i am a 14 year boy my friends tell me about their sex experience i have not yer experienced i feel shame help?

Answer 1

There is NO shame what-so-ever in waiting!! If anything THEY should be ashamed!!!! Sex is something that is special and should be saved for that special person. Otherwise it is nothing to brag about. The people you are with just become statistics. I am 26 and have been with 4 guys and I feel that is TOO MANY!!!! Call me old fashioned but I am very healthy and I have NEVER had a sexually transmitted disease. Do not throw sex around lightly and when your buddies are bragging about it think about the disrespect they are passing out, not only to themselves but you and the girl too. Ask yourself if you want to be like that. Talk to your dad or mom about it or maybe a brother or guidance counselor. Just don't make any spur of the moment decisions that you will regret!!! Think safe!!! Not stupid!!!

Answer 2

There's a very good chance your friends are making it up so that THEY will feel better about themselves. If they're talking about experiences with girls that you have never met or heard of before, that's a pretty sure sign that it's all in their minds. Storytelling of this sort is perfectly normal in guys your age.

Even if they're not making it up, so what? You could make up some stories about a girl from camp, or someone else imaginary, but why bother? If it is that important to you then go ahead, but remember lies will catch up with you sooner or later. Whatever you do, DON'T pretend to have had sex with a girl that your friends know - that is SOOO unfair to the girl and can give her a bad rep just so you will feel cool in front of your friends.

And please - don't feel pressured to have sexual experiences if you're not ready or interested yet. 14 is a great age - for playing sports, getting involved in your community, and hanging out with friens both male and femal. But it's awfully early to take on the responsibility of sex with its threats of pregnancy, disease, heartache... I think guys should wait at least a couple more years and even then you need to have a good, solid relationship with your girl. Hang tough.

Answer 3

Don't be ashamed by this:) Just be happy about it. Don't go and have sex because you feel that your friends are doing it so you should too. I'm 14 also and all of my friends had sex already and I'm proud to be a virgin at my age. I mean what's the point of wasting your money on birth control and condom's to do it with someone your not even going to stay with?! Anyways just don't do anything because your friends did it. Think for yourself, and don't be ashamed. Being an virgin is a good thing!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

Christine if you have anymore questions here's my e-mail: Cecelimited101

Answer 4

Try to ignore the peer pressure and do what your instincts are telling you. Your sex life (or a lack of one) is none of your friend's business so you don't have to say anything at all. If you don't want to be out and proud about your lack of experience, just give a naughty smile and say that you don't reveal the details about that stuff and wouldn't *they* like to know...

If sex doesn't appeal to you then you shouldn't do it, whatever age you are. (The same applies to feeling ready at a young age though. As long as you and your partner are on a reasonably equal footing -i.e they aren't your teacher!- and you communicate with each other and make sure you have safer sex, I don't see a problem. People mature at different rates.)

Answer 5

Most of your friends are probably lying or at least stretching the truth and 14 is too young for real sex experience anyways. Trust me, I am not a prude, but at 14 you should be focused on having fun. At the most you should start by learning the art of socializing with woman. Learn about them, what they like, what they don't like, learn how not to get nervous, how to have polite conversation, how to be yourself, and all the other corny but very useful stuff. Then you will be ready to move forward into more physical relations when you are older!

Answer 6

Good god son you are barely a teenager, don't be ashamed, you don't want your first experience to be an embarrassing one do you! You have plenty of time so wait until the moment is right and you feel comfortable about it. Read some books on the subject, brush up, and by all means use a condom when you do decide to have sex. Make your first time memorable, and in a good way, Don't be embarrassed, you are normal !

Answer 7

At the age of 14, I'd lay pretty good odds your friends are full of it. Even if they aren't, you have no reason to feel shame. What you *might* be ashamed of is if you got someone pregnant at the age of 14, or if you looked back on your first experiences later in life and regretted them. Don't sweat it.

Answer 8

I'm willing to bet most of your friends are blowing smoke up your butt! Trying to make themselves look cool. Quit worrying about it. You are a kid! enjoy being one. you have a lifetime ahead of you. Enjoy your youth and quit trying to grow up so fast. Do the things a 14 yo boy should be doing. Trust me, you will have plenty of opportunity for sex when you are older, don't rush it! You shouldn't feel shame and don't let them bother you. You will feel alot more shame when you meet someone special and they find out that you have slept with alot of people. Respect yourself so that special person in your future can respect you. Good Luck

Answer 9

You're way too young to think about or to have sex! What are you going to do if you get some girl pregnant. Most guys lie about their sexual experience just to fit in. Hell, most don't even know how to wash their balls yet! You should never feel ashamed or pressured into sex. You're a kid, be a kid, go ride your bike and play video games. Finish school and learn how make good money. Best of luck to you!

Answer 10

More and more people earn respect by being honest. You can feel ashamed now. Later they will be ashamed of their bragging. Many of your friends may not have much experience too. They just make their stories up. If you stay yourself and not untrue, they will later respect you for that.
But, true, they may tease you now. Then be aware that in secret they are puzzled. They admire you and at the same time they are proud of their own experience (if they really have!).
Do not be ashamed!
And life your own life, what does not kill you makes you stronger!