Me and my boyfriend had a row because I kissed his on again off again brother in law. His brother in law tried making out it was all me and that i came onto him, but i know what's it's like to be cheated on and at the time i was upset and vulnerable after previously having an arguement with my boyfriend around that time.
Now my boyfriend says he doesn't trust me at all at the moment, yet he has gone behind my back and kissed another girl but he was drunk at the time?
What do i do?
2006-06-20 23:35:07 · 13 answers · asked by Rachie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
nothing....give it some tome,then try talking it through with him,if he wont listen to you,try txting,emailing or wring him a letter.i see you still love him,and u r sorry.tell him that,amd also tell hi just as he was drunk and couldnt control the situation,u were also vulnerable and i guess the brother in law could have controlled the situation if he really wanted to.am sorry abt all this but dont allow this to spoil things between you two.if he has trusted u before,he can trust u again.
best of luck gal!
2006-06-20 23:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Trust and faith go hand in hand. And, without these two things in any relationship, the chances of having a good relationship are very slim. Right now it seems you both have some faith issues. Trust and faith are always there at the start of a relationship, until someone does something to take away the trust. You both did. Now you have to rebuild it by forgiving eachother and moving forward slowly. Talk and you can rebuild trust by showing faith in eachother. Faith is beliving in things that can't be seen. Trust is knowing what you see by the faith you have in someone. Make any sense to you? Good luck.
2006-06-21 06:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think you are both a bit to blame. You should not have kissed your brother in law, argument or not. We all have our arguments but if we all went off snogging everyone else then where would we be. The same as your BF should not have snogged another girl. He is the pot calling the kettle black isn't he ? I think you are both in the wrong and obviously suit each other well....
2006-06-21 06:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by lovelygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was prob just hurt from u doing it first although that will not help any one u have to earn trust and prove to him over time that it was a one of, but u cant go kissing some one every time u have an argument the two of u will have to have a long talk and sort out your feelings
2006-06-21 07:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by clairexxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is something to be earned, not given freely. You have both messed up, if you want to continue this relationship. You must start from the beginning and learn to trust again. You may not be able to...and that will be your next "chapter" - Letting Go.
2006-06-21 06:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's already doomed.
But if there would be any hope... it would take time before the wound is healed.....
both of you have cracked an important part in any relationship.... TRUST....
If you feel that you no longer love him, drop him...
If you feel that you still have an ounce of love on him, endure, bear the pain and wait... time would heal...
2006-06-21 06:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by alecks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u havent got trust in a relationship it wont work out, trust is the main thing! id leave him but if u love him and think u can make him trust u agen then stay with him!
2006-06-21 08:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by JamesMarstersGal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cheated and he cheated,even though he was drunk,so you are both cheats.just get over it and move on,i mean you both chaeated so forgive and forget and move on,life is too short to deal with such stupid issues which can be solved within seconds.
2006-06-21 06:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by lashes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
end it now, you two have no chance. once trust is lost, everything else will follow. next time you will know that it is not OK to kiss other dudes.
2006-06-21 06:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by spyderman1212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know what it is like to be cheated on what on earth possesed you to kiss your brother in law
2006-06-21 06:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by mumoftheyear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋