I haven't said I love you to my parents in 5 years. I want to but it seems the words are blocked from coming out of my mouth. I can say it in cards to them, e-mails, etc. but I can't say it. Any way for working towards saying it to them?
2006-06-20 19:52:23 · 28 answers · asked by Anna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
maybe you were hurt from your parents when you were young?
2006-07-04 09:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by rpcmrsz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously something stopped you from saying it all these years. I would try to think back and see if there was a reason you stopped. I know some children find it hard to say I love you. Its different though if they never did it and just say it in cards etc. You used to say it and stopped.
My older daughter was like that, she NEVER said love. Until I separated from my ex and her and I were apart. When we talked on the phone, before we said goodbye i would say Love you. So she did the same, and it has been like that since then.
I'm sure you are feeling bad about that, but I do think the answer lies within you.
2006-07-04 06:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by allyp51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from what I get, you find it hard to say because you've been hurt by someone that you told you loved them, or you're afraid that you will loose them if you say it. That's the way it has been with me, everyone that I have gotten close to and really cared about has either hurt me or something bad has happenned to them. I don't have trouble saying it to family, because I know that they really love me and it makes it easier. One way to overcome your problem is to get them to say it first, then say "I love you too." This is a way that I fixed it with myself.
Another thing that you can try is to think about a song by a group called DC Talk intitled "Love is a verb." This basically means that you don't just say you love them, you show them you do. Try this get up really early one Saturday morning, when you know they are both going to sleep in, and make them breakfast in bed. Be sure to go out and get 2 cards the day before, get flowers for your mom, and something nice for your dad. Write out how you feel in the cards, be sure the cards are differnt so they see that you pick each card out for them speciffically. But do it out of the blue (not for a special occasion), this will really suprise them, because it will be unexpceted. Bring the stuff in and give it to them, then leave the room without saying anything, after they eat and come out of their room, and ask you why you did it tell them "I did it because I love you."
2006-07-02 04:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by devastation 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just recently started telling my father I love him. It was hard for me because he never said it to me. I can only bring myself to say it on the phone. My advice is the next time your talking to them if it pops up in your head just let it flow out of your mouth without thinking about it. If you stop to think the words will be blocked again.
2006-06-30 19:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are afraid of saying it b/c somewhere in your life you have felt that the words were false or used carelessly. Maybe you haven't believed the phrase in your past?
So you associate it with insincerity. You are afraid if you say the words that you won't mean them.
Start working on it! It's hard for more people than you think.
2006-06-20 19:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actions speak louder then words, and every parent on this planet know that kids go thru this phase. i did it to when i was younger. i just couldnt get the words to come out of my mouth, but they knew i loved them, even if i didnt say it. if its something that you want to do, just start off slow. as long as you can write it, they will understand. some people just cannot speak what they feel inside, but have no problem writing it down. just write them a note sometime and explain to them that it is hard for you to speak the words, but you want them to know that you love them. they will understand.
2006-06-20 20:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by kantriella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they r ur parents girl. U dont need 2 find ways 2 say that u love them
sm wise person has said u shd say whatever is on ur mind so do that.
1 way
get up in the morning, go 2 dere room, hug them ,(close ur eyes if its difficult) n then say that u love them
bye
2006-06-20 19:57:51 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this I went through the same thing years ago and I started by as I was walking out the door where they couldnt see me I would say "love ya" it is shorten so it didn't seem as akward. Then I would tell them love ya on the phone once i got used to say love ya it was simple to say I Love You!
2006-06-20 20:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by shellshell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom i have no issue saying that, my dad however is another story. I can't physically get the words out. I think it is because of all that happened between me and my father. Even though he tried his hardest to be a father when i was growing up he wasn't good at it. Ever since i was 12 i have never said I love you to him. Even at his father's funeral.
2006-07-01 13:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by her_ziggyness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to say it...there may come a day that your parents will be gone (death happens with out a notice). You'll look back at your life and wish you had said it to them verbally.
Pick up that telephone and call them today and SAy I LOVE YOU to your folks!
2006-07-03 02:02:17 · answer #10 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anytime me and a family member hang up the phone, the last words out of our mouth are, "ok, bye, love you." Start out that way...It'll come to you easier after that...
2006-07-03 08:04:12 · answer #11 · answered by boriquababy529 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋