 · answer #10 · answered by Roundrunner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋