We have been friends for about 4 months now. We have gone out together a lot of times. He said he felt for me more than a normal good friend and that he wanted to be my boyfriend. He has asked me this 3 times. Then I said NO. He said we were going to be good friends like before.
Now about 1 month later he asked me again to be his girlfriend, and he said he can’t take me off his mind.
I like him, I like being with him, I feel good but I don’t love him. I don’t know what to do and how to behave with him. My previous love was a total disappointment and now I don’t trust anybody. I think I won’t be able to be in love with anybody again. I feel like I’m a cold and frigid person. What should I do with this guy? Should I stop seeing him? I am so confused. Please give me some help. I feel down.
2006-06-21 03:51:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i will be honest with you. the best person to go out with is that devil that you know about than this beautiful angel. Now you say you are good friends and i shouls assume this is based from true friendship and understanding. I would bet my money on him unless of course there is something so deficient about this guy which should cause you to back off.
however, at the moment you are not ready and there is nothing as bad as a forced relationship it takes ages to get into gear and thats after some unneccessary qaubbles and these are not needed especially when you have something to loose like a good friendship.
it would have to take tact and patience on both your parts to make things work here. You presenting your case for him to buy and him understanding you. The greater duty here is with you. Just make him understand afterll you are good friends, that you can't go out now. And don't put it in such a way as to hint to him that in future there may be hope. you are not ready and ready thats the bottom line. However, if you really believe that its an issue of readiness and not that you don't fancy the guy then at least leave the door an inch open and trust me without pointing it to him he will see it. At the time that you know you are ready then you can lead him like a dog on a leash.
2006-06-21 04:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by Bennetton 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For starters, friendship is an excellant foundation to build on when a romance is starting up. As for your previous love... forget him!!! There will be others, we all have love and loss,the feeling of being frigid, that will pass in time and when you decide to take a chance with this guy. Life is about taking chances, IF this guy seems to be genuine and sincere, then I say go for it. Your not in love with him,,,SO WHAT,,, Love take time to develope, especially the real kind of love. Take him up on his offer and see where it may lead. Who knows, you just might end up happy.
2006-06-21 11:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by Cash K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey only reason im answering is because i had a very similar experience like this guy that like you. first of all dont ignore him, thats the worst thing you could do, second if you dont like him other than a friend then your right on your place to tell him "no". I would suggest that you guys talk as much as you can about this issue if you value your friendship, tell him how you think and you cant change it. I still talk to the girl i like because we faced the issue so the awkwardness is gone. But if he still doesnt understand then is not your fault at all. i hope that helps but lastly dont ignore him, it hurts :) take care
2006-06-21 11:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by mystri_guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u shld tell him that u r not ready to start a relationship yet,. tell him u enjoy the friendship, and his support. But it is really not the time to start anything. Hmmm, dun burn your bridge. U may be down now because of a failed relationship but maybe u will find this guy will also make a good bf in future. who knows?! Fate is strange. try to talk it out with your friend and make him see your problem. if he really cares abt u, he will back off.
2006-06-21 10:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by serious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you cant take a relationship right now, and if he cant understand that then he needs to go his way.
2006-06-21 11:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should go out with him, you don;t have to trust him just go out enjoy your life don;t be afraid about this and remember your happy mean a lot so enjoy your self OK good luck
2006-06-21 11:07:30 · answer #6 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a chance
2006-06-21 11:09:05 · answer #7 · answered by Leonardo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust your instincts. if you dun feel the same way he does for u, dun take the plunge. if he's meant to be yours, he's yours. cheer up!
2006-06-21 10:57:57 · answer #8 · answered by miffyiffy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a head job
2006-06-21 10:54:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. If he doesnt understand then screw him.
2006-06-21 11:00:23 · answer #10 · answered by your_sweet_fairy03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋