met this gal 3 months ago thru a referral. now i am convinced that i can't marry her but i dont know her to let her know without appearing cruel and insensitive though there has been no any kind of commitment. prob is she is already so excited abt us.
2006-06-21 04:11:28 · 10 answers · asked by marcopolo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
3 mos and marriage has been discussed??? You don't even know each other yet! How do you tell her.....try "Honi, I just can't marry you"
2006-06-21 04:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by wendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I understand you right, your have been dating your girlfriend for only three months and she is talking about marriage??? since you do not mention age I am guessing she is either too young, getting older and wants to have a family soon, or she is ugly. Marriage is a very serious commitment you will not be cruel if you tell her how you feel, however you will be cruel if you let her think she is the one. Think about it.
2006-06-21 04:18:44 · answer #2 · answered by maria s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very fragile situation, your could ruin her life. But if you don't feel it now, you probably won't later. Let her know how you feel. The car theory; express the speed, where it is going and if it is almost empty. Tell her you are not ready, If she loves you, she will understand.
2006-06-21 04:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by Soul Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does that have to do about marriage just enjoy the relationship its only been 3months why even worry about marriage if it hasnt been brought up. You would have to propose any way for marriage to be there so just relax and be happy somebody is even excited about you alot of people wish anybody was excited about them.
2006-06-21 04:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by Justin D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her about it. Tell her she's lovely, but you don't think you two would work out. Explain to her that she'll find someone else, and that you don't want to get into a relationship that would hurt either one of you.
Good luck!
2006-06-21 04:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be sincere with yourself and don't make afool out of her tell her now and serve some hurts cos the more you wait the more she will be hurt. 3 months is queit short so pls let her know now! good luck
2006-06-21 04:19:49 · answer #6 · answered by Prisca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest and kind to her. it's moving too fast, and if u keep on then u will be in a marriage that u don't want from the beginning...now,how's that fair to either of u? u should stop it now, and avoid hurting her worse later on!
2006-06-21 04:24:02 · answer #7 · answered by thundakat312 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way of breaking this kind of news. Be very tactful.Tell her she is great but not the one u want. arghh .. why did u get yourself into this kind of unfortunate situation .. i wish u luck
2006-06-21 04:18:11 · answer #8 · answered by serious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you are not ready for marriage and that it would be very foolish to go into marriage without thinking first.
2006-06-21 04:15:02 · answer #9 · answered by Erika A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and tell her how you feel and why you feel that you can't marry her. Maybe she's not wanting to marry you. Just talk to her.
2006-06-21 04:27:08 · answer #10 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋