am 22 yrs old Indian,last year when my studies got over , I came back to my home, as my parents are no more so I am living with my aunt and uncle.My uncle is usually busy with administrating our business,so he often lives away from home.
I am alone and my aunt (37 years old , whom I met for the first time) has been seducing me for the past 2 months in which she touched me and made me touch her(by seducing me).I couldnot control myself as this was the first time I was with a woman(as I was in boys school since childhood),so I did liked her body,now I feel addicted to her.
Though she is a nice lady and don't even talk to any man(other than family members) but I can't tell this to anyone as this will bring a storm in our family and so will our buisness will be affected.
2006-06-21 00:55:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, I hope this isn't real. But, Something tells me it is... Answer? GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE! There is a whole world out there that doesn't involve ANY of your family members....Grow up and get out. And NO!! This is not your fault!!
2006-06-21 01:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if this dilemma is serious (don`t want to offend u,sorry),given the circumstances--u not knowing how is to be with a woman and she being your first woman--if she had the initiative of seducing u, she seems responsible for this.
But from my experience and knowledge, when women cheat on their husbands/lovers, usually it`s because they feel neglected(and really are actually).A woman needs affection, needs to feel wanted, desired, appreciated by her man.No matter how much money would he have or earn, he has to be near his woman, tell her that she is beautiful, and that he loves her.Doesn`t take great gifts to make a woman feel wanted. A kind word, a flower, is enough,and, of course, making love to your wife is crucial. :).In few words, she needs to FEEL the presence and love that her man has for her.
I don`t say there aren`t any other causes of infidelity, but this is very often the problem.I suspect that here is the same problem, based on the fact that u said your uncle is very busy administrating the family business.
.I think she is just lonely,and u were just...there.And, even more convieniently, easier to manipulate.
I think u should put an end to this affair, but how?
Well do u think she`s inlove with u? I think not. U should really TALK to her, try to make her see why she did what she did.She has to realise what caused her to do this, and knowing the cause might help her solve this crisis.She has to talk to her husband,to make him realise she needs him beside her, phisically, and spiritually.
As a conclusion the situation is much more complex to resume itself to the question whose fault is it?There are at least a few factors to take into consideration here, as I have shown before (neglecting by the husband, the difficulty of taking care of the busines etc).But U MUST STOP "BEING" WITH HER AT ONCE. U are a man now, and responsible for your acts.I suggest u talk to her and make her see the root of the problem.U have to be diplomatic and not direct the conversation on placing blames, but on finding out what caused this, and solving the problem.Does she stil love her husband?And if yes,why is this happening?If not, why?She has to analize these things, but my guess is she loves him, she`s just lonely.Ok, u take it from here;).Hope I was of help.
2006-06-21 08:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by floradu2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's both of your faults. She's 15 years older than you are, and she was the one who tried to seduce you. However, you are old enough to control yourself. You should have stopped her and prevented her from touching you in a polite manner. She couldn't have made you touch her; you chose to touch her by allowing yourself to get seduced. Remember the saying: "It takes two hands to clap."
Now she expects you to be with her, and if you don't agree, she may tell people. However, you can't be with her. I don't know what effect it will have on your business, but I'm sure it has already affected it.
I suggest staying away from her, being polite to her, and not responding to her seduction.
2006-06-21 07:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by King Yellow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD....!!! By the way how old are you? this is a touchy subject but since you havn't been with another woman i don't blame you for liking it but its wrong!!! this is a serious matter please don't do it again. you might think ur aunt is a nice woman but she clearly isn't she is just taking advantage of u when her husband isn't around.... just try avoiding her, try not staying home, y don't u go out and stay out most of the time with ur friends. u can meet a girl elsewhere trust me. just avoid her and only come home when u really need to. i seen loadza young boys being seduced by older talented women but beleive me its not good so please just stay away from her
i wish you all the best
God Bless
2006-06-21 08:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think assigning blame is necessary here. It is what it is, at this point. And it takes two to tango, as they say.
What is important is for you to rectify the situation as best you can. Continuing with this sounds extremely dangerous, not to mention unethical. Talk to her and tell her you are flattered and obviously attracted to her, but you cannot continue with what's been happening. Hopefully she'll have some pangs of conscience and understand.
Don't tell the uncle, and don't advocate that she does. Let her make that decision on her own. And if she never tells him, maybe it's just as well. That might do more harm than good anyway.
But for your own sanity and in the name of fair play, get out of that tangle as carefully and as quickly as possible. Good luck!
2006-06-21 08:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by JStrat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you're both adults and u know it's your uncles wife so both to blame really, you should leave as soon as possible. find other family members to live with or get your own place . Find a girlfriend, cause if you keep it up your eventually going to get caught, what if you got her pregnant..OMG imagine that, if your uncle ever found out you would be disgraced , i don;t know much about your culture but you know you nede to put a stop to it right now.
2006-06-21 08:00:36 · answer #6 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You keep saying she seduced you - you're 22 not a baby. You certainly knew what you were doing and that it was wrong. She didn't MAKE you do anything - you did what you wanted. Better stop it now!
2006-06-21 07:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by christine b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is coming from an american 27 year old who is in love with an indian guy. so trust me, i hold nothing against you at all. honey, this is your aunt. i don't care if ya'll have never been with anyone else or not. i know that indians tend to be strict in the area of women/men and relationships from what i've heard. however, she is related and this can lead to all sorts of problems. it's all illegal. if you don't want to tell anyone, don't. but stop what you're doing. tell her you're going to stop and don't wish to continue anymore. tell her you're attracted, but it's wrong. God bless you and take care!
2006-06-21 08:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were both wrong to give in to temptation, but blame isnt important. i can tell that you want to feel better about what you have done, so make sure that it dosnt happen again (she doenst really make you do it). otherwise, there should indeed be a storm in your family.
good luck
2006-06-21 08:08:23 · answer #9 · answered by karl k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that sucks, hope you've stopped and nobody finds out or a storm in the family is the least of your worries
2006-06-21 07:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋