Let me paint you a picture. I am 21 years old (Male). I am a business partner with my father and between us we own several companies and internet franchises. I live between my parents home house and an apartment I share with my girlfriend, an amazing girl who I really love. I drive a new Land rover, I have plently of money and have a large loving family of whom I am always surrounded by. All that said, I find it difficult to even get out of bed in a morning. I feel so depressed most of the time. I'm sure it is affecting things between me and my girlfriend. I've been to the doctors before and he has said it is not a problem that requires medication, just relax. It's gotton to the point now that I really don't see any way out.
2006-06-20 23:29:15 · 22 answers · asked by benny850953 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh dear, that sounds so terrible. I mean there is no obvious thing to say why you are depressed. Are you truly happy with your girlfriend or job ? I mean you have lots of money yeah and everything you could ask for but would you rather have a less pressurised job do you think ? Are you working all the time, would you rather be able to forget about work when you get home and go on day trips and holidays with work not on your mind ? It is so hard to answer this one as you seem in a really sensitive state. There must be something in your life you are not really satisfied with and you need to think about what that is.
2006-06-20 23:35:15 · answer #1 · answered by lovelygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. Its good that you can mentally reason that you are basically a very happy person - if there are standards for happiness:).
Well, then, if at this moment your life seems hard to bear - try another life for a while :) Try to make a change, but don't burn all your bridges.
The fact that you do not feel enough urge to start the day means your day does not seem thrilling enough to you. So, first you might try to get rid of the pressure of time. Relax in bed with a good book for a while and go out and just walk in the streets. Look at people, go to the park and just lay on the grass. See how this feels for a couple of days, then go on a hiking trip - no beaches and night life, somewhere wild and with gorgeous nature, somewhere where you would live in a tent, go fishing, and spend the evenings near an open fire you yourself built. Talk to simple people you basically have nothing in common with. If you don't feel like talking - then don't. Try to forget civilization for some time - maybe a month... Then the time might come when you will want to go back to you old life - and indeed you will start it as a different person.
Your family sound good and supportive - they will be most probably ready to help you. If your girlfriend wants to come with you - take her, but it should be her choice. Don't put any pressure on anyone around you and most importantly - on yourself!
Look - there are so many people all over the world trying to help you! Isn't this gorgeous:)
Good luck!!!
2006-06-21 00:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by Eve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it might sound silly, but you need to start getting 30 minutes of sunshine a day. There is something about sunshine that really does help depression sufferers. Exercise will also help too, so maybe a 30 minute walk daily after work? Ask your girlfriend to come walking with you if you want, and use the time to hold hands and just enjoy each other's company (and de-stress!). I don't like taking medicines, so those are the 2 big things that I do to keep the depression away. It gets worse in winter, but I think I finally have a handle on it. Try the sunshine and walking for a few weeks and have your girlfriend pay attention to see if its helping. If not, maybe you need to try another doctor.
2006-06-20 23:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, try another doctor for a second opinion. You may have something physical such as an infection that can cause lethargy also thyroid problems can often cause changes in mood. If you are depressed however when other things are ruled out there are many treatments available from medication to counseling. You deserve to be treated with respect and taken seriously from any physician you seek help from. Don't give up after the first try. Best wishes.
2006-06-20 23:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have clinical depression. This is depression that is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain and not caused by external factors i.e. what is going on in your life.
You could try anti d's but be careful if you go down that road. They are non addictive but must be used for atleast 6 months and then you must be weaned off them slowly to avoid a relapse. The side effects can be a bit shite too but prozac seems to be the best.
Try St Johns Wort for a couple of months first. They worked great for me. Destress a little too. Sounds like you have a lot on your plate. Take a wee holiday and chill out. You could have a world at your fingertips but it doesnt guarentee happiness.
Maybe you could try going to church if you are a beleiver and tell the big man how you are feeling. Its gonna be fine mate.
2006-06-26 10:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by pulsatron69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Howzit, your problem might be something totally unexpected. you need to talk to rthe relevant specialists such as a psychiatrist because your GP does not have the neccessary skills to diagnose whether you have a depression disoreder or not. Depression is caused by a number of things and most of the time it is caused by a deficiency of a chemical in your body which leaves you feeling down for no reason. See the relevant specialists before it goes too far because it can only get worse from here.
2006-06-21 00:40:48 · answer #6 · answered by DaWoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Depression" is due to unresolved inner conflicts, so it is caused by "frustration".. Something is bothering you in your subconscious and you are afraid to face it and deal with it. Maybe you feel trapped by being in business with your father. Maybe your heart desires to travel a different path, but his desire or the money or something is compelling you to try and be something you're not. That would be an example of "unresolved inner conflict", and it is not to be treated lightly! Such depressed feelings can lead (ultimately) to suicide if not dealt with. But, the cause of your frustration is (seemingly) too scary for you to face. It is literally "scaring you to death". You know what it is, so it's time to face it down and resolve it. The best solution is just to know that NOTHING (that is bothering you) is as bad as NOT dealing with it! Let's say it IS your job that's got you down. Find the courage to tell your father (and your girlfriend, who is also use to the good money) that you just can't do it anymore, and go out and buy yourself a guitar and write your songs if that's what's in your heart. DON'T worry about making money with it. GOD will ALWAYS provide for the one who is honest with himself. If your girlfriend is so amazing, she'll be supportive. If she isn't, then you were wrong about her. If neither of them will listen to you and accept you for who you are...run away, and live like a hobo until your music hits. If you follow your heart, and BELIEVE IN GOD's LOVE, something will always turn up! Maybe you'd get a job writing jingles for TV commercials, or some other way to eat while you're learning your new craft. But, either the truth will out, or you'll die. Your choice. (And, death isn't the best answer!)
My best friend is a professional musician (with NO formal training). But, he always made a decent living. After 20 years, he got "religion" and decided he wasn't serving God playing in gin joints with all the booze and smoking and swearing and sex. So, he decided to give up nightclub life and expected his income would drop like a rock as he focused on only healthy venues. But, you know what? God sent him so much MORE work that his income went up!
2006-06-20 23:56:21 · answer #7 · answered by Bill T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you simply have no pressure on you to do anything.you work with your dad as a partner so thats secure.
you have a great car so thats achieved.
you have plenty of money so no ambition needed there.
you are despite everything you have got,are insecure.
living at home and between times with your girlfriend means home comforts without a full time relationship.
i dont think you are depressed just a little confused and lethargic
mike
2006-06-25 11:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by listener06y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a break from the work and have a holiday, cos that can really help. When your away from the everyday routine that we find ourselves in without realising, you have a chance to think about things you wouldn't normally, and apart from anything, we can all do with recharging our batteries every now and again.
Having said that, material things can't help problems in your soul - money can't buy happiness
2006-06-20 23:38:05 · answer #9 · answered by Vix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem is to know the problem, which you don't. I think that it is clearly your father. Maybe you are looking for a real and non-financial relationship with your dad. Maybe only money is a connection bteween the relationship and somehow, you feel deppressed but don't know why. Its obviously not the girl because you love her and there is no problem. If this isn;t the answer, consult a doctor. BUt please, think about the dad situation.
2006-06-21 00:15:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋