Any muslim women sharing their husbands with other wives?

Question

I would like to know what your experiences have been. first, where do you live and how do you handle the legal matter of a marriage. Are you heartbroken or is she a friend that helps you? Do you all live together in the same house or do you have separate houses that your husband sleeps at? when and how were you told that you were sharing a husband? etc.??

Answer 1

I am a married Muslim woman but I do not share my husband with another woman nor would I ever tolerate it. I just wanted to tell you about it.
From where I come from, Dubai, especially the new generation will not tolerate sharing their husbands except for a few. Those who share their husbands become heartbroken, bitter and if she wants a divorce the court will grant her one and she will get her house and alimony and child support.
Some women are told by their husbands at any time, some before their husbands get married and other after. Some woman discover it by accident and goes almost insane with grief. It is just like when western women find out their husbands are having affairs!!
Some women demands that he either divorces her or the other wife while others bears for the sake of her home and children but inside she is grieving.
Islam did in fact allow men to have four wives but under very rigid conditions that very little men pay attention to. Also Islam stated that if the man does not heed to those conditions he should not wed more than one.

Answer 2

1) yes because its my modesty and I dont want to be ogled by men. 2)I am not my husbands property that is not Islamic to be property. 3)I dont have limited rights I can do what I want within reason 4)they are because sex out of marriage is haram 5)no I would divorce him and call the police as that would make him a peadophile the man needs permission from his wife to marry again. 6)no because I am my husbands only wife and I would not agree to him having a second wife if he went against this I would divorce him. I have told my husband that. He also knows I am jealous and loves and cares enough not to marry again knowing it would hurt me so much most good husbands know their wives well enough to be know. Lots of men in the West have affairs with mistresses and prostitutes behind the wives back a second marriage which is agreed to is better than this. Also in relation to the virgin question who said the women need to be? Prophet Muhammad pbuh only had one wife who was a virgin at the time of marriage this was Aisha the others had been divorced or widowed.

Answer 3

Disaster! In the 21st century sb is concerned whether her husband is cheating and trying to reason it with religious tradition???? Yuck! Where are now all the feminists (hes and shes)? I cencerely hope this wasnt a personal q...


I have a wonderful relationship with a man Im about to marry (almost 2 yrs) and he knows Id cut off his dick if Id know he is cheatin... Just kiddin. Break up (not brake up just a little, cos hell come to his senses) is the only option in that case. He knows it and has agreed with it even before we discussed the terms of our relationship.. Same goes for me, naturally. A husband is a best friend, the best lover you have ever had, the man youd like to have birth(s) with (if you decide to have kids at all).

Just him and me, and a baby makes three.... Maybe two babies...
2 beautiful little girls....


To byefareed: hundreds? Are you some wannabe muslim Casanova? Hope you aint transmitting AIDS.

Answer 4

I am Muslim Girl , But still single ,
For me i wouldnt ever share my husband with another woman ,
why ?
simply because it's ur right by islamic laws of marriage to make a condition that ur husband dont ever marry another woman as long as u r his wife.
Then why women don't do this ?
Well , there's several reasons for that ,
1. Poverty , when women are poor , they are week they are ignorante, and when u r week u can't get ur rights , because if the woman asks for divorce she is the one who is going to lose , simply because she got no money and no source of funding her life, so she can't say no for the second marriage.
2. Illitracy , because many muslim women don't know their issential rights which islam gave them , and by not knowing thier rights they get cheated and they even don't know that it's thier right to stop thier husbands from marring another wife.

From the stories of second marriage i have read , many women don't work when they are married and so after about 20 years of marriage when their husbands want to marry another girls just to get fun , they can get divorce but they don't want because they can't live alone without any source of money .. and this is really hurting.
Most of the times they don't live in the same home , and they don't like each other at all ,
But in few conditions , like when the 1st wife cannot bring babies she asks her husband to marry another one to give him babies , and only in such condition they may live peacfully.

just one last thing , Prophet mohamed had a daughter called" Fatima" she was married to "Ali ebn abi taleb" and it's known that Ali wanted to marry another woman after many years of thier marriage , she gone to the prophet and told him that she doesn't want her husband to marry another one ,and if he does she wants divorce ,and so her father the prophet stood by her side , and her husband gave up the idea, and she was his only wife.
I wanted to show u how every woman has the right to get divorce if her husbands want second marriage.
Hope i have answered you.

Answer 5

Although im not married. I am Muslim Alhamdulillah. and Alhamduliillah Allah makes this religion easy for His Slaves.

Who are we to question the Shariah and Sunnah of Allah? subhanallah!

There will also always be gheerah (jealousy) between the wives. As we see that even in the Household of our beloved prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam).

However, a woman will receive such a great reward for being patient. and yes, the ultimate goal is Jannah, so in the end for those who do practice polygamy, it's usually those who are very strong in their deen( religion/way of life) and are able to treat them all justly and equally. thus, they help each other get to Jannah.

WAllahu alem( and Allah knows best)

Answer 6

I know someone (a muslim woman) who does.

When I asked her how she feels, she began quoting the Quran that her aim in life is to go to heaven and thus she will still support/ love her husband no matter what.

Answer 7

It's very rare yet better than sharing with hundreds outside marriage bond.

Muslim man.

Answer 8

the koran allows men 2 have 4 wives, so it is possible, they follow sheriat, not ur law.

Answer 9

muslim tradition they can do,,how many wives they have as long they will supported

Answer 10

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