biblical question about marriage?

Question

My wife is a christian and she does go to church and she is raising our daughter baptist, they go to church ever Sunday. However, She committed adultery after 14 years and shows no remorse outwardly.. I'm hoping that she has some level of guilt going on.
She filed for divorce and I fought the divorce proceedings as long as I could because I promised God that till death do we part and I meant it. Biblically speaking and in the eyes of God. If I don't remarry. Can she be remarried. I'm not the one who committed adultery and even though she did I was willing to do what ever it took to keep the family in tacked.

please give chapters and verses if known.

I will never marry again because she was the one I chose and I promised. Spritually I promised God. That she will be my only Wife. It is by choice that even though we are seperated she will always be my wife (spiritually) so in good consience (spritually she will remain my wife and until I feel that God wants me to have another wife. then In Gods eyes are we not still married. WE are divorced in this world but not in Heaven.

God gave me this sprit and it is of God. If my spirit goes to heaven and has not released my wife then spritually we are still married. but the law on earth says divorced. Who's law takes presidence.

Answer 1

Personally I think her filing for divorce is an outward sign of her guilt...she can't face what she has done and thinks by divorcing (running away) she can cleanse herself (ignore the situation) and everything will be alright. I think you should still continue to fight divorce and let her know w/out doubt that you forgive her

Answer 2

The controversy over whether divorce and remarriage is allowed according to the Bible revolves primarily around Jesus’ words in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. The phrase “except for marital unfaithfulness” is the only thing in Scripture that possibly gives God’s permission for divorce and remarriage. Many interpreters understand this "exception clause" as referring to "marital unfaithfulness" during the "betrothal" period. In Jewish custom, a man and a woman were considered married even while they were still engaged “betrothed.” Immorality during this "betrothal" period would then be the only valid reason for a divorce.



However, the Greek word translated “marital unfaithfulness” is a word which can mean any form of sexual immorality. It is can mean fornication, prostitution, adultery, etc. Jesus is possibly saying that divorce is permissible if sexual immorality is committed. Sexual relations is such an integral part of the marital bond “the two will become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5; Ephesians 5:31). Therefore, a breaking of that bond by sexual relations outside of marriage might be a permissible reason for divorce. If so, Jesus also has remarriage in mind in this passage. The phrase “and marries another” (Matthew 19:9) indicates that divorce and remarriage are allowed in an instance of the exception clause, whatever it is interpreted to be. It is important to note that only the innocent party is allowed to remarry. Although it is not stated in the text, the allowance for remarriage after a divorce is God’s mercy for the one who was sinned against, not for the one who committed the sexual immorality. There may be instances where the "guilty party" is allowed to remarry - but no such concept is taught in this text.

Answer 3

This senario isn't covered any where in the Bible that I know of.
The only reference that I can think of that comes even close is the "Golden Rule"- Even though your (soon to be) ex-wife did wrong by you, you should pray for her well-being, which may include some guilt- she needs to feel guilt before she can repent and overcome this weakness to be a better person.

In my opinion, either of you are eligible to remarry, as long as the divorce has been completely finalized. Her sins will be on her head. You did your best, and will be blessed for your efforts.

God bless. I pray your next wife is a better person.

Answer 4

Well, based on 1 Corinthians 7, you have done all that you can do to keep the marriage together. If she is not willing to stay with you, then let her depart. It would be another matter if SHE wanted to stay with you. As for her condition afterward, that is not your concern anymore. Jesus gave you an out becuase of the adultery issue.

Matthew 19:9
And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”

So if you were to remarry, there would be no problem. As for her side and her conscience, well, let's leave that to the Lord.

Answer 5

First of all my heart goes out to you. I know you meant it when you promised 'till death do we part' but apparently your wife didn't. It takes 2 people to make and keep a vow like that, and in your case, only you kept it.

Don't feel bad about breaking your promise because you did not. Your wife ended your marriage, NOT you. You are the victim of her adultery.

Now you have to focus on doing what is best for you and your kids. If that means finding someone else (and someone better) to marry, then please do so!

You sound like a good person. GOOD LUCK TO YOU!

Answer 6

The bible never discusses remarriage except for in the case of a spouse dying.

1 Tim. 5:14 (NKJV)
Therefore I desire that the younger widows marry, bear children, manage the house, give no opportunity to the adversary to speak reproachfully.

....Until DEATH do you part.

I believe the Bible teaches that God views marriage as permanent...until someone dies.

Regardless of what you believe, I do not believe your wife will listen to you. Unfortunately, when most people I council come for advice, they have already made up their minds and NOTHING is going to change their minds.

My prayers are with you.

Answer 7

If she doesn't want to be with you, just let her go one day she will see you as the best, but what have you done? Think about that. If you were faithful and not decieving her in any way then there is a problem with her. As being a man you have done something. So now you want god to intervene. If you guys were meant to be together then it will be that way but first find your faults of the situtation then ask god for the help.

Answer 8

You can be remarried b/c she is the one who committed adultry, not you. You are "allowed" to get a divorce b/c she is the one who done wrong. I am sorry that I am not for sure of the exact verse where that is located.

Answer 9

Because she commited the act of adultery, the bible give you the right to serve her with papers to desolve the marriage, and you can remarry, but she cannot. For anyone from that point on who does get married to her shall to become an adulter according to the word of God. You may marry again because you did not commit this act against her.

Ezekiel 16:32 But as a wife that committeth adultery, which taketh strangers instead of her husband!

Matthew 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

Mark 10:12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.

It's pretty clear here. She commitd the act of adultery, and is divorcing you, she and anyone who she marries becomes an adulter. But you, since she commited the act against you, can go out and marry again according to the word of God.

Revelation 2:22 Behold, I will cast her into a bed, and them that commit adultery with her into great tribulation, except they repent of their deeds.
This scripture above, tells you that if she repents of her sins against you, you can take her back before you divorce her.

1 Corinthians 7:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

This scriputure tells us that you can take her back before she is divorced from you and make things right, and that would be acceptable in the eyes of God. but this next scripture tell you that once you divorce you cannot take her back after she has been with another.
Jeremiah 3:1 They say, If a man put away his wife, and she go from him, and become another man's, shall he return unto her again? shall not that land be greatly polluted? but thou hast played the harlot with many lovers; yet return again to me, saith the LORD

This is what God says about your next wife you might want..

Leviticus 21:14 A widow, or a divorced woman, or profane, or an harlot, these shall he not take: but he shall take a virgin of his own people to wife.

It's going to be tough to find a woman that fits this discription in todays world. you are almost better off staying single and living your life for the Lord if it is possible for you.

May you find great peace and solice in the arms of our loving Father during these times in your life. God bless you. Carol

Answer 10

A vow is not only a promise to your God, it is contract on your honor. When you promise anything, it must be carried out, or you're not much of a person. 'Till death means death, not divorce.