What do you do when your sweet little sister turns into what you regard as a bad person with a very unhealthy lifestyle. To tell her what to do is to be the overprotective older brother. To not tell her leads her into ALOT of trouble. What would you do?
2006-06-21 00:21:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Dont just tell her.. Make her. What will make you feel worse- feeling like ur intruding, or knowing that you might have been able to help her BEFORE ITS TOO LATE.
2006-06-23 11:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that people 'turn bad' either. People do make some pretty bad mistakes though. Sometimes those mistakes have serious long-term consequences. Somtimes those mistakes are recognized by the individual as mistakes and sometimes not.
Nobody likes anyone butting into their life but there are some mistakes that we can make that are very very damaging and are extremely hard to get away from without help. There aren't many but a couple of examples might be a heroin addiction or an abusive relationship.
A common response to being told what to do in an emotional situation, and particularly by a family member in a position of authority, is to do the opposite just to get a reaction. It can appear to be an impossible situation.
I believe that the answer lies in just talking it out. My approach is to be direct about the subject matter but be very careful to be neutral about the choices involved. I try to be truthful and open with my opinions but I try to let the other person know that I'll still respect them even if they make choices that I would not. For me the key is to be concerned without being judgmental.
I wouldn't turn her in, I would convince her to turn herself in.
2006-06-21 15:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by megalomaniac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a nosy controlling brother,if thats what it takes.I had an older brother who when i was 14 i couldnt stand him crashing every party or bringing me home in the middle of the night.I needed that because my parents didnt have a clue what i was doing.He had been there and done that and wanted better for his little sister.Today i am 34 and when i look back i thank god for an older brother that cared.Good luck.
2006-06-22 01:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couldn't you perhaps just hang out more with her, but I guess that would be considered really square. Could simply be a phase she's going through. Looks like she'll learn the hard way.
2006-06-21 00:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth, no matter the consequences -- you can't make up her mind for her, chances are it won't change anything -- but who is she going to hear the truth from -- the people around her who just tell her what she wants to hear -- of someone that truly loves her and is looking out for her future.
2006-06-21 15:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by swdMO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't turn bad, they just realized that they have the power to make choices and they want to start to take control of their own life. You just need to guide them in the right direction.
2006-06-21 00:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by Stacy R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah your fairly a strategies from undesirable accordig to what you wrote. our uncomplicated compared to what i did. Lol. ask your self that query even as the police officials convey you homestead or you in penitentiary. once you wouldnt pick your mum and dad to carry close what you probably did all weekend then perchance you're
2016-10-20 11:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a sweet brother, but youve got to let her learn her own lessons in life. had you not been able to do that you wouldnt be sitting there now "knowing" whats in store for her and worrying.
all you can do, is be there for her when she screws up!
2006-06-21 00:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and let her decide. AT least you have done your duty as an older brother.
2006-06-21 00:24:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it a conversation, not preaching not condescending. Be generally interested, just ask her, she may open up.
2006-06-21 00:27:05 · answer #10 · answered by humdrum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋