I just got a divorce w/husband. He's a cheater. I'm not ready yet, but at some point I want to take another chance. My children are 15, 13, and11 and are very possessive of me. My church doesn't have any single men my age. I don't know how I am ever going to able to meet anybody to date?
2006-06-21 04:26:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relax, it isn't all that hard. Those of us that have been divorced have all had to go through this whole getting back into the dating scene thing. In some ways it is like going to a brand new mall. You have lots of options and are over whelmed at first but then over time you figure out what you are looking for and how to avoid the bad stores and get the best deals. Your already online so that will make it easier for you to look into a variety of options ranging from chat rooms to dating sites such as yahoo. The key is to remember, nothing has really changed in the dating world. You still have to wade through a lot of toads to find your prince. As for your kids, always remember you are the grownup and don't let them get away with thinking they have the right to control your life. This is about you being happy and your life beyond them. Hopefully you will eventually find the right guy and he will win them over.
2006-06-21 04:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will meet someone again, but I will tell you this, being cheated on, especially in marriage is not easy to overcome. You will need time, and possibly counseling, to get yourself better again. The trust will eventually build again towards men, but it is hard. I have been cheated on many times and refuse to get married because I am afraid of my marriage falling apart. I have trust issues but talking to a professional really helps. I suggest you get some help to get you through this time, or talk to a friend. The only problem with friends is they are going to side with you and that isn't always the best solution to getting over the pain.
Best of luck to you. Give yourself time....there is probably someone out there in the same boat as you. If it is meant to be, you will find him.
2006-06-21 11:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by jetskichick25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll all be okay in the long run, I promise you! Look at the whole thing as a second chance to be happy and take each day as a gift.
There are plenty of guys out there with kids in their teens. You'll find one, just make sure you are ready first, and that your kids are ready too.
Good luck!
2006-06-21 11:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing that i can say to you have grown up in a single household and raised by my mother for 18 yrs is just do things for your self have fun do thing with your kids get a good relationship w/ them not saying that you don't have one. just see it as there is no one else in the picture. just a hint don't go looking for someone cause when you do that you seem to find the bad ones. just take this time to relax and see what you can do know that you might not have been able to do.
2006-06-21 11:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by you have ? i have a answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im with sacredmud... take some time off for you. i mean if you just got divorced take some time and relearn who you are.
for a male point of view, i would not even consider getting into a relationship with someone that just got divorced. I want to be with a woman that can stand on her own and take whatever comes at her. not someone that jumps from one man to another.
2006-06-21 11:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by dgr0919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a church with out single me that could be a good thing for God.But for you yes it not easy
well dating ina good place to start im 37 single (very single) No first in my life.except God .
I live a home now but i going to concore this single thing
im me or email me tasman69@verizon. net
my be we can help each other. or atleast point in a good direction
if not pray and it will come out and all will be good again.
2006-06-21 11:39:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have friends to hang out with and go places its the best way to do so, thats how I found my husband now and been for 20 yrs. its hard to start over but if you dont get out it will never happen! good luck, church is usually not the greatest to find a guy!
2006-06-21 11:31:18 · answer #7 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just search in right places. Areas with a church influence or ethical places. You should also take your time, don't feel rushed. See other people and let your kids know if they are curious, their opinion can help alot. If you need further counseling let me know, maybe I can help.
2006-06-21 11:33:24 · answer #8 · answered by Soul Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's your rush/ Take the time to learn about yourself. Go back to school. Your kids are scared that you'll leave also with another man. Put your kids first.
2006-06-21 11:30:22 · answer #9 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best time to find love...is when you not looking for it...so carry on with life...make friends...enjoy yourself...take the kids to the beach..a lake or whatever...get some sun...read a book..., go to the movies...participate in school activities..lots of single dads there....if your in a small town...look out of the box...there are lots of things going on near you...festivals...concerts etc.
but really...take time for yourself and the kids...spend more time with them...do things with them.....as for meeting someone...well...here is my 2 cents worth....
...men are like buses...u stand at the bus stop long enough..another one comes by!!!
good luck and enjoy life!
2006-06-21 11:55:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋