I have a beautiful 5mth old boy, i left his father 2 months ago (due to an unhappy relationship), and am now seeing a guy ive known for 5 years. We just found out that im about four weeks pregnant, it is my new partners. We are happy together and he has taken my son in. We want to keep it and pretty much sure we are but my mum says to have an abortion.... whats your view?
2006-06-20 20:04:44 · 20 answers · asked by daisy 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
And yup he wants to raise both my son and the new baby - and we planned to get married but it might take a bit longer now!
2006-06-20 20:18:37 · update #1
I have 5 children two are 17 months apart, the last two are 13 months apart. While it is the hardest thing you will ever do for the first month or so, it is completely worth it. Until you get into a routine, you will be sure there is no way you can handle both babies but it can be done. Invest in a good double stroller and be prepared to take it everywhere. A baby sling is also a huge help. My son (22mo) and daughter (9mo) are great friends. They have their own baby language they use taking to each other. They play great together. He also likes to sit and hold a conversation with her, then try to tell me in his own baby language what she said! I only understand very little of that but it is soo cute. My other boys (17 mo apart) are still best friends also. At ages 6 and 5 they spend every waking moment together or together with their friends.
Feel free to e-mail me anytime. Always happy to answer questions or be a listening ear. I have been there, doing that.
2006-06-21 03:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by Brooke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way should you abort your beautiful baby! Not only will you have to live with the guilt and regret for the rest of your life, but it will probably cause you to really resent your mum in the future, too. Your mum will get over it quickly and come to love her new grandbaby, I am sure. Mums are like that.
At four weeks, your baby already has a beating heart! Please don't let anyone hurt him or her. You can learn more about your baby's development here:
http://www.JustTheFacts.org
And, if you want to be doubly sure that you are doing the right thing, you can learn about abortion here:
http://Abort73.com
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/abortionrisks.html
Please do whatever it takes to protect this baby. I know you would never let anyone hurt your 5 month old baby, so don't let anyone hurt the one inside you either! The one inside you is just smaller and harder to see right now. Your born baby deserves to know his or her little brother or sister.
I think you know the right thing to do. Best wishes to you all.
2006-06-26 13:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether YOU want to keep it or not, don't have an abortion. There are so many people out there who would love to have a baby to adopt, so give the baby a chance and a couple who would like the opportunity to be parents. You don't say how old you are, but I'm assuming you're relatively young. Unless the "new" guy wants to marry you and raise both of your children, carry the baby to term and pre-select the couple you want to adopt your child. If I were you, I'd also consider some effective birth control.
2006-06-20 20:13:36 · answer #3 · answered by michigaunder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your mom pressure you into having an abortion. If you feel that this relationship with the new guy will work then keep the baby and get married. If you've known him for five years then you should be able to make a judgement about whether or not he's a good guy to spend your life with. Good luck.
2006-06-22 04:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately, you need to do what you think is best! not what your mother thinks or what your new guy thinks. You say that you split up with the father of your son just 2 months ago? and you are already seeing someone else and you are 4 wks along. That means you must have started seeing him as soon as you broke off with the father of your son. Are you sure that there is no hope for a relationship to work with his father? are you sure that you really want to have a child with this new guy or was he just there when you were feeling lonely and hurt? what ever you decide you need to consider how it is going to affect you son's life. Also, whatever you decide to do you need to do it quickly for everyone who's involved sakes.
2006-06-20 20:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
R u married? Congratulations! A baby is a blessing from God~come from unprotected sex~ a choice~try protected sex from now on until u r really settled. Also from unprotected sex comes std's and the aids virus~it's real people. Keep your bundle of joy and show God how grateful u r that u were blessed with a baby and not any of the other things. May God Bless and Keep you in his care. Learn to be independent and love yourself 1st of all. It's your life and your baby and you r the one who will have to give an account for your life. If you decide to get rid of the baby seek other options~many women weren't even blessed to have children. Seek Adoption~i was adopted. drop baby at the hospital or leave it there after birth someone will care for your baby. If noone else i will.
2006-06-20 20:17:05 · answer #6 · answered by misstree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it.. They will have a great relationship..being so close in age. Yea its going to be a lot of diapers, bottles and not much sleep..and this and that but you know what ..It goes by so fast... I have a two year old now and it just flew by I cant even remember those days. Then you have it all done...dont have to worry about wanting a brother or sister for your 5 month old...Keep IT..for sure...Its beautiful innocent baby waiting to be born..It wants to be here and it was meant to be.
2006-06-20 20:17:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You not your mother will have to live with the abortion for the rest of your life
That babies heart is beating right now
there are other options if you decide that another child is to much and many people out their unable to have children who would love yours
Do not let anyone make life changing choices for you .Do the right thing for you and your children.
You are the mother now.
2006-06-20 20:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not have an abortion that is like killing something before it even had a chance to fight back and plus it is your own child so that would be wrong, i mean it is your decision but i think you should keep the baby. You can also ask your mom if she would've killed you when you were born. Just do your best to be a good mom and it will be great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-20 20:13:55 · answer #9 · answered by alayna g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it isn't the greatest idea to have an abortion...there is so many people in the world that are willing to adopt babies now adays. There is many people who are willing to pay the mother to be to adopt that baby. I would be willing to and would love to find someone considering adoption. I would even drive the distance. If you would consider adoption you can get ahold of me. Babyieangel@aim.com.
2006-06-21 22:42:55 · answer #10 · answered by Jess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋