i have been in love with my best friend for about 5 years. she always tells me that she only thinks of me as a friend, but she always seems alot closer to me than everyone else. we are eachothers best friends. i have always told her my true feeling but kept some things to myself for the fear that it will scare her off. laitly i've been really scared about our future and afrade we would change and not be as close as we were. so i told her everything that i feel, my fears, my hopes, everything. laitly she seemed to have gotten closer to me. she always let me hug her but laitly i've been able to cuddle with her and even scratched her back when she was leaning on the couch arm-rest. i poked her cheak in a fun way and she smiled. i asked her if i was bothering her and she says "it was fine". but i also asked her "when will i know if she ever wanted to be with me" and she said she "would tell me" but she hasn't said anything to me about being together. do you think something is happening?
2006-06-20 20:06:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she is 20 i'm 21.
she is a tom-boy and always says she is not a girly-girl. i think she is just being nice to me and letting me be closer to her because she does't want to hurt me. she is extreemly nice so i could see her doing this. but i also hope something might be happening.
2006-06-20 20:08:55 · update #1
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LALO, i feel sorry for you. aparently you live for lust and not love. once you find someone you can respect you would think of something other than sex all the time. maybe you'll have a lasting relationship instead it falling apart on you constantly.
2006-06-20 20:21:12 · update #2
She is playing with your head, some people are really good at that....
2006-06-21 19:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think its not something but a lot between you two guys which you cant always narrow down to attraction or love . I guess she is very comfortable with you around and is united at a higher level . Somehow I place friendship above love . She might be saying that she isn't a girly girl/ tomboy but she definitely feel very feminine when she is with you . For once try giving her roses , if she smiles , you guys are on the right track . If this annoyes her then you have to give her some more time to reach to a decision . But do set a deadline , for your sake .
See, a relationship is mutual . Completes 100% when both persons give their 50-50 . You have given your 50% and for the rest she has to make an effort .
I hope she is not having any hidden fears that are not letting her express herself . And sometimes distance grows heart fonder of what minds keep missing . So try either you will be out of sight out of mind or you will be where you always wanted to be :)
2006-06-21 04:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to burst ur bubble, but u've got 2 options: 1: keep going the way u r, it looks like things could heat up (i'm in the same situation, just not so much interraction) and risk something happening to end EVERYTHING OR 2: accept her as ur best friend for life and look for someone else... btw, when i went out with my best chick friend, it ended in a bad way and we didn't speak 4 half a year or around that. we're good now though, we're friends again
2006-06-21 03:32:59 · answer #3 · answered by death_saint06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang in there dude. dont be so intense. if she wants you she'll get you. its good enough that youve been close for five years that'll at least make her think twice about choosing somebody else including other chicks if she's really a lesbo. Meanwhile, concentrate on other stuffs like studies, career and what you want to do in life, it can make it all easier in the future plus she gets to be jealous cuz you'll be givin your attention to something else maybe that'll wake her up a bit and want you more hehe. Just dont be an asshole and totally break it off with her to pursue somebody else.
2006-06-21 03:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
after 3 years of loving my best friend in the whole wide world, we eventually hooked up and it all fell apart do to his drinking. actually i didnt mind that part at all. he told me the day he put me out that i was too good for him which is a bunch of crap and that i deserved better than him. i hated it ended like that but now we barly speak. i would of rather of had kept him as my b.f.f.e than not ever have him like i dont now. maybe she doesnt want to loose that, you know
2006-06-21 03:19:34 · answer #5 · answered by kitty p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were right in telling her. Now it's up to her. Just take things slow, keep the communication lines open, and be cool.
2006-07-03 21:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by brilliantyetconfused 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have told her everything time will tell. now its just a waiting game. be patient
2006-06-21 03:11:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur lady is confused give her some time
2006-06-21 03:09:28 · answer #8 · answered by Mellesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋