2006-06-21 03:58:22 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let them, no. Be wise enogh to know that they have,yes.
2006-06-21 04:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by Apple 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first you have to realize it's not up to you weather they do or not. Having sad that. I think a parent's involvement is crutial. Ok, so you don't want to know about every partner, or when or where. But you should explain the emotional, physical and mental strain having sex puts on you. Tell them it's an important decision and phase in their live. Tell them the consequences they may face if they are not careful and protect themselves. Let them know that what ever happens you'll love them and support them. But most importantly, tell them to be smart and not to be ashamed to ask for help. If this seems too hard, tell them to visit planned parenthood. They can go by themselves to see a couselor, or if both of you feel confortable, visit together. It's a BIG decision, and sometimes having to make it on your own makes it scary and leads to mistakes you could have avoided in the first place.
2006-06-21 11:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by Evelyn R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Currently, I am 24, and will be married next year. My parents both told me at an early age that I shouldn't have sex just to be having sex. They told me that when it is with the person that I love, it would be ok. I actually didn't have sex until I was 21. It is definitely more meaningful, and I'd go so far as to say perfect with the person you really want to be with. I don't think it's a matter of letting your children, I believe that it's more in educating your children so they are prepared to make the right decisions. It's better to educate them to be safe, how to say no, to trust their hearts and instincts, and to let them know that they can be open and honest with you.
2006-06-21 11:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by Krickett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but I don't think it's a choice most parents have. If the topic does come up the best you can do is educate her the importance of waiting till marriage and all the risks assoicated with being sexually active. Most importantly let her know she can talk to you about anything including sex.
2006-06-21 11:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think It would be up to me to "let" them. Hopefully I will instill values that will help them when it is time to make that choice. What until marriage??? Not a big priority for me. I would want them to be older, aware of who they are and their needs. I would want their partner to be someone special who was planning a life with my child, and treated them with the love and respect they deserve. But now days, people begin careers first, marriage second. I can't picture waiting until your late 20's to experience sex.
2006-06-21 11:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by wendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to instill what is right and wrong in them. If they want to have sex though, you cannot really stop them. I am not going to preach "sex is bad, only for marraige" to my kids. I will try to heavily inforce that doing it under the age of 18 is very wrong and not a good idea, but if I can't stop them, I will always tell them to use protection.
2006-06-21 11:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by TeraBytes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a parent I wouldn't want my daughter to, but if you think about it its their choice. There isn't anything you can do unless you plan on locking up your kid for life. The important thing is to teach your child right and in return they themselves will be the ones wanting to wait until they marry.
2006-06-21 11:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When our children reach a certain level of maturity and especially when they turn 18, we have no control over what they do or don't do.
We can only hope but influence them a bit with our wisdom and past experiences.
2006-06-21 11:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by dubbledee71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, im not a parent yet, im only 17. However, i did loose my virginity to my boyfriend before marriage. My parents would be very disappointed in me if they knew. However, its not like it was a one night stand. Both of us wanted to and it was meaningful. So i think its ok.
2006-06-21 11:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by shaygirlie06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once they reach the Golden age of 21, they are own their own,and at 18 you won't know anyway. Give it up. At 16 Chasity belt.
2006-06-21 11:08:10 · answer #10 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have a say in it they probbably already have slept together,its a common occurance for people to do so in these days even thoseof strict faith find them sleves in bed before marriage,ideally no i wouldnt but realistically its unapproachable and unrelaistic
2006-06-21 11:03:52 · answer #11 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋